Stay at Home Mom

I have been a stay at home mom for 5 years in a 10 year marriage with 2 children, age 3 and age 5. I am going to file for divorce. Some say that I should not get a job now because it could affect the amount of support and alimony I will get. I am hoping to keep the house, but would the judge order that I can keep the house even if I don't have a job that would cover the cost of the mortgage after the divorce? Or would the judge only allow me to keep the house if the alimony and child support ordered can cover the mortgage and household costs? Am i setting myself up if I don't start looking for a job now?

You cannot be sure what the judge will do so you should have all options covered. But at least he will likely order some support until you can get going again. good luck!

How about you get off your lazy but and go get a job. why should he have to pay you enough to pay your mortgage???? I dont understand you woman who think these guys owe you something. Get a JOB. Do something to support yourself instead of sponging off the men all the time. It is dispicable. I wish they would change the laws for divorce and child support and alimony. Its rif=diculous that a man should have to support you after your divorced.

Hey unregistered,

that's an awfully black and white way of looking at it. Many men are able to succeed in careers BECAUSE they have stay at home wives who take care of every OTHER area of their lives including the full-time job of attending to the every need of THEIR children!

[crazylette05]

I agree with marge..I'm not saying you shouldnt get a job i mean obviously you have to be able to live..but as far as it being considered as being lazy to stay home with the kids,no its not..I am a stay at home mom, my fiance asked me not to work b/c there are so many freaks and sexual predators out there you cant trust no one with your kids..So i think its great you have stayed home with them,but i dont know if you will get enough to make it without working at least part time..maybe just like 15-20 hrs/week would help..And it will depend on the type of judge you get..if you get someone who thinks like the dude above your screwed but most will understand where you are coming from..good luck to you.

On the house it all depends. If your husband is loaded the judge could order him to pay up too a set time frame. That should give you enough time to buy his half of the house and you get the financing in your name and you make payments on your house. If you don't agree to that, you all can sell the house and split the proceeds. Like I said if he is loaded the don't work but if he's not then look for a job. The money you get from here might cover the babysitter fees. Good luck