Baby's last name

[tbyte]

Welcome to the forums, huffamuse.
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[huffamuse]

After paternity is established, can the baby's last name be changed to mine, or is that something I'm going to have to live with?

[loved08]

As I personally am going through this right now huffamuse; trust me it might be something you're going to have to live with. I named my daughter after me (last name; bc unlike you her father WAS NOT there to sign anything..or for a LONG time after...2 years to be exact.) Then he did a paternity test; without telling me (i had no problem w/ this & asked him to for 2 yrs to prove it to HIM)...then he files for split custody. ha. yea right. after not being there for 2 years the judge wasn't so inclined to award him anything. he got temp. visitation rights; our final court date isn't for awhile. so now we have a court appt. guardian ad litem...which hopefully will be taken off too. i don't need someone to tell me my daughter is in the right place. if the judge couldn't tell that; well...lol. i don't think the judge could see much. he seemed drunk (NOT kidding) & very male-cheuvanist pig...seriously. && I don't say that much. this guy was a real ass. anyways so if you're planning to fight the good fight. you need to document everything. legally (not sure where you are) in S.C. you don't have to "warn" the other party you're going to tape them in convo. for family court (which of course will be where you are petitioning your rights). so good luck. this could be tricky. if you are trying though (which you obviously are) i would say she'll get your last name. There are also a few issues that you need to seriously hire a lawyer for. also- you need to file RIGHT NOW. it will only help if they see you did it now instead of waiting bc then they'll ask "why did you wait if you were so concerned?"...which will be worse than too early.

[huffamuse]

I am in NC and she is in SC. recording conversation isn't relevant because she won't talk to me. I can't hire a lawyer right now to do anything because I have been out of work for 5 weeks. I start a new job next week, so as soon as I have the money I will file.

[tbyte]

Without the mother's consent, the baby will not be given your last name after it is born. After that, changing the child's name would require consent of both parents.
When it comes down to it, there simply is no law that states a child must have its father's last name.
You would be better off focusing your time and money on more important issues anyway.

[Postman]

Well at the risk of another tirade, my design in the 1st place to get the cyber mad dogs (gender specific) to poke their heads up.

If your name is on the birth certificate, your child will suffer no impediment when filing for Social Security on your record, otherwise he/she will.

DO NOT take my word, or for that matter anyone else's. Dont pay $10.

Go to your local Social Security Office and ask, IT'S FREE!

Happy 4th BUCKLE UP! and Drive safe

[huffamuse]

Originally Posted by Postman

If your name is on the birth certificate, your child will suffer no impediment when filing for Social Security on your record, otherwise he/she will.

I'm not real sure what exactly this means.

[Postman]

go to the office, they will explain.

[tbyte]

Nobody is stating that his name cannot be on the birth certificate, or should not be on the birth certificate. All I am saying is that without the mother's consent, he will need to go to court to get his name on the certificate. It is part of establishing paternity.

[loved08]

it is part of establishing paternity & since (again...) i'm in sc and so is she; please take my word on this as I (again) am going through this exact process.

EVEN if you go the hospital & try to sign the paperwork..you WILL be escorted out!!! even if you're the "father"...SHE is the mother HAVING the child. IT IS UP TO HER FOR YOU TO SIGN ANYTHING.
ALSO...it is going to be hard for you to sign anything EVEN WITH a paternity test. MY EX HAS A POSITIVE PATERNITY TEST IN EVIDENCE & STILL HAS NO RIGHT TO SIGN HER BIRTH CERTIFICATE BECAUSE HE WASN'T THERE TO SIGN IT TO BEGIN WITH & IF WE CHANGE THAT WE HAVE TO CHANGE EVERYTHING ELSE W/ HER NAME ATTATCHED TO IT. THIS WOULD CAUSE *ME* A GREAT DEAL OF A MESS.
Every doctor visit, hospital, bills, insurance, past records of ANY kind will have to be changed to include him. The court will have to go through a HUGE deal of mess to have me change this, which their not so inclined to more work. This i know personally. It's not that hard to understand. i know you need a lawyer. I had issues waiting to get one too. you can find one for $1000 for a retainer. just because they don't have a TON of cases or even if they do; that doesn't mean their not a good lawyer. a good lawyer fights tooth and nail for their client. regardless. there are tons of lawyers willing to work w/ you on payments too. i paid mine $1000 up front and the rest when i had it. payments basically. she's good though. pretty expensive. she's like right down from the court house. but i needed a good one; he tried to screw me instead of just getting rights. still trying to. toooo bad he's 2 yrs. 2 late.

so if you get a **free** consultation (it is FREE you NEEEEED to do this NOW) then you will have an idea where you're going and how much time you have, & how much it will cost you. call a lawyer. it's free.

&& as for you "postman" since you obviously are a PIG in every sense of the word...you can shove your pigness somewhere it matters. you did get my attention bc its ppl like you who think you can just FORCE the world & the ppl in it to do what you want...think again. that's why we have courts.

HAPPY 4TH