Brother-in-Law vs Brother-in-Law

[Military273]

Hello everyone, I would like to first introduce myself and say a little about myself before I report my case... Well not "case" per say but an issue that one wishes to make into a suit.

My name is Jarred, I’m 20 years old, extremely stubborn yet I'm easy to compromise with, used to have one heck of a temper, don't like to stand down or back away, prefer to help others before myself, I’m a big reader and have huge vigor to learn new things every day, all day. I'm big into computers, would say my profession would be IT work if anything which is what I know most about. Just got out of a 7 year Foremen job from a Landscape company, planning on moving to the IT field FULL TIME now. Not much different than any other 20year old. I live in Ohio and not going to lie... I like Ohio a lot, great state. I'm a very ZERO NEGATIVE PERSON I know negativity never solves anything and only causes more problems. I really don’t like controversy and really try to avoid it if possible. My earlier years, id be the kid that would never hit first in a fight... but would fight if got hit... but TODAY if I was hit first, I wouldn’t fight back... I'd only try to "contain" the attacker instead try to cause harm to them. I believe no one deserves to be harmed in anyway even if they deserve it for any reason. But that’s me long story short.

So here is my issue that has just recently "arisen”...

April 1st 2009.
This was a bad day for me... I was in the middle of doing my taxes, and as everyone knows this can be a very frustrating thing if you have never done it yourself. I don’t have the money to pay someone to do it, and like I said I love to read and learn new things, so I figure "what the hell" I’ll just get the info I need to teach myself how to file my own taxes.

I talked with an account for five hours on the phone (good friend of mine) and he pretty much gave me a HUGE overview and what to do and what to expect. I was filing a 1099 and I’m sure some of you know how frustrating those can be when you don't have many deductions. To explain really fast... I have to file 3 forms...one form is 2 pages... and it has a 95page instruction BOOK!!!! Others are 1 page and they also have a 95page book on instruction to fill them out correctly. Granted a lot is repeated so it’s about id say... 175pages of actual instructions just to fill out 4 pieces of paper, not to mention "you have to have a doctorate to understand them".

So after a few days of reading, reading, reading April 1st came around and this is when I really was getting upset and so confused... asked whoever I could ask for help. No threat or anything just explained how frustrated I was getting and what not and they understood...

So all while I’m doing this research and what not, I just got so angry with the uSA Gov't for making it so complicated for no reason. I mean who HASNT been upset with the uSA Gov't...So I figured I was just at the point just like almost everyone else. I figured it has to happen to everyone at some point in their life.

So of course me... having learned to control my temper over the years, just HAD to post a little "rant" about the uSA Gov't and how much I hated it "AT THAT MOMENT" on FACEBOOK. Hate is a strong word indeed but it’s only at the bottom of so many other HATEFUL meaning words out there, ex: loath.

Posted a few dirty words and expressive language in my COMMENT area on FACEBOOK that everyone else sees. This was only posted for id say only 10mins... before someone else commented about it. First it was a kid from my high school, I didn’t care what he said at all, I was upset at that time and it was ok.

BUT....Then comes my brother-in-law, we've always "butted heads" but in an ok way, has the nerve to "*****"(mind my French) me out, and lastly suggests that I kill myself like...Kurt Kobain...

Quote (brother-in-law) - “You want out, I will drive you if need be. Mexico or Canada. You can no longer own or buy guns since you renounce you citizenship. Many people died for this country. Real easy, make like Curt Kobain and suck on a shotgun"

Mind you I made No such claim against HIM PERSONALLY... I was talking about the uSA in my comment while ranting and that is all. I did not attack him as a person or individual.

I understand that people that are patriotic and what not would be offended by my comments I posted about the uSA BUT there was NO single word that included HIM (my brother-in-law) as the person or object that I was objecting to.

SO, me already being heated up and frustrated about my taxes just let loose on him... and boy, do I mean LET LOOSE!!! Maxed posts after that I posted another ...4-5 "*****ing HIM out" yelling at him, telling him how horrible he was, what a bad father he is, how lazy and how he rubs EVERYONE the wrong way, explaining how all he does is "work the system" yet he claims to be so patriotic.

Everything I mentioned about him WAS TRUTH and my entire family can back it, and people outside my family can back that. Yes, I really, really let loose on him to where I was the most immature being on this planet. But, he pretty much attacked me while I was backed into a corner, and its only "HUMAN/ANIMAL" instinct to fight back and resist.




Here is a little back ground info on my brother-in-law, (acronym I’m going to use from now on "BiL"

His name is Ned and I want to say he’s...34yrs old, my sister and he have been "together" for 11 years, married for 5. Reason of marriage...my sister got pregnant. They have a 5 year old son that is absolutely AWESOME, such a funny little guy hehe, he and I wrestle all the time and what not and I love to "scare him" and say the Mo-Man is gonna get him if he doesn't behave, Ned doesn't interact or discipline at at all. Ned was in the air force for ...3 years I think... I really don’t believe he did a full term but I could be wrong on this. He "hurt" his knee while in service and now works for the VA, Veterans Association. He is on "disability" because of his "knee injury" that he acquired while "serving his country". For some months now, but not sure if he is anymore, but he was at home NOT AT ALL WORKING AT THE VA getting FULL PAY, FULL BENEFITS just sitting at home. He's a gun collector and mister BIG patriotic. He has threatened me and pointed loaded ASSAULT RIFLES in my face many time. He goes DUCK HUNTING yearly with "MY" friend. Those that know anything about DUCK HUNTING it required you to "CARRY" a boat sometimes long distances which he DOES.

