Why Husbands Cheat

[emebon]

Since I often write about getting over affairs and saving your marriage despite one, I'm asked very often "why cheating happens" or "why husbands cheat on their wives." Although every couple's situation (and therefore the answer to this question) will be different and individual, there are universal reasons that men are unfaithful which I will discuss. My goal for this article is that you will see yourself in one of the examples, understand why the affair happened, and use this information to help save your marriage (if that is your goal) and to help you in the healing process.

The Number One Reason Husbands / Men Cheat: Before I go into why husbands have extra marital affairs, I have to get this out of the way first. I have to disclose that while you may eventually intellectually understand why your husband cheated on you, your heart may have a hard time following your head. If you have been faithful even during difficult personal challenges, then it may be hard for you to understand why someone you trusted more than anyone in the world could not act in the same way. You are absolutely correct to feel this way, but try to (just for a little while) put these feelings aside initially as you are delving into the cause of the affair because understanding the reasons why it happened is vital to your healing.

The number one reason that husbands cheat is that they have poor impulse control during an unfortunate moment in time. (If the affair continues it's often because they don't know how to stop it or they figure they've already driven the car off the road, so since the damage is done why stop now? Also, many men get an emotional (yep, emotional, not physical) pay off from the affair.)

It may seem that I'm oversimplifying it, and I will go into some specific examples / contributing factors below. For now though, understand that most men would give their right arm to take back their actions. Unfortunately, they can't, even though their decision likely happened in the blink of an eye. They often think that no one will find out and be hurt. It's usually only when this turns out not to be true do they fully realize the devastating consequences in their actions. Below are some of the contributing factors that lead to this poor impulse control / decision making.

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Originally Posted by emebon Since I often write about getting over affairs and saving your marriage despite one, I'm asked very often "why cheating happens" or "why husbands cheat on their wives." Although every couple's situation (and therefore the answer to this question) will be different and individual, there are universal reasons that men are unfaithful which I will discuss. My goal for this article is that you will see yourself in one of the examples, understand why the affair happened, and use this information to help save your marriage (if that is your goal) and to help you in the healing process. The Number One Reason Husbands / Men Cheat: Before I go into why husbands have extra marital affairs, I have to get this out of the way first. I have to disclose that while you may eventually intellectually understand why your husband cheated on you, your heart may have a hard time following your head. If you have been faithful even during difficult personal challenges, then it may be hard for you to understand why someone you trusted more than anyone in the world could not act in the same way. You are absolutely correct to feel this way, but try to (just for a little while) put these feelings aside initially as you are delving into the cause of the affair because understanding the reasons why it happened is vital to your healing. The number one reason that husbands cheat is that they have poor impulse control during an unfortunate moment in time. (If the affair continues it's often because they don't know how to stop it or they figure they've already driven the car off the road, so since the damage is done why stop now? Also, many men get an emotional (yep, emotional, not physical) pay off from the affair.) It may seem that I'm oversimplifying it, and I will go into some specific examples / contributing factors below. For now though, understand that most men would give their right arm to take back their actions. Unfortunately, they can't, even though their decision likely happened in the blink of an eye. They often think that no one will find out and be hurt. It's usually only when this turns out not to be true do they fully realize the devastating consequences in their actions. Below are some of the contributing factors that lead to this poor impulse control / decision making. Please visit my site at: www.gethimbacktips.blogspot.com for details.

this is my response to the above statement

The reason why men cheat is because alot of them werent the right guy in the first place. Woman sometimes crap on the nice guys and go after the bad guys and when i say( bad guy )what i mean is that they are usually the ones that come off to be slick, cocky and have this swagger about them. Well some of those guys also have an issue with the excitement of chasing and meeting new women. Unfortunatlely many women dont realize this and become all spun out when the cant understand why this wonderful wild guy did what he did. Its because you did the chasing. Your suppose to let him chase YOU!! And by the way, if you thought you could change is wild ways - your wrong - what he'll do is suppress those issues and you will believe that its all gone and hes changed - your the one thats a fool -

Another reason why men cheat - is because some women are too controlling, they dont let their men do the things that he loved to do before you met him. (examples, go fishing, play softball, watch football and so on) when women take away a mans hobbies he becomes shelled and starts to ponder on what the hell did he do to get himself into this or he constantly thinks about (the good ol days) - Dont be to controlling - what will happen is that he will come across another woman who is more appealing to the things that he loves to do and shows interests in him for those reasons which in turns - brings back the excitment in his life that he was so long to be missing.

Another reason men cheat - some women tend to not care about themselves anymore - when that happnes / it comes to a point that your mans not going to care much for your either and you both become distant and short with one another. Dont let ur self go especially if your man is still into taking care of himself. this ones a gimmie - anyone and everyone should understand this logic. You have to keep the excitement and fun going - another word for relationship is work - its not hard work unless you think of it that way, It should easy for a man and women to work on their relationship. why???? Because your in love with each. its easy to work with someone you like than someone you cant stand.

Bottom line, some men will cheat because there idiots and dont think of the crap and pain its going to cause and some men cheat because the lady in their life Is a control freak who nags and is constantly negative about life, her looks and mainly about him.