My lover ditched me and married to someone else.

I was in relationship with my boyfriend for around 6years. I asked him to inform his parents about our relationship so that we can tie the knot. He kept on giving some or the other excuses and kept on postponing about discussing our relationship with his parents. During all these discussions I got to know from one of his mails which he chated with his friend that he got engaged to some other girl. This was a big shock to me. He never informed about this to me at any point of time and parallelly he was discussion abt our marraige with me. When I asked what about my future he said he is not responsible for that. I waited for him for 6yrs and finally he ditched me. He even verbally abused and told that i should die. He got married to some other girl last year. He took lot of money from me which he retured it. But money is not all. My life is in the soup now.
I am planning to file a case against him. But I am not sure how can to do this as he is staying in India and I am in Singapore now. I was in US when he got married. Its been one year he got married but I am not able to forget and come out of all this.
I have tried to put my 6years of sad tale in one paragraph. Even today I cry remembering how badly he has cheated me. I feel he was in relationship with me just for money. Please advise me on how can I file a international case.

[AFFA]

I wish to inform you that a person is free to marry any person as long as the person meets the criteria for marriage as per the laws of the place where the marriage is taking place. However, you may sue your boyfriend for abuse and harassment. You will file the case where the abuse and harassment took place. Alternatively, you may contact law enforcement agencies in the matter.

AFF

Thank you for the information. So this means that I can file a case against him even if i am in Singapore?

Originally Posted by Unregistered I was in relationship with my boyfriend for around 6years. I asked him to inform his parents about our relationship so that we can tie the knot. He kept on giving some or the other excuses and kept on postponing about discussing our relationship with his parents. During all these discussions I got to know from one of his mails which he chated with his friend that he got engaged to some other girl. This was a big shock to me. He never informed about this to me at any point of time and parallelly he was discussion abt our marraige with me. When I asked what about my future he said he is not responsible for that. I waited for him for 6yrs and finally he ditched me. He even verbally abused and told that i should die. He got married to some other girl last year. He took lot of money from me which he retured it. But money is not all. My life is in the soup now. I am planning to file a case against him. But I am not sure how can to do this as he is staying in India and I am in Singapore now. I was in US when he got married. Its been one year he got married but I am not able to forget and come out of all this. I have tried to put my 6years of sad tale in one paragraph. Even today I cry remembering how badly he has cheated me. I feel he was in relationship with me just for money. Please advise me on how can I file a international case.

Pardon me for being logical, but what possible case do you have against him? You can't sue people for breaking up with you.

You said he gave the money back. You cannot now sue him for it.

If your life is "the soup", it's because that's how you choose to live it. You need to learn from this and move on. Take the positive and leave the negative. We are as happy as we make up our minds to be. Right now you're wallowing in self pity and seem to be enjoying it.

If he abused you, it's unclear why you are still pining over him.

You need some counseling to help you understand why you are having such a difficult time letting go of this cad.

It's amazing that you feel you have a "case" against him. Courts are overrun with people who use it to "get back at" their ex. Courts are in place for legal issues. Not emotional issues.

It's time to start seeing a counselor so you can release these pent up emotions, learn to behave and react in more constructive way to rejection, move on with your life and find a true adult man you can share your life with.

Good luck to you.

[Lexus]

First of all let me console you. The fact is that you cannot sue him for anything. He has not breached any contractual relations with you. For sure court will not entertain your case unless there is substantial truth to prove the case. Here you have no such solid evidence against him. It is better advised that you may consult with a Family law Attorney who can give a proper guidance in this regard.

So a guy can be in relationship even if he is engaged to another girl hiding this with both the girls and law cannot do anything abt it? How sad That is y guys take bold steps to cheat girls without any fear.
Thx all for the advise and surely i'l contact my family attorney for further steps.

Originally Posted by Unregistered So a guy can be in relationship even if he is engaged to another girl hiding this with both the girls and law cannot do anything abt it? How sad That is y guys take bold steps to cheat girls without any fear. Thx all for the advise and surely i'l contact my family attorney for further steps.

You seriously need to grow up and stop thinking and emoting like a child.

Of course it's legal. What do you expect "the law" to do about it? Do you expect every human should be monitored for their moral behavior? Good grief, grow up.

That's sad? It's sad when a grown adult believes "the law" should monitor people in their daily activities and "punish" those who are "mean" to stupid people.

You're supposed to be an adult. If he cheats on you, leave him. Problem solved. You don't need "the law" to do anything.

People who are suggesting this girl are surely matured and try to see positive sides of tragedies in life. but I am not agreed with them to leave that guy peacefully living his life. This is what encourages such jerks to ditch girls. Of course she cant sue him. but she can definitely take revenge. this guy Does not deserve to be forgiven. Your life is already hell. Just don't feel sad.. but make him feel. Of course there are some ways which are not unlawful but will be a good punishment for that dork. Don't leave him...... let him suffer. and I am sure you will find some or other way to make him suffer. A girl is not as powerful as a man until she believe that she is. And this will be a lesson for him and people like him.

Originally Posted by Unregistered People who are suggesting this girl are surely matured and try to see positive sides of tragedies in life. but I am not agreed with them to leave that guy peacefully living his life. This is what encourages such jerks to ditch girls. Of course she cant sue him. but she can definitely take revenge. this guy Does not deserve to be forgiven. Your life is already hell. Just don't feel sad.. but make him feel. Of course there are some ways which are not unlawful but will be a good punishment for that dork. Don't leave him...... let him suffer. and I am sure you will find some or other way to make him suffer. A girl is not as powerful as a man until she believe that she is. And this will be a lesson for him and people like him.

Before giving such stellar advice, perhaps you could learn how to speak proper English?

Your "advice" is asinine. Don't leave him? Make him suffer? How is not leaving him making him suffer? Wouldn't she be putting herself through more suffering by remaining with a man who does not love or respect her? That really helps her self esteem doesn't it?

How about dumping him and moving on with her life? You clearly have never heard the expression "living well is the best revenge". Further, what's the point in living to make others suffer? You do realize the emotional health toll that takes, do you not? Life is too short or haven't you noticed that?

Forgiveness is not for the benefit of the person who wronged you. Forgiveness is a self healing tool.

Originally Posted by Unregistered I was in relationship with my boyfriend for around 6years. I asked him to inform his parents about our relationship so that we can tie the knot. He kept on giving some or the other excuses and kept on postponing about discussing our relationship with his parents. During all these discussions I got to know from one of his mails which he chated with his friend that he got engaged to some other girl. This was a big shock to me. He never informed about this to me at any point of time and parallelly he was discussion abt our marraige with me. When I asked what about my future he said he is not responsible for that. I waited for him for 6yrs and finally he ditched me. He even verbally abused and told that i should die. He got married to some other girl last year. He took lot of money from me which he retured it. But money is not all. My life is in the soup now. I am planning to file a case against him. But I am not sure how can to do this as he is staying in India and I am in Singapore now. I was in US when he got married. Its been one year he got married but I am not able to forget and come out of all this. I have tried to put my 6years of sad tale in one paragraph. Even today I cry remembering how badly he has cheated me. I feel he was in relationship with me just for money. Please advise me on how can I file a international case.

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I am also cheated with my girl friend. We are in relationship since last 4 yrs. Now she married to someone else. I am from India. What should I do ? Any Legal action I can takes towards her...
Because I have our personal photographs. Phone call recordings. In that she is telling me that "my parents force me to marry that guy. I am only engaged to him... But I will break soon... I love u and I will marry only you"...

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