J-1 visa, 2 year rule

Hello,
I got married to the USA citizen while I was in the US on a J-1 visa in 2005. I was subject to the 2 year rule and filed out paperwork to apply for the waiver and at the same time my husband filed out paperwork for me and i
applied for the adjustment of status in the US. The waiver was not granted and my petition was denied.I left the USA in October 2005 while the paperwork was still in progress to stay in my home country but i came back
twice for fingerprinting and the interview.

My question is:
1) How does the USCIS calculate the 2 years that I have to live in my country of residency? Do my short visits count as my being in the States? What proof do I need to submit to show that I did stay inmy home country (if any)?
2) When do we (my husband and I) resume the process and what do we need to do?

Thank you for your answer.

Your time in the US does not count toward the two-year requirement. You should keep documentation of your trips to the US, such as airplane tickets and, of course, copies of entry and exit stamps in your passport, in order to establish the precise dates you were here.