Need Advice

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I know it’s really common for a teenager to feel hate towards their family and have heated discussions but I really have reached my limit with my dad. I am 18 years old but my dad treats me like a 12 year old kid.

Everytime i make some decision about my life, he disagrees with it. . He doesnt let me go out with my own. if i get late from college, he asks 1000z of questions. when i try to sort all these problems with him, he emotionally blackmails me by saying i did this and that for you etc etc.. i cant even live alone in my room for 5 minutes, now when i am planning to choose subjects for my uni, he doesnt let me choose em,, he doesnt allow me to do any job, i am not even allowed to go to my frenz house,

Basically he doesnt want me to be live like an independent,,, i feel as if i am living in a prison... sometimes i feel like running away..

i m really fed up , please tell me what to do,

[Postman]

It is not hate , it is anger. There is a difference. For the sake of sounding like a 60's melody, All you need is Love.

There is no greater love than a commited parent. But in our failings we often looses control and become obscessed.

Do you trust that when it is unknown to you a train was barreling toward you? You know your parent so it is time to grade him. A) my dad would warn me, yelling, screaming, throwing rocks. If that did not work B) my parent would full on body check me to get me out of harms way. C) if the situation required my parent would body check me, and forfiet his life for mine.

So How did Dad do?

Now, go to the mall, observe the world, how many trains do you see? If you see none you are not adult, yet a child totally oblivious. Now do you see the trains? For each you see, your dad sees ten. He is histerical with fear but cannot show it, because he is teaching you to be brave for your child, and if need be at an instance notice sacrafice.

Now have a conversation, start it with, I believe you love me, I have proven it to myself. Forgive your parents mistakes as someday you will forgive your child's.