Trust Issues Marriage (New Brunswick, Canada)

[Chipanddaleshihtzu]

New Brunswick Canada.

For 13 years I have been handing over my disabilty pension to my husband. Yes I keep some of it , reason being my husbands X took him to court in the begining of our relationship and it cost thousands of dollars. And because I assumed his X would do as the judge originally ordered. Take the next two years get a job etc. Well 13 years later he is still paying alimony and child support to a 23 year old child. And X wife. So I keep the same amount of moneys he pays them.

But this money I keep, goes to us. Things I figure he should not have to worry about. Things we need and also things for our dreams.

The money I give him was suppose to be to fix our home. Home is not fixed. He says he has no money to fix the house cause he needs mine just so we can live. I have never seen this mans payslip or his income tax. He will not show me his income tax. He says he get direct depost , so there is no pay slip.

Well recently I found out quite by accident that this man, whom I thought loved me and was looking after our best interest has been taking money without telling me. I also have tried to ask about money in the past and he gets lets say quite abusive verbally. I know If I push for more answers that will turn into physical so I don't.

I have been sick for many years and didn't fight him. I am not as sick anymore and am ready to deal with this. I am too old to end up with nothing after working all my life. This is bull ****.

I want to know how can I find out where our money is going. Not the money he wants me to see , but the money he dosen't.

Long story, but lets just say . The last reason he had for all his expensise is . If I don't get sick again maybe he will get caught up. He says when I get sick that he dosen't get his travel expenses from work and that pays for the gas , car, tires, etc.

Well my truck has been sitting in our local garage downtown for over a year needing repairs when I ask about it he blames the mechanic.

But he did go out and buy himself a car. He is not doing without.

Our line of credit which was a small amount 3 years ago . Well I didn't know it was like a credit card and quite by accident I found out he has been using it for the past 3 years. We now owe more than it was originally for.

The list goes on. But what I want to know is can this man be charged for forsaking the trust I have put in him for the last 13 years. Can I find out where he is putting our money. Do I have any left etc.

I need help, and advice

Sorry for all your have been through here. The bottom line is that this is a rather complicated ordeal, and you absolutely need to speak with a Canadian solicitor. If you will please go to the WLD main page, you can receive referral information for legal counsel in your area. This is truly the only prudent next step at this point. Hope things look brighter for you soon. AJJ

No, he cannot "be charged" with "forsaking your trust". Why does everyone bring the law into their relationships when they are being stupid and letting themselves be taken advantage of?

What you need to do is wise up and realize that this man has no character and the only reason to be seeking an attorney is for a divorce.

You chose this man. You've chosen to put up with his lying, sneaky behavior. That is not considered criminal. If he lays his hand on you, however, you can call the police and they will arrest him for domestic assault.

This is why con-artists get away with stealing money. They prey on the gullible and too trusting. You did not have to so freely hand your financial life over to this man. Nobody should do that, no matter what the circumstances. If he blew it, you gave him permission because you handed over your money and allowed him to run the financial household. He's been running the show and being secretive about his life and you've allowed it for all these years. That is not a criminal offense. It is your responsibility to get out of bad relationships.

Seek an attorney, but for a divorce!