Can't get husband out of the house ???

My husband and I are married for four years now. All the years he was emotional abusive and I was so naiv to think he would change.
Because of his behavior and certain situations I asked him to leave the house. We have to kids...15 months and 3 and we are living for rent.

Three days later he still doesn't get it why he should get out of the house, why I want to divorce him...he's trying to play his games ("I kill myself." "Because of you I have to go to a homeless shelter now.") and although he gave me his housekey, he stood in the bedroom door at 4 am in the morning. Recently happened. Woke me up and told me he want to talk to me NOW...he doesn't want to leave the house, because HE pays the rent and it's HIS house.
We are renting this house here. He could live with his mom who lives close by and it would be the best for our children and me. He never really hit me, but now I am so scared that I can't go to bed and sleep again. He is very impulsive and this extreme situation brings out the worst in him.

So does anyone know what I could do to get him out of the house? I don't want to go, because that's the home of the kids and it's already hard for them - at least for my oldest.

I would really appreciate any response!

Thanks!

I'm not a lawyer or anything but if your husband is verbally abusing you then in certain states that is considered domestic abuses. You should contact a hotline or you can google the law about domestic abuse in your state. Especially if he's threatening you with this and that. Perhaps a restraining order to prevent him from harrassing you as well.

I'm not a lawyer or anything but if your husband is verbally abusing you then in certain states that is considered domestic abuses. You should contact a hotline or you can google the law about domestic abuse in your state. Especially if he's threatening you with this and that. Perhaps a restraining order to prevent him from harrassing you as well.

He will get out the house once you call the police that he is threatening you and therefore you are in eminent danger especially your kids. Who knows what he will do next. Call the police without him knowing it and they will tell him to leave and then go to the office of dometic abuse and file a restraining order. The you can proceed with a divorce. Make sure to protect your kids by having them under protection from the restraining order as well.

I just went throught the same exact thing. So the process in California is you should file for a restraining order. They can give you a temporary one. On that one you should ask for a move out order. They usually grant it within 24 hours. Then after you call a piece officer and they will escort him out of your house. You have options to whether he can see his children and all. But because he is threatning you, i think this would be the best route to take for now until you both go to court.

Maybe you should move out of the house.

Usaually the women are the ones that make up these type of stories which are false, and no wonder why the men are so angry. Its just as much his house as it is yours. If you want a divorce, get out and be done with it.

Its a shame that women do this to men because they can. What a crying shame.

Divorce him!! That will get him out.

I agree, divorce him!!

**** him real good at night and think of me at that time..that will make him leave himself

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I know it's easy to prejudge others. I think it is wrong.

We don't know but 1 part of this. I will not say anything about you or your husband.

The kids are the most important thing in all of this. Do what needs to be done to keep them safe.

If you are that desperate, then go to a womens shelter, and let the counslers there help you.

Dont' wait if it is that bad.

I say this based on what you said. There are 2 sides of the story.

Stop the man/women bashing if you don't know both sides of the story.

first of all for all those who replied negative, you are jerks, and for the women that is going through the verbal abuse, you have a choice to get him straight out on his ass. if u really wanted to. im going through the same **** but i have a choice to stay or go i to have 2 children, i bought a house with my jerk and we both pay here but if u really had enough of this **** ou would say take everything im getting the fxxx out of here if it means giving up everything to have peace in my life you bet im going to let him take everything and shove it up his axx, my happiness means more than the house and muterial stuff and your renting its so much more easy for you to pick up and leave the child thing u said is just an excuse for you u need a resion to disable you but if ur serious belive me u would have been gone already because people that are misrable and stay is because they like misary,, u know what to do