[PA] Protection From Abuse

State: Pennsylvania

About a year ago, my ex (and her mother, who was her guardian at the time) filed a PFA against me. My attorney let us talk briefly, and she said she was sure it was what she wanted, and I consented to the PFA.

About a month ago, she has been trying to call me, and telling me how it wasn't her fault, and how she has a new guardian, and wants to talk. She'd made it clear she realizes that the abuse never took place, but when she attempted to do so, on her own, in court, she was denied, the judge basically saying "I put the PFA in affect, and it's not going anywhere.".

Is there anything that can be done, on my side, or that can be recommended to her, that can be done to drop this PFA? I feel really sorry for her, since she can't do what she wants, and don't want to see her much more upset, because she felt guilty about being forced into signing a PFA [via blackmail, it seems] in the first place...

One really doesn't have much choice but to "consent" to these types of orders. It wouldn't have mattered if you hadn't.

But, aside from that, her calling you is defying the court order. She is not to contact you in any way. She is putting you at risk of going to jail. You can be arrested for this you realize?

The judge was angry that his ruling was mocked. These judges are now becoming aware of how much they are used in the cases of vindictive ex's, and because he made the ruling, he's going to see it out.

The only thing to do is wait for the time period of the PFA order to run out. Keep in mind that she was sure she wanted to bring this action upon you, thereby hurting your record for pretty much life. It's there now, and you will have a difficult time in life because of it. I'd think twice about feeling sorry for someone who has deliberately put you in such a position.

The best advice is to get her completely out of your life, stay a far away from her as possible, and don't allow yourself to feel sorry for her in any way. She made her bed, now she has to lie in it.

Yeah.
Sorry.
I know it's wrong to talk back when she calls.

It's just my feelings for her haven't changed once in this whole situation...
Plus it is partially my fault she is in the situation she is in... So I just want to make sure she makes it out all right, is all...

Basically, a year ago, my lawyer advised that I consent.

Now, the situation changes slightly. My ex is on her own, and says she was blackmailed into thinking she'd be arrested or lose her child if she didn't vouch for the PFA against me. However, the judge won't let her petition to have it removed, so I was wondering if it is possible to appeal it on my end, and force an investigation into the lack of abuse.

Though I consented, not confessing to the allegations of abuse, these charges have been held against me for the past year, including with child visitation. If I knew it would be held against me, I'd have challenged it back then.

So... that's as it stands now. I am just trying to figure stuff out.