Oregon - Complications with School Financial Aid

I'm really not sure where to post this, but I have a problem that needs immediate attention and I'm wondering if this is something I should pursue and not take it lying down.

Scenario: I was planning on getting married in the next couple days with my boyfriend so I could change my financial status from dependent (even though I live on my own and pay my own bills... ridiculous) to independent.

My mistake: So I sent an email to the financial aid department of my college and told them I was already married. I wanted to get the paperwork moving, and I regret wording it like this now.

She responded and told me it could not change within the 2010-2011 school year, and wouldn't take effect till next year. I said 'okay', and decided to hold of the marriage for a bit. A few days later I get a response from the Director of Financial Aid telling me that since I am married, I can no longer benefit from the Tuition Exchange program, even FOR THIS TERM THAT HAS ALREADY STARTED. (as a dependent of my father who works at another independent college, I get free tuition) I hastily replied and said I worded it badly and I was not married YET, and with this news I would not be getting married for a while. I said I had wanted to get the paperwork started.

To clarify: I AM NOT MARRIED!

She responded and said she was going to have to go by my original statement unless I could PROVE I was not married, and even said in the email that she had no idea how I was going to do that.

I realize I should not have said I was married in the beginning, I regret that now.

My Questions:

1.) How come they can't change my financial aid status to independent in the middle of the year, but somehow they are capable of changing me to independent status regarding the tuition waver in the middle of the term?

2.) How am I supposed to prove a negative? Get an affidavit and get it signed with money I don't have?

3.) Shouldn't they have required paperwork to prove that I am married in the FIRST place? Like I dunno, show them court documents? But instead they decided they agree with the fact that I am married with no proof, yet do not accept the fact that I am not married because I have no proof.

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I KNOW I started this whole thing by not asking 'if I got married', but the way they are handling it sounds REALLY fishy. This isn't the first time I've had problems with this department... some of it feels like prejudice. They have lost my paperwork repeatedly, claimed to have not received information like my MPN when I went and looked on the government website and saw that I had completed it. When I pasted this screenshot in an email, they never responded. Last summer they lost paperwork and TOLD ME it was their error, and I had to wait an extra week to get my aid. Almost every single quarter something has gone wrong, like they don't want to give me aid they are supposed to give me.

I think they are just mad that I call them on their crap.

-- Also, my school sends out financial aid 3 weeks after the term starts. So to even get my books I have already have money to order on Amazon or wait 3 weeks, or get a book voucher with my financial aid and pay 200 dollars a book to order through their bookstore. It's frickin' thievery. I'm very poor, so I don't have the money to buy my books early.

You can get a court to sign a ruling that says you are not married.

I would guess they know you lied and just want to be a problem to you now...