http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/ Child custody, support and visitation. en Sat, 21 Nov 2009 18:05:39 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/images/vbseo_skin_2.0/misc/rss.jpg http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/ http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/child-custody-support/31818-parent-more-likely-get-custody.html Sat, 21 Nov 2009 03:06:33 GMT Who is more likely to get custody? My husband wants a divorce & sole custody. Married 10 years, 2 kids: 7 and 8 years old.

1 1/2 yrs ago: I started to abuse alcohol & began drinking in secret at home at night when my husband and kids were in bed. 4 months later I told my husband & got help with a Dr & a therapist. My husband, and friends told me I had abused alcohol & was not an alcoholic. Of course I wanted to believe that.

Over the past year we have both attended social events where alcohol was served & both drank & he had no issues with that. But I realized on my own 2 months ago that I am an alcoholic and have started going to AA and a therapist. I was never court ordered to go to AA, never drove drunk, never missed work.

1 month ago, my husband had an affair & after I found out he tried to commit suicide. He was commited to the psch ward for 2 days.

When he got out of the hospital he said he was divorcing me and was very angry but said he would agree to joint custody and the kids would live with me. He has since changed his mind and wants sole custody, as well as our house. He says he will give me lots of visitation with the kids. He says he no longer trusts me to be a good parent b/c of my drinking.

I recognize that my drinking was a huge mistake and I am working the AA program, reading literature, staying under the care of my doctor and seeing a therapist. I have offered to take random breathalizers, blood or urine tests or any other reasonable request he has to prove that I am sober and will remain sober for the rest of my life.

We both have stable jobs, have never had legal or financial problems. The kids are happy, healthy, well adjusted (despite having 2 parents who made big mistakes) and have no idea he wants a divorce. They don't know anything about the drinking nor did I tell them he was in the hospital. I just said he had a business trip and they believed that.

Despite what we've both done we've both been good parents and have never argued in front of the kids. I am the primary caregiver w/ making meals, helping w/ school work, dr appts, etc. But he is also involved with them and very loving. If it were up to me we'd go to counseling and work on saving marriage, but he doesn't want to. So I need advice on how a court will rule on what's best for kids.

We live in Connecticut. ]]> Unregistered http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/child-custody-support/31818-parent-more-likely-get-custody.html http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/child-custody-support/31802-any-legal-right-my-son.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 19:53:15 GMT I am leaving a guy I have been with for 5 years and I would like to know if he has any legal right to my son who is not biologically his? I am leaving a guy I have been with for 5 years and I would like to know if he has any legal right to my son who is not biologically his? ]]> Unregistered http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/child-custody-support/31802-any-legal-right-my-son.html http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/child-custody-support/31792-dead-beat-dad-usa.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 16:15:41 GMT Dead beat dad in USA--I am a Norwegian. What can I do?? Dead beat dad in USA--I am a Norwegian.

