Please help. Unjustified harassment charge.

Hi. I am a resident of Pennsylvania and am looking for some legal advice. On Saturday morning I received a certified letter from a person claiming that I have harassed her and three other individuals. This person is now dating my ex-boyfriend and is using any attempt that she can to keep him away from me (she is 7.5 months pregnant and he has cheated on her with me several different times). It is my understanding that calling and texting anyone with the intent of having a conversation is not harassment. I definately take responsibility for calling and texting him (especially, and repeatedly when intoxicated) but usually I want to talk to him about some issue - including but not limited too malicious rumors, her hacking into my cell phone and myspace accounts, getting explanations for text messages he has sent me, and so forth. They say that this has been going on for more than a year, when he hasn't even known her for a year. I also didn't believe it was harassment when he texts/answers back. Also, I will only talk to him, so if someone else answered the phone I either asked for him, or hung up. I always had the intent of conversation. Also, he never once asked me to stop calling/texting. They also claim that on several occasions I have been asked to leave their property. I have been to one individuals apartment on one occasion because his roommate is a friend of a friend. He asked me to leave just because he has a dislike for me. I threw a fit, but did leave. Any attempt to have face to face contact with my ex is mutual. I have never shown up unannounced, or "stalked" him to make him talk to me. Either he has invited me to his apartment, or he knows I am on my way. If he asks me to leave, I do. If he asks me to stay outside, I do. I have never EVER threatened physical violence, although I have repeatedly recieved threats from this female and her agents. I have had to change my cell phone number six times. I have never been able to prove who the texts or calls come from because the number shows as "private" on my phone and bill. I just ignored it and chalked it up to immaturity. They say in the letter that they have contacted the police, but obviously the four of them are willing to make false accusations. As far as I know I have no open charges against me, I have never recieved official communication from a police department or law firm. I was told by one officer to ignore the letter until I get an official statement. I was told by another officer that this letter is the same as a restraining order, even though it was from a private individual. I understand not to contact them in any way or they will have grounds to press charges. I need to know my rights, and what the best form of action would be. I have more than enough evidence for slander/liabel/defamation civil charges, and evidentiary support through witnesses for kidnapping, false imprisionment, sexual assult, theft, and destruction of property. I have on more than one occasion known that this female has used my MySpace account as a portal to send my friends list letters that are full of slander and lies, and accusations that are unfounded. I also want to know what my blog postings are considered. I view them as my opinion of these individuals, but they are saying that anything I write "true or false" is slander, and if they are even mentioned in any new postings that charges will be filed. If anyone could help me I would appreciate it. I do not live in the same town that they do, and they do not know my current address (hence the letter was sent to my parents house, after they used myspace to stalk my wherabouts, and make sure that the letter was received when I was going to be in town), but my current address is my official adress with any state department and credit reports. I don't have a lot of money, and I would like to be able to handle this without an attorney, but if I have to I will find a low cost attorney to help. Thanks for the help.

That does not seem criminal to us...but don't contact further.

Have the police contacted you?

I don't plan on contacting them any further. I have gathered all my information together in case I am contacted by police, or a lawyer, but as of yet I haven't heard anything. As far as I know nothing more has been sent to my parents house. Also, I have gathered everything I can and I feel as though I have a very supported slander, defamation, and libel per se, against this female. I also can contact my ex's place of employment to get a copy of the letter that was sent to me by someone he works with (I don't know this kid, and he is making assumptions based on stories from the jealous female) the fourth person involved is a friend of 20 years that I let go because of this situation. We stopped speaking in January of 2007.Based on my cell records there are two instances (Feb 2007 and March 2007) that could be contrued as harassment, but in my defense my intent was a conversation, I was highly intoxicated, and my phone does not tell you how many times a number is called, just that that number was called and what time the last call was made. I don't remember making the calls, but my cell records indicate that they were made...I am also not sure that I made all the calls, but I know that both incidents were provoked by the female and her slander. The basic gist of this story is that my ex and I still have feelings for one another and want to be together, but since the jealous female is 7.5 months pregnant, he has done what his Mormon family has forced him to do - which is be in a relationship with her. (They found out she was pregnant in February of 2007, and ever since then, every time he and I have contact she freaks out and starts saying that I am harassing him. The last time he and I were together was May 12, 2007, and he didn't start a relationship with her until June 23, 2007). She has stolen my property before, forced me into vehicles to keep me from seeing him when I was still with him, she has called my cellular provider knowing my personal information to get my newer cell phone number (she works for another provider and knew my security code, and told my provider that I was switching to her, but my provider couldn't prove which agent had called) and caused me to crash my car. They say that I am a threat to their safety and their "future children's" safety, but they are both twice my size, and I have never EVER threatened them, although there have been occasions where she has threatened to kill me while I was on the phone talking to him. I am afraid for my safety when I go to my hometown (where they all live) but I am confident that they do not know my new address or home and cell phone numbers. I also know that whenever she is out of the picture he calls and texts me, and if I am in town he will come and talk to me...If that is the case, can she have me arrested to violating this "letter", even if he is the one who initiates the conversation.

No she cannot, but frankly it may be best to just to avoid all of them and the problems this is creating. not easy i know, but better it would seem here.

I would suggest that you stop drunk-dialing him, refrain from ****ing someone else's boyfriend, and stop complaining about her "slander" when you're doing just as much to make her miserable as she is to you, if not more. Her harrassment charge against you is only as justified as your complaints about her.

As far as legal advice, I'd say wait until the injunction goes through against you and then show up at their doorstep with a Glock. Six months in prison might do you some good.

I didn't realize that lewdness was allowed in an open Law Based forum. No wonder the person above didn't write their name. Obviously, this kid still have feelings for the girl, and as obviously stated above - this girl was the victim - the other girl, to quote the above "f*cked her boyfriend" and managed to get pregnant. The letter isn't legally binding if its not signed by a judge. Keep seeing him, evenually he'll leave her since its obvious he's only with her for the child. You are the better person. No matter what the idiot above me had to say. I wish that thread could be removed. That person should definately be reported to someone.

Originally Posted by Unregistered

I would suggest that you stop drunk-dialing him, refrain from ****ing someone else's boyfriend, and stop complaining about her "slander" when you're doing just as much to make her miserable as she is to you, if not more. Her harrassment charge against you is only as justified as your complaints about her.

As far as legal advice, I'd say wait until the injunction goes through against you and then show up at their doorstep with a Glock. Six months in prison might do you some good.

Is there a way to get this deleted. This is not a fair reply, unless the poster knows the person with the original thread and complaint, in which case, the original poster has a very strong, and solid case.