Help. My husband's ex-wife is stalking me

[divinediva]

My husband's ex wife is stalking me. She hired a private investigator where I had all my personal information including my social security number mailed anonymously to my husband. I confronted her on it and she said her attorney told her to do it. Then yesterday I get a call from Geico stating that numerous changes were done to my account and I needed to confirm if I received the fax. I said what fax? They then gave me the number, it was my husband's ex-wife's number. She had my insurance cards, the binder and change all the online information. I put a special code on the account when you call but it does no good, when you go online because she has my ss# and my date of birth plus now the policy number. She can keep logging in and changing it. So, I called the police they did a report, but no crime was committed onlky her accessing my personal information and changing it around. Then I was told to call the state attorney and they said it would take 2 weeks for them to possibly get the case, then they are not even sure if it is a case they will take. THIS HAS happened with my medical insurance also. They told me to call back at the begininning of June until then try to file a restraining order then once if it is issued to call them back. If the case is not something they are taking ask to speak with an intake coordinator to demand that something be done.

What can I do? This woman is making my life a living hell, she filed a false restraining order against my husband ever since this new judge issued it. She calls the police 2-3x a week, then calls Dept of Children and Families stating we run a porn ring out of our household with her 4 year old daughter.

Please help..NOW WE JUST FOUND OUT THAT SHE HAD OUR MAIL FORWARDED FROM OUR OLD ADDRESS TO HER ADDRESS, HENCE THE REASON WE HAVEN'T RECEIVED OUR MAIL IN THE PAST 2 WEEKS.

[angel1964]

I would think for starters thats mail fraud an call the police. Myboyfriends ex was sleeping with a married cop for 10 yrs and she came into our home and stole hair from all of our hairbrushes thinking she can get her cop boyfriend to do a drug test. Well for one if he did do that its against the law and needless to say she will never enter my home again. I dont understand why no one is helping you. I would go to your court house and file a restraining order. You said they have her fax number, There is proof that she is doing this. I think any judge would grant this order.

[divinediva]

You would think it would be that simple. We have all the proof. However, all the sheriff's department has done was do a report and then call her to threaten her with prosecution but she tells the cops she has stuff on us so all you hear the cop saying is "uh huh" and "ok, well contact your attorney" So, now it is up to the detective to come to our house and get more information, then decide if it will go to the state attorneys office.

Is there any attorneys that can answer this, can she be prosecuted to the fullest extent? What else can we do get her to stop all this b.s. she keeps making crap up, she has even gone as far to take our myspace page and manipulate it to her benefit where a detective contacted us stating we were running a porno ring. We are dealing with a vindictive person who will go at nothing and stop at nothing. I mean you think by the police seeing that things were faxed to her fax number. Then forwarding our mail to her house online by using her credit card.

I am at my wits end. I am so tired of this crap and I am tired of my life being turned upside down.

Wow! Your story sounds like mine. I wish I could tell you it will get better, however, we've been married 13 years and she's only gotten worse. The police aren't very helpful here either. Matter of fact she filed court papers and gave an address that my hus. grew up at which no one lives at any longer, (she knows where we live b/c she drives by several times a week and takes pics of us and our house) needless to say my husband didn't know he was suppose to go to court and he got a failure to appear then a bench warrant. Which we found out about when she called the police to tell them she found him, they then came and arrested him. He did get out the next day and went to court which they said the warrant should have never been put out b/c the courts had a copy of the returned envelopes that were mailed to the old address. But of course this is all after the arrest. We on see her when she drives by our place of employ. or our house. There is no reason for her to keep stalking us. She is 10 years older than I am, so this is like a middle aged woman, not a child acting this way. We have no contact w/her and wish to never talk to her again, however she keeps stalking us. I truly hope it gets better for you. Everyone has a right to go on with their lives.....

[DeeBeesHive]

you have proof that she is stealing your identity and making changes to your financial
status without permission.
she has hacked your my space pages and left a computer finger print.
she has called your creditors and left information of contact that leads back to her.

why is this woman not in jail?
why will the cops do nothing?

ask your husband to go to the court house where they got married and divorced .
get copy's of the divorce papers and marriage licence.
all of her information is on these documents.
evil begets evil.
on the credit cards she has accuses too, start charging up stuff and have it
delivered to her home.
washer, dryer, refrigerator, big flat screen tv, stove with range top, just for an idea.
when the bills arrive, call the bills and dispute the charges, then go to the cops and make an identity theft report.
during the investigation they will get a warrant to search the home the stuff was delivered too.
when they find the stuff and your information in her home, she will go to jail.

