Husband Arrested for Domestic Violence (Florida)

My husband and I got into an argument on Friday and it got heated. I ended up hitting him in the face and then he defended himself. Well I called the cops and they arrested him today, on Sunday. I was wondering if there was any way I could have the charges dropped since I was the one that started the argument. I told the officer when he arrested him today that I started it and he said that he was going to arrest him because he had no right to hit me back. I live in Florida. Please give me a response immediately.

[AFFA]

I wish to inform you that it is the State of Florida which is having the power to decide. In this you can inform State Attorney Office and they will then decide. The State Attorney Office will evaluate the case and will take into consideration whether the acts of the accused should be taken up further and he should be prosecuted or not. If the State Attorney Office decides to decline the case then your case will get dropped but in case he decides to take up the case further then your case will not get dropped and will go further. Further, you generally do not face any criminal charges for dropping the charge but in case if you have stated any fact wrongly to the police during arrest of your husband then you may face legal action.

AFF

[sunlover]

As previously stated its State that will decide to drop or not. Your problem could reverse though with your reversal of statements. The state could charge you with domestic violence instead since you were agressor or even charge both of you

Once you involve the police, they must file the charges whether you want them to or not.

That you called them to your home to intervene and protect you warrants them taking action.

Domestic situations eat up tax dollars and waste police officer's precious time. You did both.

If you choose to live in a violent situation, stop using the police to fight your battles for you.

Incidentally, it's strange that you hit first but he got arrested. At the very least, you should have been arrested too. That's gender bias at its worst again.

Until one lives in a domestic violence situation, we should never judge that person. We do not know this individual's complete story.

If you hit him first and he hit back, the police in Florida dependent upon the area will usually take both individuals into custody. Sometimes they go by visible marks on the individuals and if there is a history of domestic violence disputes between the two individuals.

There is help for domestic violence victims and aggressors in areas. If you are a victim, you should call the domestic violence hot line or if you are an aggressor, there is also help for you. I do not know the whole story.

It is more of a waste if someone gets hurt or killed. There is a reason vioelnce is occurring in the home and seeking help is better.

The state attorney office can choose to proceed or drop charges regardless of what you say. Use caution a other s have stated because you too could be charged for domestic violence or giving false information to law enforcement. If this is a first offense for your husband, he will most likely get six months probation anyway dependent upon his criminal history. If there is a history of domestic violence for him, he may be court ordered to cpmplete batterer's intervention. If you are in fear in any way, please seek help thorugh your local domestic violence center. There are shelters for battered women. If you have minor children in the home, be cautious because the department of children and families can become involved in your life as well.

I sometimes think a different approach is needed on this DV stuff.

Arresting somebody for every call is often the wrong solution it seems to me.

[sunlover]

Originally Posted by Unregistered I sometimes think a different approach is needed on this DV stuff. Arresting somebody for every call is often the wrong solution it seems to me.

Ok but woud you rather a would be abuser (possibly killer) be left in home?

brhoden07: how did this ended ? i am kinda in the same situation. please reply asap

Originally Posted by sunlover Ok but woud you rather a would be abuser (possibly killer) be left in home?

There's no reason a person being abused has to stay in that home. It is each person's choice to live with an abuser or not.

I agree. The police should not be involved in domestic disputes. It just gives women all the more power to abuse the system for their own vindictive games.

Well, in my case, first I lost my self confidence, then my soul, then my competency. I lost faith in everything. Or the order may be rearranged. Never the less, he had complete control. I had once made the money. He now did and hid it. My name was on nothing and I have a child. No parents and as of recent years, no friends. A great big fear of the world out there. Yes, I once managed a customer service department. If you can explain how he developed the power over me then please do. But don't think for a moment that the help I finally got because a 3rd party interviened was wasted. Where once I got out of bed making it through one day at a time and mostly with my eyes closed I can now with open my eyes and see the day light. And yes, he hit me, belted me, forced sex in crazy ways on me. He insulted me and dressed me and let me eat or not. Yes, I still felt pain for him being shackled. How crazy is that. Can I understand why some women might lie for their abuser. Absolutely. Especially if they are the father of their children or Mother. I'm sick of everyone defending the helpless abuser. It is NOT EASY to face what is ahead for a person that comes forward. Lack of income, a life they knew..This can be good though. Still, financial problems, security, most importantly keeping it together for the children and making sure their needs are met while the person you once loved hates you more than ever for talking and would do anything to hurt you. And oh do people love the drama. They want to discredit the victim. It's more juicy. Walk in abused shoes before you judge.