How can I get my husband out of the house if he refuses to leave?

Originally Posted by Unregistered WOW! Aren't you a misguided b!tch! He CAN be made to leave. I am in the same situation that she is. And the cops were just at my door and they just hauled his sorry ass away. I was told I can get an EPO in the morning, and he can be made to leave the home! When you are married, what is his is yours and vice versa. WIVES HAVE RIGHTS and no one has to be terrorized in their own home in front of their kids. And my BROKE situation IS his fault for reasons I won't go into, just to say that I was FINE b4 I trusted his sorry a$$ again. But you can bet your bottom, I will be gone come January when my tax return hits my debit card. And his sorry, abusing drunk a$$ can go to he!!

Judging from the hostile vitriol of your response, you likely had him falsely arrested in order to get him out of the house.

You begin your childish rant with typical name calling. My 10 year old niece is more adult than you.

Your "broke" situation is nobody's fault but your own. Choosing to "believe his sorry a s s" was still a choice, wasn't it, tootsie roll? It's always someone else's fault isn't it? That makes it easier to not have to look in the mirror doesn't it? If you're honest with yourself, you'll admit that you're more mad at yourself for allowing yourself to be used and abused than you are angry at anyone. But somehow I doubt you have that much strength of character (if your post is any indication of your mentality).

Further, nobody is forcing you to stay married to such an "abusing drunk" are they? Own up to your own culpability or is it simply more fun to sling mud?

Get some anger management therapy. You clearly need it.

Let me see if I understand this correctly. You are in an abusive situation. The cops were "just at your door" and yet you are here on this forum ranting and raving like a lunatic. Do I have that right so far?

One would think if the cops are "at someone's door" there would be lots of high emotion involved and the last thing a person would do would be to go log on to the internet and show the world that the cops arrested the wrong person.

You accuse your husband of mental abuse. What is his view of matters? Would he accuse you of mental abuse? We are only getting your side of what is going on. Your obscure reference to a "chronic illness" got alarm bells ringing. Is that a mental illness perhaps? It sounds as though one or both of you need counselling, rather than calling in the lawyers.

I have been on and off with my Ex husband for 8 years. We are currently legally divorced. I decided after working for a year, my 3 children needed me more..I was always a stay at home mother. I took him back because He was the sole bread winner. throughout the entire 8 years I have had to deal with his Addiction. he has only physically shoved me around once. The rest has been emotional abuse, mental abuse, breaking things in our home, yelling and cussing in my face, ect.. our Bank account being in the negative 800 every month. I have taken his apologies and moved on because He wouldn't leave after me asking him countless times. We had 600.00 put away for Christmas Gifts..the money is Gone and I don't have a single Gift under the Tree. Well..recently he locked up our home and had someone pick him up..when I got home from picking up my children from school we couldn't get in the house. It was freezing outside..This was my wake up call..I went on 12/02/2011 and ask that the county attorney grant me a Protective Order. i prayed and cried..within 2 hours I got a call that it would be Granted. Thank You Jesus!! Domestic Violence isn't just being beaten black and blue..I am emotionally battered. This Monday He will be served by a sheriff and has to go. My heart breaks for my children..However, This is worse for them to see. I was told It is more difficult to get him out when he owns the home..but they will help U. My sister owns my home and I rent from her. Good Luck to you!! May God Be with you and seek all the Help you can. Remember your Kids are number 1. They will grant you the home temporarily because of your children..Also..Child Support will help. Please Look into Programs and get help..He's not worth it! Bring peace in Your home!!

Ok, so sad to hear the obvious man, that is responding here with aggression. Bless your heart, and I hope by now you are away from the abuse. My first time looking all this up, 11 years abused, now with a five year old child. Wondering if I will get out alive. My prayers for victims of domestic abuse!

Same situation. Waited 12yrs to go back to school and I'm almost done. Three kids and no income other than his. Verbal turned to physical recently and I didn't think he was going to stop. Some people have no idea how hard it is to leave sometimes and no one deserves it. I can't work and do school full time and keep the work hours he would want (day). Before things got worse I made a choice to better myself so that I could support myself and children without him one day. If you call the cops and make him leave, who's going to pay the bills and put food in the kids mouths until court or available resources. Here is what you do…
Document EVERYTHING! times, dates, what was said, pictures..and hide it where he won't find it
Start saving every bit of money you can even if it's pennies
Have a plan if he hits you (bag with clothes for yourself and children, ex medicines extra keys)
You are going to have to keep these things where he won't find it and this is very important
Call a lawyer and find out what the law is in your state

The hardest part is enduring the crap, but keep quiet because in time you will have all of the resources you need to leave him. If you are afraid for your or your children's lives, call a domestic abuse hotline and make the sacrifice to go to a shelter. They will help you with work and finding a home until you get on your feet.

