Help! My daughter calls my mom and dad -Mom and Dad

[divinediva]

My parents adopted my daughter 8 years ago. And it has been a living hell,
my parents had terminated my rights. I have to beg to see my daughter but it
is only on their terms at their house. 4 hours per month. I don\'t know what
to do. The day of the adoption I tried to stop it, but the atty and my
parents assured me it was the right thing, since I was a single mom. I was
in tears crying because it was my daughter. I have a broken heart everyday.
Feelings aside, Now that we live in Orlando, I don\'t know if I can hire an
attorney to get visitation legally. I was told by my parents nothing would
change I would still be the mom and they the grandparents. But for the past
5 years she has called them mom and dad. She is so confused, she knows she came from me but doesn\'t know why she is with them. So, in conclusion I have been fighting with my parents to see her, everytime I try being nice, I
disappoint them or disrespect them so they hold her away from me. They
brainwashed her so bad that she can\'t even answer questions without asking my mom permission. I am married now and was wondering if I can go to court and ask for a guardian ad litum plus tell the judge I was told nothing would change since it was family. I trusted my family, I never thought they would lie to me or never let me have time with her. I feel like such an ass for
trusting my family and that I have to beg to see my child. What can I do?
Granted it has been 8 years since the adoption but these are my parents, can I not request some visitation?

[PapaJohn]

I believe that for anyone to help you more info is needed. Why were your kids given to your parents? Why was the adoption even done? If it was simply because you were a single mother then adoption should not have been an issue. Your parents could have helped and supported you and you child without the adoption...

I was told because I was a single mother it was the best option from my parents and their attorney. Since she was an asthmatic her insurance would be free through the hospital since my dad was a doctor plus they could help out with the bills. Her real father chose not be in her life a long time ago. So, I thought it was a good decision because I have always trusted my family. But ever since the adoption I am made to look like the bad person, that I am somehow ungrateful because of "everything" they have done for me. Personally, I think my daughter is the only thing that keeps my parents together.

Granted, I said that over and over again I could of received their help, but then they kept laying guilt trips on me stating I was doing a disservice to my child by making her suffer by not giving everything she needs. Reason, this was brought up because I was behind in my daycare bill and they took care of it. They told me it was too much for a single girl to handle and they can help out. As I said the attorney and my parents convinced me this is the best thing, but I will always be her mother.

However, my parents have come so emotional attach it is like I am personally attacking them for wanting to see my child and then they start the fighting with me all over again. So, retrospect I have tried replacing the pain for 2 failed marriages. And now that I am finally married to the love of my life for the past year and a half. I have been stable, because they always used me being unstable for me to have a child. They just come up with every excuse for me not to have her.

Now, I am allowed to have her 4 hours a month per my father and then we will see where it goes from there.

Am I being ungrateful for wanting to be in my daughters life? I have a broken heart everyday for giving her to my parents, but I never asked them to lie to me or do what they have done. Please help.

[divinediva]

Can anyone help with this matter?

[tbyte]

How old were you when you had the child? How old were you when you signed the adoption papers? Do you have a copy of the adoption papers?

[divinediva]

I was 22 when I had her, my parents will not give me a copy of the adoption papers nor their attorney. Obviously the papers are sealed and I guess I have to hire an attorney to go to the county and go to the judge to get them opened just so I can get a copy of these papers.

[tbyte]

You will have to consult an attorney about this.

[divinediva]

That is what I thought. This is going to be a battle with my parents isn't?

humm let me tell you this brainwashing and such and even if you did all the right things as i did this type of people situation they would lie , really and they would brainwash her anyway . you need to pic your battles and focus on future that is what i did and it worked and in between this stuff goes and comes off and on.
plan the future, out share that with your daughter she will grow up an know the truth, this worked for me i didnt give up hard hard battles, but underhanded and evil things they worked around me went to great lenths to lie and brainwash, so see you cant control others but you can start over plan future while you wait, trips save or things when she gets older and such, save for her car and all things alot of things, i understand , and can relate, but i am telling you it would have happened anyway no matter what you didi or didnt do honest.
pray for me and i will say a prayer for you i have something coming up around lies and brainswashing and the result of it how it effected my daughter education i hope things work out for you and for people like us who deal with lies and hate and evil. as parents.

Divinediva, absolutely you need to talk to a lawyer. If you are a responsible adult and have the means to take care of your child I would think you would want more than just visitation. Many lawyers will give you a free first meeting and you will get insite into what your rights are. Every state has different laws when it is concerning family legal matters. I would not take your parents word for anything. I would get a lawyer.