Pressed charges for assault and he pressed charges against me that are lies... Help

I was beat up by the guy I was seeing. After I got out of the hospital I went to the magistrate office and pressed charges. He went to jail but was able bail out. After he got out he pressed charges against me that are all lies. I had to go to jail and get bailed out. How could he do this? He is retaliating and bullying me. He is also threatening to have me commited. I have no record. I had a speeding ticket 10 years ago but that is it. I'm a nurse, not some dangerous person. When the police came with the ambulance they took photos of the bruises and cut on me. I also took photos. He lives next door to me so I'm very afraid. I am going to try to move ASAP.

What if they say I'm guilty to the charges he made up? I can't have that on my record and I could lose my nursing license. I've never been to jail other than until I just got bailed out tonight. I'm scared of jail and I wouldn't make it in jail. This guy is 6'3" 280lbs and I'm 5'2" 130 lbs. He claimed I pulled him down to the ground by his hair. He asked me over that night to watch a movie with him and even picked up a favorite drink (a soda). But he got a charge on me for trespassing and breaking and entering. He got me charged for harrassing phone calls but the night I called him over and over I was having some anxiety and was trying to reach him but he was in wal-mart. He also got me charged for communicating a threat saying I was threatening to have someone kill him. I would never do that. I can't even understand how he could hit me the way he did. I can't understand why people can hurt others so I can't believe he accused me of that.

What happened that night was he invited me over to watch a movie. I was sitting on the couch upset and he started yelling at me to stop crying and I told him I couldn't. It put me into a panic attack and he got very upset because I couldn't calm down just because he told me to. He got up and pulled me off the couch and down to the floor. He held me down by my neck and was punching me in the head and grabbing my hair and hitting my head on the floor. I kicked to get away. As I tried to get away he picked me up and slammed me on the porch. As I tried to get up from that to run he shoved me down the stairs. I left and went home and called the police.

What can I do? I'm scared. I can't believe he can get away with doing this. What are my options? What is the best thing to do? He has one thing on me that could hurt me... I had someone sexually harassing me (verbally) at a utility company for about a year. I finally went off on the head guy there who was making the comments and he called the police. The charges were later dropped by the guy who harrassed me. He could use that against me.

I can't afford an attorney but really need to talk to one before I go to court. I live in NC. Are there any options there?

I'm so scared of this stuff going on my record I'm willing to drop the charges if he will. I know that won't protect the next woman he hurts but I need to protect myself and my license.

Please tell me everything you can. I need as much advice and information as possible. Thank you.

Yikes get away from this guy.

But the police must have thought something was wrong if they arrested you...

So do speak with counsel. But the truth should come through and you should not have bruises etc.--stay away from him!

World Law's lawyers could also probably intervene and help resolve this if need be. You may email them on the home page.

I can't afford world law lawyers. I'm going to have to get a court appointed lawyer.

When I went to press charges against the guy they didn't ask me for proof so I assume they did the same with him and didn't ask him for proof.

Also, I hear from a friend that he is willing to drop the charges if I do. I have not heard this from his lawyer at this point. I don't even know if he has an attorney. I know from what I researched today that the lawyers will have to go to the DA to request it but that they could deny it.


Any other advice or opinions with the updated info?

[helonwheels]

Firstly, move away from him.
Stay clear of him hes dangerous.
I think if you both drop the charges against eachother, thats a good thing, thatll give you peace of mind.
Then never go near him again cause you may find yourself done the same road again.
If you do go to court and youre honest about everything, you should have nothing to worry about.
Stay strong and keep your emotions at bay, you can cry all you like later on.

[lori509]

A couple of things; first, don't plead this down you will lose your licence. Thus, be ready to just go to court concerning this issue. The dropping of the charges may be a moot point... in many states (like mine) the state picks up the charges if the spouse drops them. You might want to look in how your state prosecutor deals with these issues.

You say that you actually have proof but does he? It's possible that the police locked you up because they have to lock up someone. (In many states again that is the law) if he ran off and they thought he would return (like.... if he lived next door) then they would lock you up. That does not mean necessarily that the police find you at fault. Find out what's up...

Here's what you do. Do not drop the charges on him. (If he does and the state takes over the case, which is highly likely, then your going to look like your admitting that your proof is falsified) Go to court - so that the judge can declare you as not at fault. If he is without marks etc... most likely the judge will find that the case. Do not claim that you did anything except try to flea from him. And don't stress by your description it sounds like you have a case and he doesn't. This is such a simple case even a court appt. attorney will work out well. Just again... don't allow them to plea you down. Tell them your licence is on the line if you do so. (A court appt attn might try to talk you into it only to lighten their case load.)

My main point is just because he filed charges it does not mean he can make them stick - and boy, is that is going to make angry any level headed judge.

He did get locked up. He pressed charges after he got out of jail as retaliation.

You are a nurse but most important you are a woman, woman are seen as angels that are innocent of everything. Let me tell you your story, you both curse at eachother, you both spit on eachothers faces, you slap, he grabs, you punch, he pushed, you used your loooong tongue claming domestic violence when you also comited the same crime as he did, you only remember the 5 minutes of fights between both of you BUUUT not the rest of the day full of smiles and I love yous by him, after every fight only he tries to fix things, you are still the same grumpy saying I don't do **** I'm not violent and my parents know it, and next day when everything should be normal he wakes up hugging you and you are still the same grumpy person for the whole day. WOMEN ARE THE PROBLEM IN SOCIETY, THAT'S WHY I'M LESBIAN!!!

[Friend In Court]

Some vicious domestic disputes have been reported between lesbians, too. And homosexuals and transgenders . Domestic violence is more about power in a relationship, power one person over the other and inability to control one's anger in an adult manner.

Originally Posted by Unregistered You are a nurse but most important you are a woman, woman are seen as angels that are innocent of everything. Let me tell you your story, you both curse at eachother, you both spit on eachothers faces, you slap, he grabs, you punch, he pushed, you used your loooong tongue claming domestic violence when you also comited the same crime as he did, you only remember the 5 minutes of fights between both of you BUUUT not the rest of the day full of smiles and I love yous by him, after every fight only he tries to fix things, you are still the same grumpy saying I don't do **** I'm not violent and my parents know it, and next day when everything should be normal he wakes up hugging you and you are still the same grumpy person for the whole day. WOMEN ARE THE PROBLEM IN SOCIETY, THAT'S WHY I'M LESBIAN!!!

That has got to be the most illogical comment I've ever heard. "Women are the problem in society, that's why I'm a lesbian". So, what you're saying is,, you prefer the gender that's the biggest problem in society?

Did you take the time to think that through before you typed it?