i dont want him to do time

[kellymullis@yahoo.co]

AZ is the state... My boyfriend & I have found it impossible to coexist without serious fights. I can definitely take some blame in the area of provoking him by throwing some of the horrendous things he has done in his face, but over & over he has taken it to the level of violence. He has broken so many things, gotten me kicked out of every place I have lived, abused drugs& abused me physically & threatened my life. He does these things & then so convincingly professes that he will be different, that he loves me, etc. If u r reading this & r a victim of abuse u know exactly what I am talking about. Here is my question: I love him, I know we cant be together, but this is our third incident. His mother told me he is looking at 5-10yrs & as angry as I am for this, I dont think that he deserves that. I am thinking about changing my statement. He is asking me to just get his statement from the police, find out what he told the police that they didnt believe that supposedly I did, & say what he said is true to keep him out of prison. This means I will have to lie. I am not a vindictive person & I dont think prison will help him. He needs professional help & so do I. We have proved that we cannot be in a healthy relationship. If we go our seperate ways, all will be well. So, could I get in trouble for changing my statement? Im not looking to put him in prison.

You may try speaking to the DA....They have the right to continue to pursue the case on their own (even if you don't want them to) but if they feel this was a one-time incident and will never happen again--they may drop it. They want to make sure no abuse is continuing once you two are back together.

Perhaps arrange counseling as well?

Is that perjury? If I had been drinking before giving my statement can I retract it w/out getting in trouble? Im not going to get in trouble to get him out of it.