Now correct me if I’m wrong, but isn’t someone that is on disability not ALLOWED to do those kind of activities? Especially since carrying a BOAT requires 100% use of your knees, and that is his reason for disability. Some patriot right?

Ok, more about my BiL, when my nephew was born he would do nothing to help my sister with THEIR new child, didn’t want to change diapers, didn’t want to watch him, DIDN'T WATCH HIM when he was the only one in the room with his own son, and when my sister went on vacation for a week, in 2007, nephew was ...4yrs old, my BiL took him to a baby sitter for that entire week.

I’m sorry, I don’t know much about it, but isn’t that neglecting his child, and isn’t that illegal?

I have another buddy that was in the Marines for ...4 years, and when he came back, my BiL talked to him, and told him how he can be able to look for ways to get him some disability if not FULL disability. Now there is NOTHING wrong with my buddy that came back from the Marines. As far as my knowledge my buddy didn’t take his offer because he didn’t want to be like him (my BiL)




Ok so that’s some background on my brother-in-law...and it’s all truth, many people can back me on it and NONE of it is SLANDER, sadly that is only a small piece of the pie.

So back to my "case" with the ranting on FACEBOOK... because of my actions against him when he provoked me my BiL is now LEAVING my sister...and threatened her with divorce. As horrible as it is, personally I know my sister can do way better and deserves someone way better. But, still I feel a little bad that such a dispute between brother-in-laws is causing my sister pain when my sister had nothing to do with any of it and it was strictly between NED and MYSELF but he now has dragged my sister into this, and HAS NOT ONCE thought about his own son and how it’s going to impact HIM if my sister and HIM do end up separating.

Also, my BiL threatened me to file a suit against me for SLANDER over the things on FACEBOOK...which kind of made me laughed because not one thing is a lie, and he used the wrong word, which the correct word is LIBEL not SLANDER, since it’s over a mass media interface and can reach hundreds in seconds. I’d think he would know this working for the VA and being such a master mind of working the system that he so dearly loves and defends.




-So what do you guys think about this?
-Where do I stand?
-Where does my sister stand?
-Where does my BiL stand?
-Isn't this more of a straight forward DOMESTIC DISPUTE...?
-If he truly has the nerve to take myself to court what are some key
things I should research and pay attention to?
-If he truly does sue my sister and file for divorce how can I help support her
case to make it CERTAIN that he doesn't receive custody over their child?


To my knowledge personally... I think this whole thing makes him look at fault completely but I’d really, really love to hear some other opinions on this issue.

He threatened my sister and told her to get a lawyer because of a dispute he has with me.... Kind of makes no sense to attack my sister for something she had nothing to do with. The most that was said about my sister is... and I quote myself,

I'll add some extra to show my...umm... at the moment lack of intelligent verbiage so to speak.

QUOTE
"you act like your so god dam patriotic.. well your ****ing brain is wired with LAZY!!!! your no vet.. all you do it work the system and cry that your leg hurts.. God dam it i wish my sister left you when i told her to.. **** you ned.. you know i WAS the only ONE person on this family that didnt have a problem with you.."



THANK YOU EVERYONE SO MUCH FOR READING AND I REALLY TRULY APPRECIATE EVERYONE THAT SPENDS TO TIME TO LOOK OVER MY ISSUE.

THANK YOU SO MUCH AGAIN.

It is not likely any court will let this all proceed as a libel or slander case,
but frankly you should remove inflammatory material and compromise and family disputes should be blast all over the web as general matter.

This should all wind down but you also need to take some steps.

[Military273]

oh yes of course.. by far i have already taken my measures and have compromised as so. Everything was removed THAT DAY, probably within 20mins of posting...

first of all you need to grow up. 2nd of all there is no way your brother in law is leaving your sister because of soemthing on face book or what ever it was. He sounds like a real winner and he probably has wanted out of the marriage for a long time and is using you as the scapegoat. hes probably cheating on her and didnt want to tell her for fear of repercussions. Your sister will probably be better off.

I have a situation that may be out of my control. I leave it in God's hands, because there's really nothing I can do right now. My sister lives about four states south of me, and that is probably a good thing, for her husband that is...

I'm a father of two awesome boys, and have been given full custody by my former wife. I'm not going to go there about that situation, because this could take years. I can say that the recent news that my sister is leaving her husband, is a bit sad, but not un-expected. You see, her husband is a total a-hole. The whole time they were married, he would belittle her, and bully her to the point of, well, abuse. That's how I see it anyway.

So the problem now is that she finally worked up the confidence to tell him about her decision to leave, and he goes upstairs and gets a gun. I do believe that threatening someone with a deadly weapon is a crime, the last time I looked. I hope the police can put this arrogant bastard in a cell for a few days, where he can see what it feels like to be someone's *****.

Sorry...had to say that..

Andy