Is this Defamation of Character? Please Help

Hi Thank You for taking the time. An ex girlfriend of mine is planning
to
sue me for defamation of character/slander because she was able to read

messages (by using her ex-husband\'s passwords) to read messages that I
sent
from me to him telling him that his ex wife had cheated on him with me.
I
had mentioned that I told her to tell him the truth. Is this creditable
(the
messages) in court on her end? Also on my website I posted a bulletin
never
mentioning her name that (my ex girlfriend came to town and dumped me)
then
i mentioned that I was hurt. Never once mentioning her name. Is this
considered
wrong? Thank You. Also I created a webpage just for him to see and once again she found his password and saw 3 pictures (no nudity or bed pictures) of us and she claims this is slander on my part. Can anyone help??? Thank You.

[annjd]

It is not defamatory if it is true!!

Truth is an absolute defense to any such suit.

[hooritsuka17]

This isn't defamation of character you just wanted that person to know what kind of relationship that he was in. It seemed like you were just trying to help him. You didn't even say any names. You let him put it together by himself. SO pretty much you have nothing to worry about she's just mad that she got caught.