What can I do?? ]]> Unregistered http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/child-custody-support/31792-dead-beat-dad-usa.html http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/child-custody-support/31780-verbal-abuser.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 03:18:37 GMT My huband called me 'ugly ****' in front of our 3-year old child. How can I prove it in a court so that I can get a custody? Would the judge even consider this kind of verbal abuse? ]]> Unregistered http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/child-custody-support/31780-verbal-abuser.html http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/child-custody-support/31766-children-hostile-environment.html Thu, 19 Nov 2009 19:42:59 GMT My ex and I have been separated/divorced for 5 years. I have sole physical custody of our 2 kids ages 14 and 11 and my ex has visitation. Both kids... My ex and I have been separated/divorced for 5 years. I have sole physical custody of our 2 kids ages 14 and 11 and my ex has visitation. Both kids have expressed they no longer wish to go to their dads. The kids are being demeaned and subjected to name calling,constant yelling and verbal abuse by both their father and his wife when in their home. The kids have tried talking to him many times about the situation as have I. What can I do to protect them from a hostile environment until paperwork can be done to try to change our child custody agreement? Do I have to make them go and be subjected to this treatment or do I have a right to protect them from the emotional strain it is having on them? Currently he has them over nights every Wed and every other weekend as well as he has them until 6 each night.
Thank you!! ]]> SLT09 http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/child-custody-support/31766-children-hostile-environment.html http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/child-custody-support/31751-son-doesnt-want-go-his-dad-weekend.html Thu, 19 Nov 2009 14:28:51 GMT my son doesn\'t want to go with his dad this weekend. He has 1st,3rd,5th weekends. \"Does he have to go?\" ]]> Unregistered http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/child-custody-support/31751-son-doesnt-want-go-his-dad-weekend.html http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/child-custody-support/31697-18-15-11-year-old-kids-child-support.html Wed, 18 Nov 2009 05:59:51 GMT My daughter is 18 and does not want to see me because i have a girlfriend. She is a junior in highschool. Will she be forced to see me and if not, do... My daughter is 18 and does not want to see me because i have a girlfriend. She is a junior in highschool. Will she be forced to see me and if not, do i still pay child support for her? We live in Texas. I'm losing control of all my kids and my ex-wife is not helping the situation. My kids are all now talking back at me and my ex just tells them to come to her. She is doing this to just get them closer to her. I'm worried that later they will not listen to her and get more out of control. ]]> mike4664 http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/child-custody-support/31697-18-15-11-year-old-kids-child-support.html http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/child-custody-support/31691-notary-legality-question.html Wed, 18 Nov 2009 00:55:06 GMT spouse wants to file for seperation/divorce after she was caught, and admitted to an affair. she wants her name off of house deed and car title. Is a... spouse wants to file for seperation/divorce after she was caught, and admitted to an affair. she wants her name off of house deed and car title. Is a notarized declaration legally binding? the declaration is her idea but what if she changes her mind later? ]]> dyinginside http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/child-custody-support/31691-notary-legality-question.html http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/child-custody-support/31682-grandparents-rights.html Tue, 17 Nov 2009 21:16:25 GMT My daughter passed away in 2007. My grandsons biological dad has never been in his life and is a dead beat dad. He signed his rights away to a... My daughter passed away in 2007. My grandsons biological dad has never been in his life and is a dead beat dad. He signed his rights away to a niece of mine, then revoked the affidavit and signed me as Primary Conservator. My niece his Great Aunt through marriage is fighting me for custody of my grandson (right to fight given to her because of fathers relinquenched rights for ten days even though child had not lived with her and he revoked the relinqueshment). Were under temporary orders and are going to trial. He is in prison and he\'s relinqueshed his rights again and given them to him. She wants to adopt my grandson. Will she be able to do this inspite of prior filing of me being primary conservator? Me being maternal grandmother.
> ]]> sherannluera http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/child-custody-support/31682-grandparents-rights.html http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/child-custody-support/31661-out-state-fathers-rights.html Tue, 17 Nov 2009 18:50:49 GMT I moved out of state due to work and let ex-spouse and child services know this. I still pay my support as always however ex-spouse has turned off... I moved out of state due to work and let ex-spouse and child services know this. I still pay my support as always however ex-spouse has turned off the phone and is making it very difficult for me to talk with or see my child. I know I must pay the money and I do,without hesitation. I want to see my child every chance I can. During the time child is not going to school,especially on vacation days and holidays. Even though I have moved out of state,I am only four hours away and do not mind traveling to pick child up or to drop child back off at her Moms house. The ex-wife has been mentally cruel by telling child I moved in order not to see my child and that is a terrible thing to put a child through. Although I try and smooth things over and tell my child I love her with all my heart and I will see her as much moving out of state than I did previously because this ex has always pulled this even when I was only twenty minutes away. I try writing and somehow the child never gets the letters,I try emailing and the emails are gone when child gets home from school,I try calling and the phone is out of service or the number has been changed. I now do not have the option of getting in my car and physically driving to her house to see child. I am at wits in,I do not know what my options are since I am in another state. I would appreciate any suggestions or help.
Thank you so very much.
Desparate Father ]]> Unregistered http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/child-custody-support/31661-out-state-fathers-rights.html http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/child-custody-support/31658-custody-divorce-pa.html Tue, 17 Nov 2009 18:33:09 GMT My wife committed adultery a few years ago and I forgave her and tried to work it out, now she is saying she feels like she will do it again, she... My wife committed adultery a few years ago and I forgave her and tried to work it out, now she is saying she feels like she will do it again, she doesn't want to be married, and she wants to leave. During the time she cheated she left for almost 2 weeks without anyone knowing where she was. She now sleeps till 11-12 and lets the 4yr old run around house by herself while I work and she sleeps. She cheated with multiple guys when we were separated for 3 months after I caught her cheating. Question, I do not think she is fit to raise the kids and I don't want her to take them from their home and pull the 8yr old out of school if she leaves. Because of the stated adultery, we lost our house and my 8yr old has been in 3 different schools. She has already shown how easy she can walk away from the kids and that she doesn't care or she wouldn't let a 4yr old little girl up for 4 hours by herself. When I caught her cheating, the then 2yr old, was left in the crib with a very wet diaper at 2:30pm.