[loved08]

This is FREAKIN AWESOME!!! HAHA.... DAM "deebees..." thats the ****. If there ever was something so simple for my situation. I am 24. I have an almost 10 yr older ex of my husband. She's psycho too. What's the effin deal w/ these freaks? Get a fkn life. Don't they get tired of starring at you w/ how happy you are? until you fight fire with fire they will NOT go away. We finally got a hearing next thur (maybe it's a "b" case...2nd case of the day)..hopefully we'll get a protective order while we're there. This is absolutely insane. She makes me literally want to puke. She burned down his house the DAY AFTER HIS DAD DIED. Well...got her crack-head lesbian, prostitute best-friend to do it. She had pawned his 10,000 baseball card collection, along with other very expensive family antiques. Their WEDDING RINGS, etc. She did all this while her 3 yr old was in the house. She had a prostitution ring & crack house all in one. It's a 1 stop shop. haha. for real though. This chick is unbelievable. And yet, she STILL has joint custody of her children & pregnant w/ a 3rd. WOW. For what reason would anyone allow these people to keep seeing their kids? Do these ***** ass judges pay attention AT ALL when we are in court???? I don't understand!!!! ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! PUT THEIR ASSES IN JAIL AND LEAVE THEM TO ROT!!!!!

I agree. I am so tired of this so sh**. Here it is the holiday weekend and we are suppose to have my step daughter but nope the ex wont let us have her. We have fought tooth and nail. The cops can't do anything due to the fact it is not criminal. So, we have to file an emergency hearing. ugh DCF is finally getting involved due to the face she has refused them the right to see the 4 year old. How to stop a broken heart and how to to try and help your husband going through the same thing.

[loved08]

*SIGH* Don't worry. We're going through the same...as I said. We have her on TAPE & they still don't give a ****. There are TONS of ways to get around laws and put someone in jail. TRUST ME! I've studied criminal justice. Which is also why I CHANGED my majors as well. Enough is enough. there are sooo many laws out there that HAVE to be changed. Now it's become more about "protecting all's rights" then actually protecting victims. **** their "rights". I once heard a professor say "once the abuser/etc. crosses the lines between their rights and the victims, the abuser...no longer has rights." This is the best way i've ever heard it put. Once you cross over into someone else's personal space; you no longer have "rights". You then have the right to shut your mouth and go to jail. I'm tired of all these bs cops, judges, etc. There are ways to put these ppl in jail and help these poor kids have a decent life. This is ridiculous. There are ppl in jail for no child support (which as a receiver of child support..there are better forms of punishment that might actually work...believe me). There are ppl in jail for d.u.s. (license issues,etc) for pot charges, etc. There's another issue. When I was younger I had my "experiments" w/ pot...NOT a bad thing. It causes NO health issues besides: hunger, red eyes, & laziness. WOW. There are child molesters getting off easier than potheads. WOW. There are CRACK DEALERS, METH DEALERS, && PROSTITUTES GETTING OFF EASIER THAN POTHEADS. What the f is wrong w/ our system and our "LEADERS"??? Does the entire system need to go through a refresher course??

We have our hearing next thurs. If we go and she gets any rights, I have already warned police officers and I will warn the courts again: when this woman has her POOR POOR child (oh yea-she's preg AGAIN...)...I will get back. There is only sooo much a person can take. I will NOT stand there again and let her put her hands on me infront of her children. I backed off bc I'm the "better person" yet I can't get **** protection from anyone w/ any sort of "power" bc they're all TOOOO "p.c."...WTF? stupid. just stupid.
p.s. also thought of something else for you "un.." if you called the credit card companies now you should be able to get THEM to charge her w/ identity theft. if that doesn't work. stalk her. call her ALL THE TIME. drive by her house ALL THE TIME. egg her house. bad. this is horrible. it takes a LONG time to get eggs off paint. i've done this. lol. its fun. when you have the kid; sugar in the gas tank. great. shuts down the whole engine. also...kee her car. this is great too. if there's no fingerprints there's no proof...lol. it's $2,000 worth of damage. i like to use the words "*****" & "i suck dick" personally. "*****" things such as this, etc etc... sooo funny. wait til you see the look from this. oh...sugar inthe gas tank? about $3,000 worth, or a new engine; however you wanna put it; same outcome. it's sad this is the only way to sanity. i've tried to "ignore" my psycho but this does NOT work. it only gives her time to get more angry and freak out on some new****. & it gives her time to come up w a new plan. which she has TONS. dee's right.
EVIL BEGETS EVIL. PRAY.

[angel1964]

loved08 your brilliant egg her house stalk her yeah so she can go to jail??? Now I know why you dont know what your talking about. 24, wet behind the ears. Dont give advice like this to this person. Dont egg her house and dont stalk her. what comes around goes around and she will get hers some day. But your just as bad if you stalk her and do bad things to her. And you loved08 your going to kcik her butt???? yet in the other blog you come off as such an educated wise woman of the world. Your trash. You are no better than your ex's wife and this persons ex. grow up. and your 24 years old an have how many kids??????? holy crap.

Wow-you all I need help not childish ideas or everybody trashing people on this board. I understand if you have gone through what I have; but come on people need help. Your right no one needs to break the law but again I can understand some of the frustration that one person may feel. They can vent it but calling someone an idiot doesn't help

So, please I need help still, she is still stalking, calling false reports into Dcf where I have to beg for someone to look into. I have had to report her to the police where they have to look into it, but still it sucks because it takes just as much as time. I still have to show up to court with my husband to proove my husband is innocent.

Just anything if we need more advice give the right kind to help.