My ex, a potential father of my child, wants full parental rights

Here is the situation

I am 19 and am 3 ½ months pregnant. My ex, a potential father of my child, has not been helping with any medical bills or any other expenses so far. He wants full rights, and I do not see him stepping up and being a good father, financially or emotionally. After the baby is born I am moving several hours away, with my new spouse, who is wanting to take full legal responsibility of the child. If I do not put my ex on the birth certificate will he have any legal rights, I do not want to pay for a paternity test for the simple fact i am swamped with medical bills and do not even want him a part of my life or part of the childs.

can anyone give LEGAL advice or help me out with this situation, my email is heather.robertson@sgwealth.com

he can force a DNA test and if he is the father he will have some visitation rights--and child support obligations.

Originally Posted by Unregistered Here is the situation I am 19 and am 3 ½ months pregnant. My ex, a potential father of my child, has not been helping with any medical bills or any other expenses so far. He wants full rights, and I do not see him stepping up and being a good father, financially or emotionally. After the baby is born I am moving several hours away, with my new spouse, who is wanting to take full legal responsibility of the child. If I do not put my ex on the birth certificate will he have any legal rights, I do not want to pay for a paternity test for the simple fact i am swamped with medical bills and do not even want him a part of my life or part of the childs. can anyone give LEGAL advice or help me out with this situation, my email is heather.robertson@sgwealth.com

if your ex is the father, he will have as many rights as you, and will have the rights to file for custody/vistation. and your spouse will have no rights at all. you dont get to decide your ex is not going to be part of the child's life if he is the father.you chose to lay down and concieve a child with him, now you will be dealing with him for 18 years if he is the father, like it or not. and btw, dont even think of putting your spouses name on the bc, you both know he is not the father, and youll be committing the crime of fraud.

I have the exact same issue.

Interesting.

Originally Posted by Unregistered do not even want him a part of my life or part of the childs.

then you should have thought of this BEFORE you laid down and concieved this child with him. like it or not, if he is the father,and if he chooses, he WILL be part of your childs life for the next 18 years. and unless you can prove he is a danger to your child, theres nothing you can do about it.

Aren't you putting the cart before the horse if you are not even sure of his paternity of the child? You mention that, only being 3 1/2 months pregnant, you already have a new spouse. He should be providing the assistance you believe some guy who may or may not be the father should be providing.

If he believes he is the father, and wants to be a part of his child's life, he can ask the court to order a paternity test. If he is proven to be the father, he can exercise his right to file for custody of the child, or be granted joint custody and visitation.

If it hasn't even been established whether or not he is, indeed, the child's father, he is under no obligation to help you financially, so not sure why you're upset about that.

If he chooses to obtain a judgment from the court, ordering you to submit your baby to a paternity test, you will have no choice but to abide by the court ruling.

Don't put him on the birth certificate and keep proof of all expenses. If you feel he isn't going to be a good father and you have a nice man in your life, keep documentation of all issues concerning you about this person.
I have a 10 year old daughter and to the poster who is so nasty about laying down with the man and thus your punishment, I was not permiscuous and had holes poked in the condem to get me pregnant by future father. Shame on me for not knowing of such evildoers. I will say this has been the hell of my life and he ended up threatening to kill us and had mental disorders. He was very charming and cunning but this was hidden from me by his family members as they hoped (probably he would finally not be a problem to them) this would change his ways. Sex before marriage happens.
I commend you for taking responsibility of your actions as it was your right to have an abortion. I feel this country has gotten away from protecting the right doing people and WAY too focussed on what rights people have. It is destroying my beautiful little girl and she didn't deserve this. Until this changes we mothers (or fathers taking responsibility) are at risk. I am horrified with what I have learned in our family courts and I must say my neighbors, business associates, friends, family are in disbelief.
Do the right thing and if there is malintent on the part of the possible bio father, keep records (may not help) but do it anyway. Make a good life and save a lot of money. Children are being sacrificed in this system and not just mine. I am working diligently to figure out if I can help others in the future.
Teach your children about the realities of our system. It is no longer just about taking responsibility, as some ugly people are just that.
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im also in that dillema but i do know who the father of my child is..

am a 20 years old and 6 mnths pregnant, the father of my child n i have not been on good terms. Through out the pregnancy he has been sending abusive emails and messages he also has not been present nor supportive and has caused alot of stress knowing it could cause harm to the baby's health. He seems to be confused in what he wants one minute saying he doesnt want a part in it and the next he does, i also feel that he is doing it because of pressure from his family to take part in the baby's life, in conclusion he has chosen to want to take custody of my child. He is knee deep in debt and i believe he is also taking part in illegal activities. I fear for my baby's life and do not want him apart of it what so ever, i need some legal advice on how i might go about in doing so.

I know how u feel in the disposition he has put u through