I want to know what I need to do to retain custody of my little girls, they mean the world to me and I don't believe she will take care of them properly.
Any advice is appreciated ]]> Unregistered http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/child-custody-support/31658-custody-divorce-pa.html http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/child-custody-support/31653-husband-uae-national-abandoned-us.html Tue, 17 Nov 2009 17:12:35 GMT We are abandoned by my husband 10 yrs ago we have one child a 13 yrs old boy my husband is a UAE national from Abu Dhabi we are legally married here... We are abandoned by my husband 10 yrs ago we have one child a 13 yrs old boy my husband is a UAE national from Abu Dhabi we are legally married here in Philippines he did not even supported us financially for 13 yrs now. ]]> Unregistered http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/child-custody-support/31653-husband-uae-national-abandoned-us.html http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/child-custody-support/31642-back-child-support-adult.html Tue, 17 Nov 2009 05:04:36 GMT My partner is 30 yrs old now and never really knew her biological father. She knows who he is and when she was 17 he wanted to meet her but after a... My partner is 30 yrs old now and never really knew her biological father. She knows who he is and when she was 17 he wanted to meet her but after a couple of times meeting her he disappeared and had nothing to do with her again. Her mother never claimed child support, and she has no contact with him. She has always felt that this was not fair and not her fault that he never wanted anything to do with her. She is wondering if as an adult there is any way to collect back child support which she wants to use for her college education. Does she have any rights in regards to this arrearage or is it too late? Would it be worth it to go consult with a lawyer? We live in GA ]]> bttrfly http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/child-custody-support/31642-back-child-support-adult.html http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/child-custody-support/31640-child-support-paid-cash-help.html Tue, 17 Nov 2009 01:03:04 GMT I divorced in 1999 me and my ex have joint custody I pay 186.00 every two weeks Divorce papers say to pay child support with money order,check,or... I divorced in 1999 me and my ex have joint custody I pay 186.00 every two weeks Divorce papers say to pay child support with money order,check,or cash if need be so i started with checks ex didnt have a bank account any where i knew this so we agreed i would give cash.I made ex sign receipts for about 3 years maybe 4 years.Well i lost my job and told the ex we need to go to court ex told me no we are friends and always will be so ex worked with me excepting smaller payments and ex signed receipts.So after a few years ex would want me to meet somewhere after work they needed the money to take son to get clothes,shoes,and things of that matter so i would meet ex and not have the receipt book well it finally just got to were it was always when i was out . I had no reason not to trust child almost 18 now and ex has never had me to court for not paying and has never went to child support to lie.Until now in july now mind you my child will be 18 dec 23 2009 ex has decided to go to child support tell them i have paid nothing in ten years well ex said they think i owe them 41'000 well lucky for me i had those first few years of receipts which came to almost 13'000 so ex says oh yeah i signed those what ex right there lied on a legal document they start garnishing my check for the regular payment plus an extra 93.00 dollors every two weeks without asking me anything and without a judgment nothing after 10 years of no complaints i get this done to me iam going to let a judge listen to this hopefully he will see the reason ex is doing this child ready to turn 18 ex has nothing to loose but everything to gain by lying .Iam starving trying to pay this was just getting buy paying 186.00 i make alot less and never had it lowered wanted to give as much as possible for my child and this lie has destroyed me finacially.if child support is going to be watchers over people money they need to investicate claims before they mess with some ones food money. I live in johnson city tennessee if that helps any. ]]> wendym http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/child-custody-support/31640-child-support-paid-cash-help.html http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/child-custody-support/31637-unmarried-single-mother-ohio.html Tue, 17 Nov 2009 00:04:14 GMT I need some legal advice. I have a 2 year old daughter and her father, my ex-boyfriend, has been threatening me about taking me to court. There are... I need some legal advice. I have a 2 year old daughter and her father, my ex-boyfriend, has been threatening me about taking me to court. There are no court oders in place, except for child support. None for custody or visitation. We both did sign papers for him to be on her Birth Cert. She was born in 2/07 and he did not start making payments till 5/08. She leaves with me in a stable environment and has everything she needs. We live in Ohio, and I have done some research and I believe that if her father wants more it is up to him to file with the courts. My problems are I do not trust him enough to take my daughter and I have set up a visitation agreement-no court involvment--last month and he has already missed 2 visits, and also have never once called during the time period I set up for him to speak with her..or any other time. He has a strong history of drug and alcohol abuse, one of the many reasons I left him, and has multiple DUIs. He also has a charge from last year of theft from his former employer. I think he may be on probabtion still. He was actually born out of the country, but is a perm. resident. I do not want him in and out of my daughter's life when ever its good for him, or when he doesnt have something better to do. I also do not trust him to be alone with her because of his drinking and drugs. He also has a 4 year old with another woman, whom he sees for 4 hours every other Sunday. Her mother set up that schedule and he seems to be ok with it..only difference is he can take her and do whatever he wants during the time period. I do have contact with the other girl's mother and basically she says she does the very minium to keep him "happy" so he will not try to take her to court. She is older then my daughter and has had more bonding then my daughter. He has been off and on, more off, since my daughter was a newborn. My questions are is there anything I can do before, if, he does file in court. He has been saying this for a while now and my personal belief is he wont cause he doesnt want more responsiblity as a father. I am just tired of the disrespect and abuse I have to take from him. He has no appreciation for all I do as a single mother and has had over 2 years to act like a real father. He swears and yells at me in front of my daughter and it scares her and she is too little to know whats going on. To her Daddy is someone she plays with once in awhile. The last straw was when he told me to shut the **** up yesterday while he was holding my daughter. I do not think it is right that my daughter has to hear things like that. Is there anything I can do to protect my rights, or do I have to wait for him to "make a move"? ]]> singlemom32 http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/child-custody-support/31637-unmarried-single-mother-ohio.html