What to do?

My girlfriend and I got into a verbal argument one morning. We were yelling at each other, and in anger I slammed a jar of jelly onto the counter (not breaking it, but making a loud noise). The next day I tried to break up with her but she threatened to call the police and say that I threatened her with a jelly jar. I made no gestures toward her with the jelly jar or made any movements that could be construed as the threat of violence. But from what I read, if she calls the police, they'll arrest me by the shear fact that she called them about an abuse situation. What can I do?

Sorry about your circumstances. Without evidence of abuse (i.e. red marks, bruises) this will be your word against hers. The police will be left with deciding which party's story they find the most credible. I would take a proactive approach as it seems you are essentially being "blackmailed" of sorts to keep you in the relationship. Send her a certified letter-return receipt requested setting forth your side of the story. Then go ahead and move out. If she calls the police, show them the letter. Hope all goes well for you. AJJ

The police would be skeptical of her story, since she didn't call when the event actually took place.

With that said, get away from this woman as fast as your feet can carry you. If she's capable of such behavior now, believe it when I say it is only going to get worse from here. She's unstable and if you want to save yourself a lot of stress and grief, get out now.

Never allow anyone to guilt you or threaten you into staying in a toxic relationship. They have to take accountability for their own actions and behavior.

Good luck to you.