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[Postman]

Forgive me there was one exception

That bastard was born in a manger

and I submit my soul to him

I have stepped up, I've probably done more than I should have. After we split up I continued to pay her bills, mortgage, phone, gas, electric, and the doctor bills that insurance didn't cover. I lost my job and couldn't afford to pay her bills anymore, so she won't talk to me now. So I can't show up at the hospital, because I won't know exactly when he is born. Another issue is he will be born with a cleft lip and cleft palate, and will need surgey as early as 3 months. I don't know if it's best to go through a bunch of court stuff while we are dealing with these surgeries.

[Postman]

Apparently your decision is made and hopefully your next child will have a better father than your first.

Maybe you misunderstood my last post. I was in no way saying that I was not going to be a father to him. I am going to be there, and do whatever I have to do to make sure he has everything he needs. My point was I don't know if it is best to fight with her in court while we are dealing with the surgeries.

[loved08]

wow are you serious?? lmao. halarious. ok..1st of all you need to get a little recorder & record ur convos. talk about the baby, payment of bills, etc. whatever u can get. try to remember (especially if this is her 1st child) she is nervous. Since you've already mentioned the cleft lip & palate (how do you know this?) What do you think is going through her head? She's probably blaming herself in some way that her child is already having problems, etc. Right now she is unmarried, unsure (of herself, her world, & most imp. her baby) and unconvinced that you are going to be a good daddy. for whatever reason, this is obviously her path of thinking. prove it to her. dont' be there for her. be there for the baby. dr. appt.s find out about the surgeries and give her the print outs w/ info. on them. anything you can do to show you're sticking w/ this no matter how far she tries to push you.
also. no (dumbass-"postman") you cannot just "show up". this is ignorant to think as well. sadly you might miss the birth of your child if she continues to be this way. but...if you go ahead and file the paternity papers (w/ a lawyer perferably)...the baby will be tested asap and you can have visitation right away. don't take no for an answer and tell her she has no choice. you can do it nicely or go to court. she has NO choice.
Postman...you *******. how dare you call JESUS a "bastard". you are. you have no respect (obviously) to ANYONE. If that is YOUR religious opinion..which doesn't count for much btw...then keep it to your dam self. this is NOT the place. when you burn in hell...write me a letter.
&&...this guy is doing a decent job. it sounds like YOU would like the world to bow to your feet; which is NEVER going to happen. you need to wake up and realize you can't make people do things. ESPECIALLY if you just "show up". idiot.

This is her second child. She has no reason to think I won't be a good father or that I won't be there. She dumped me, I did not walk out on her. I have been to all the ultrasounds. I can't make it to the Dr. appointments because I live 3 hours away, and she doesn't want me there. So far as the cleft, we have both looked into it extensively, and have already chosen a surgeon. We found out about the cleft at the ultrasound about 2 months ago.

Can I file the paternity papers before he is born?

[tbyte]

Postman, what would happen, were he to show up at the hospital and demand to sign the birth certificate, is that the hospital would have their security quickly escort him out of the building.

Unregistered (perhaps you should get registered, 'cause you are going to need a lot of help),
Yes, you can file a motion before the court stating that you believe yourself to be the father of the unborn child of the mother.

How will getting registered help me?

[huffamuse]

ok, I am registered now

[loved08]

AWWW there's our little tbyte helping others again. see "angel.." he's right. again. first of all huff...he really is. you need to get a lawyer. file the papers. NOW. good for you that you've been. this shows you are trying to do your part. write down all the dates you went to and when she stopped letting you,e tc. all the things the dr. told you in those dates. if you document EVERYTHING this will help. trust me...been there. paperwork is more accountable for putting abusers in jail (really true, many cases) than actual pictures. sad, but true. how do you not believe a picture of a broken arm, etc? hmm..nother story. anyways so document and get a lawyer. meanwhile. pay the $10 and ask a lawyer here. chances are you'll get all your info. have a great day. good luck.