Hi there,
I would like to respond to this. I understand what you are going through. I agree with you that is is ALOT to up and move the kids and to call a help line and go to a "safe house" would be pretty traumatizing to them. I understand that it is a way out but also, I think that if it can be handled a different way then try that. To call a help line there would have to be abuse...it would have to be an "unsafe" situation for you and the kids to live in I would think. If it is money you are worried about and you have a chronic illness, I was wondering if you would qualify for disability payments? If you contact them and ask what they can do for you in this case maybe they will give you a "start up" payment...enough for first and last to an apartment and a bit more for the nessescities you need?? Just dont tell the Hubby in the meantime...wait until he is a work and have your stuff moved and take whatever you need. If he tries to say you took everything, he needs receipts and that but if it goes to court they will overlook that because you will have the kids. I hate to say it but you might have to leave, go to court and state that you want the house...in order to move back there (if you really want the house)
Also, I would like to say something to the people who gave negative responses. This is a situation that doesnt really need any of your input. Are you qualified in divorce?? probably not. It's sad that you waste your time on one of these sites acting like you know everything and putting people down. This was meant to be a question and the woman was looking for HELPFUL advice....not a obsessive control freak Unregistered know it all... sorry, but after reading this entire thread...the people who are negative actually seem pathetic Have a good day everyone... P.S. I will not be coming back to this page because I have a life so any negative responses to this post can be appreciated but those you "hang with"

Originally Posted by Unregistered Hi there, I would like to respond to this. I understand what you are going through. I agree with you that is is ALOT to up and move the kids and to call a help line and go to a "safe house" would be pretty traumatizing to them. I understand that it is a way out but also, I think that if it can be handled a different way then try that. To call a help line there would have to be abuse...it would have to be an "unsafe" situation for you and the kids to live in I would think. If it is money you are worried about and you have a chronic illness, I was wondering if you would qualify for disability payments? If you contact them and ask what they can do for you in this case maybe they will give you a "start up" payment...enough for first and last to an apartment and a bit more for the nessescities you need?? Just dont tell the Hubby in the meantime...wait until he is a work and have your stuff moved and take whatever you need. If he tries to say you took everything, he needs receipts and that but if it goes to court they will overlook that because you will have the kids. I hate to say it but you might have to leave, go to court and state that you want the house...in order to move back there (if you really want the house) Also, I would like to say something to the people who gave negative responses. This is a situation that doesnt really need any of your input. Are you qualified in divorce?? probably not. It's sad that you waste your time on one of these sites acting like you know everything and putting people down. This was meant to be a question and the woman was looking for HELPFUL advice....not a obsessive control freak Unregistered know it all... sorry, but after reading this entire thread...the people who are negative actually seem pathetic Have a good day everyone... P.S. I will not be coming back to this page because I have a life so any negative responses to this post can be appreciated but those you "hang with"

And you have a good day too. And thank you for not coming back. :-)

[Friend In Court]

Abusers side with other abusers, so one can ignore anonymous postings that call women names who have been battered and abused and side with the abuser. No wonder such posters prefer to remain anonymous. Lots of mysogenists out there.

People should really learn to actually read and comprehend what they're reading before jumping to conclusions about what others are saying.

Why revive an old thread just to add two cents worth of comments about one's own feelings? How does that help anyone?

This thread has gone completely off topic thanks to multiple people posting their own stories. Unfortunately the OP's post is long forgotten.

While it may be true that "there are lots of misogynists (not "mysogenists") out there", it bears reminding that there are also lots of misandrists as well.

One can ignore posts that only call women names, but what of posts that call men names? Are they to be ignored as well, or do they have merit because you yourself appear to be one of those misandrists?

Aren't you anonymous as well? We don't know who you really are do we? We only know a silly user name. That hardly gives us any insight into who you are or what you're all about.