Moving out at 14? -- South Carolina

[violettdayze]

ok so... I'm 14. my mother and I aren't exactly getting along, but that's a story for another time. admittedly, im a troublesome girl. my mother doesn't deserve to put up with me but i also don't deserve her rants and other various anger when i do somehting "wrong". Now, as the question proceeds... I am 14, and i would like to move out. if need be, i would continue going to school. Is there any way i could move out legally? I live in south carolina.
I have a place to go.
If it was needed i could get a job. (but that won't be nessecary im sure)
i need to know the requirements because, and i'll admit, even if it's not legal i will move out. but i want to do this as legal as possible.
thank you for any comments that may appear and taking your time to answer.
yours sincerely VD
(this is some what proper. o.o not my thing but as of now i assume it is...)

[AFFA]

I wish to inform you that you can move out of home at the age of 17 years. Your parents will still remain legally responsible for you till the age of 18 years. In South Carolina, you cannot move out of the home at the age of 14 years.

AFF

[Lexus]

In this you can’t move out before you reach age of majority, otherwise it will invite a lot of problems to you. At this age you need the security of your home and consider whatever your mother told is for your good.

[Friend In Court]

Someone once said that one should put their kids out at 14, when they know everything. They will be back by 15 a whole lot wiser! And appreciative of the home they have and their parents.

Of course, you may not move out on your own at 14. You cannot support yourself, would be easy prey for those who would prey upon young teens, like pimps and you could well end up in a situation far worse than anything you could imagine.

You are at the age when many girls have difficulty with their mother. Whether it's hormones, coming into young womanhood, or inborn streak of independence, it passes and you will get through this time -- if you TRY!

You admit you are 'troublesome.' Why not pack that attitude and behavior in and try to get along. Pick a time you can sit down with your mother and see what behavior she finds annoying and try to open communication with her about the things that set you off. Your mother who carried you for nine months, fed, diapered, nurtured, taught you, protected you probably loves you more than anyone ever will in your life. And she is and will be your mother forever. She can be your best friend, too.

But you need to repair your relationship and get it on a better footing that works for both of you. Your mother has your best interests at heart and wants you to grow up, safe, and successful. Have a heart to heart talk with her. It may turn out to be the thing that turns your relationship and life around.

[violettdayze]

thank you. but heres the thing. i don't really see my mother and when i do she is typically yelling at me. we used to be really close.
ok ok life story time.
august i tried to kill myself.
obviously didnt work.
and you may ask why i wanted to kill myself. i didnt.
but i had so many thoughts swimming around my head and it seemed appropriate at the time. it wasnt.
then i started getting myself into simple trouble that turned into delinquency.
getting a detention for something dumb. to... skipping smoking (cigerettes and weed {rarely do i smoke weed, i dont like to much. it doesnt effect me like cigerettes do})
well my point is, im scared of my mom, so what do i turn around and do, get into trouble. and everytime i get over myself and TRY to do better, something i had done before i started trying to get better pops up and mottles what little bit of composure i may have had over my life.
that being said i would always get into trouble things would come up i would get depressed and give up.
now i am determined to move out by my 16th birthday.
i can't deal with the things that go on at home and neither can my mom (as if shes ever there, she tends to avoid me nowadays, which in turn brings up more trouble.)
my mom has threatened to kick me out. but of course she cant do that yet. and i honestly want her to kick me out. if she kicks me out i have a plan. or at the very least an idea.
i could move in with my friend noel. (and her roommate)
or with my friend matt
once i move in with one of them i could get a job so i could pay rent.
and in turn i would be doing better. my mom wouldnt have to put up with me and id be happy.

[Friend In Court]

There is another option. Ask your mom point blank if she wants for the two of you to get along. Ask her point blank if she loves you and wants you to turn out o.k. Even better, be a credit to her.

It sounds as if you have had a very hard time, which I do not doubt. But there are other options for help to straighten out your living situation and relationship with your mom -- so you can live peaceably and productively at home -- until you complete your education and can support yourself.

What I recommend is that you contact your state's Child Protective Services and tell them your situation. There are resources in the state to help mediate between parent and child, get therapy and family counseling to resolve interaction between parent and child. To try to improve the relationship so both can live together, even happily.

For the forseeable future, only a good education will make it possible to you to support yourself. With the tough economic times we are going through, and it appears they may last maybe another five years, even people with a strong college degree are finding it hard to find a job. There's 1 job for every 4.5 qualified people who apply. What chance do you think someone with only an 8th grade or h.s. education has?

You know you are hurting yourself and that is the path to destruction. You have your whole life ahead of you and can make it what you want it to be. You can dream and fulfill those dreams. I know things look bleak now, but there is help is you reach out for it. Through your school counselor, through Children's Protective Services -- lots of people are out there to help you. And your mom, too. For she hasn't figured out yet how to approach you and communication is poor. That can be changed.

Reach out for help, as you have done in this forum for a legal answer. Reach out for help for you and your mother. And you can get it.

[violettdayze]

weve been in counseling since august.
it doesn't help.
i did try. im tired of trying.
im shutting down whether i like it or not. i dont really care one way or another. i prefer to be left alone. its just the way i am.

[Friend In Court]

Then you can be placed in another home which Child Protective Services is able to do. No one can survive without people in their life and you need someone to show they care about you. So you can begin liking and caring for yourself.

You have the power within you to be anyone you want to be in the years ahead. Doctor? Lawyer? Teacher? But you need an education and to stay a steady course.

You are at risk, and I think you know it. But you can change the living situation for there are other homes available if you just ask. Call CPS and tell them what you have told in the forum here and they should be able to help you find a more suitable home where you can get and stay on a steady, productive course and complete your education.

[violettdayze]

Why can't I just move out though? it seems reasonable to me. I'll be in a better enviroment. I'll be happier. and it just seems so much easier...
don't honestly understand why it's illegal and what's wrong with me doing it.