I need help with abusive ex-husband

I've been divorced for a few years now and our custody trial occured after the divorce. Thankfully, I did get residential custody. The big problem is my ex-husband. I think I am being emotionally/psychologically abused. I have done some pretty crazy things at his request simply to keep him from arguing with me, saying that I'm pushing him out of my daughter's life, or some how complicating matters worse then they are. Most recently, there was a situation where I was late to an exchange, but didn't know it since there was no set time for the exchange. We normally have a set time, but all of a sudden he's decided that set time doesn't work for him and he wants it flexible. Since I was perceived as late, the wife gave me an attitude and i told her to take her problem to my ex, not get an attitude with me. She blamed the whole thing on me. Then she showed up almost an hour late to the exchange. At the next exchange my ex showed up an hour late after confirming what time he wanted me there. Now I've received a terrible email blaming the whole situation on me!

I've had enough of this. He does whatever he can to control and manipulate me. I've been to court now 5 times, he represents himself, but I pay my legal fees. What can I do to stop all of this.

I know I can't stop him, but how can I change this situation so that it is better for my family. I really need help.

...be firm and follow all court orders exactly. If you have conflicts that dont resolve, go back to court and get more detailed orders.

There really is no other easy way to handle of this.

Thank you. It's so difficult with him and sometimes it's really confusing. Being firm is often the most difficult because I feel so threatened because he lies to the court all the time.

I am going through a similar situation. The thing that has helped the best is a journal that documents ALL things done and said when it comes to my ex. Also if he is threatening you ask the police be there for the exchange. And do not do anything that is not in the legal paperwork. Follow drop off and pick up times and dates exactly. Most importanly remember that he is not in control of you!!

I have exactly the same situation and agree 100% with the advice above!!

The new wife has no business in this. Do not even deal with her. This is a custody arrangement is between you and your ex-husband. She has no business interfering with that.