abuse from military husband

North Carolina Please tell us what direction to go. My daughter married an army man without our knowledge or approval. They have only been married 6 months and in that 6 months he has mentally and physically abused her. She has had a miscarriage and he has wrecked her car. She cried to come home and my husband flew to Georgia and brought her home. Can you tell us what we should do. We keep getting all kinds of advice. We were told to get ahold of Jag and see what they can do for her. Please help!

Did anyone reply to you? I personally am in the same situation... married my military boyfriend after 5 months, but last night he really beat the crap out of me. I just moved in 2 weeks ago. His anger has been a pattern and gotten worse and worse since I got here. I went to the hospital because I thought I had a minor concussion, and I was right.The whole right side of my face is swollen. I feel like I can even go to my praents because they will be so upset I got married and didn't tell them. I am in a horrible situation and I don't know what to do or where to go. I know I can go home, but I am 800 miles away from home and I am so ashamed I have let myself get beaten up. I am even more ashamed in realizing I rushed into this relationship and made a huge mistake. Any motherly advice would be good. I am scared for my life.... if this happens again, he may just kill me without realizing it.

[momintrouble]

sorry, duel posts

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would you rather be ashamed that you got beat up and married a man you barely knew or go home where it is safe and you can get the help you need? i have been in that situation and it wasnt until i was in the hospital after a really serious beating, that he really could kill me. if you dont go hame and something serious does happen to you, do you think your parents are going to say, man, how dumb was she? no, they are going to wonder why you didnt trust them to take care of you. go home now and let the rest work itself out. after you get back to your mom and dads, call the police in your town and have them make a statement. were the police called when you went to the hospital? they should have been

She can certainly file for divorce.

Which may be a good idea based on what you say here.

i am so sorry your daughter had to endure this stint of abuse i do recommend jag but they haven't done much for me.my husband is extremely manipulative and more familiar with the military rules and regulations than i am,and unfortunately everything seems to work in his favor. have been married to a mentally and physically abusive soldier for a month over 2 years.we are both from Brooklyn but he is stationed in TX. our story is a long one resulting in the loss of my front teeth from a blow to the mouth, countless black eyes, scars,humiliation,sexual abuse and being threatened with a rifle,i am 21 and he just came back from Kuwait a few days ago.When my phone rang and i heard his voice a mixture of bile and fear concocted in my stomach,i now have to proceed with a divorce and am having a hard time,he will not pay for my surgery nor does he have a heart,my mother and father both blame me.it really great to see you're a loving caring concerned mother perhaps military one source or the local military base can provide some information?good luck

[searchlight]

Yes, She can file for a divorce, but you can always try to know the reason for your son-in-law's behavior and find a solution by getting him treated if he has a mental problem, provided if your daughter does not wnat to file a divorce