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Hello, I'm writing because my brother has gotten himself in to a huge mess and my whole family is going through this with him. He was married to a woman and they are going through a divorce. This woman has threatened him in every sense of the word because she doesn't want the divorce. He is in the military so she wants to keep his benefits and all he wants is a clean divorce. He recently signed the final papers and was waiting for her to sign them and for this to be done. This is in California by the way. Well come to find out she's been sitting on them because she wants to add that if he gets married in the next three years, she wants spousal support, even though the judge already decided neither party was getting spousal. Is this even possible? I mean once they are divorced why can she have any control over what he does with his life? I would really appreciate some advice because I love my brother very much but he feels like this woman has made his life hell.

Thanks

[tbyte]

I can't believe she can be successful with this argument. Either she is entitled to spousal support or she is not. His getting married at a later time should have nothing to do with it. As she cited any legal justification for this? Otherwise, she is just delaying things, and hoping to inconvenience him enough to get him to agree to her terms.

tbyte, you're absolutely right. She has nothing to back this up. I do not know her very well but I do know she is a bitter woman that refuses to let go. How long can she legally sit on those final papers? And can she just keep obtaining amendments? Is there every a cutoff point? Sorry about all the questions And I've read your responses to a lot of people and completely agree with you. I am a woman and have witnessed divorces all around me and the majority of the problems come from the woman. I stand close to my girls but not when it comes down to dependent women who can't move on and just let things happen. It makes me sick

[tbyte]

I don't know what the laws of California are regarding signing the papers, but I do know that one of the priorities for Judges and Magistrates is getting cases off of their docket. If you file a motion for expedient closure of the case and cite her lack of cooperation, you may get they sympathy of the court.

I told my brother what you had said and he told his lawyer that he wanted to file for bifurcation but the judge would not allow it because she said the marriage will be terminated when everything is done....whatever that means...so now he is dishing out more money and a date of 19 June was given but he didn't really understand what it meant. His lawyer is not very informative which is why I'm talking to yoU But I guess what the lawyer said that is was another court date to make everything final...does that mean the marriage. The papers have already been finalized just awaiting her signature....I guess I'm just confused and so is my brother...I am helping him financially with all of this so we're trying to save money before it becomes too much...thanks for your help

[tbyte]

I think there is a good chance that a decision will be made on June 19, but even then it may take a month or so for the court to write it up and enter it into the record.