Need help

I know it is illegal to wire tap a phone line but is it legal in the state of CT to use a voice activated tape recorder in your home to prove that your wife was cheating on you? We have proof that a friend of mines soon to be ex was cheating for 11 yrs. He doesnt even know if his son is his. She speaks very explicitly on the tapes of sexual acts she would do to him and how she was a woman of the night we will say and how she got arrested for it at one time and how she hangs out with drug addicts and prostitues and not very nice people. Can we get her lover subpeanoed to court and his wife, yes he is married to testify? The wife readily admits she knows he cheated on her with this nasty person and she admits it was for 11 yrs. He is afraid to have the paternity test. He wants to know the truth but doesnt. he would never tell his son if he wasnt his but the mother would in a heartbeat. She is bad news.

[annjd]

Often that is not allowed but you can corroborate the evidence in other ways.

We normally recommend you check with your state attorney general's office or the local police dept. before taping. See also "taping phone calls" on the site -- http://www.worldlawdirect.com/article/1042

If you can't tape calls then you normally cannot tape conversations--if you can tape calls then check with your State Attorney General for the laws regarding in-person conversations.

My wife whom is working in legal firm has given me 2 intended divorce proceeding letters as of year 2007. She has been steadily building her cases in writing behind my back just to get legal credits for herself in the eyes of the law. I as the man of the house does not seem to have any right even though i have been contributing financially for the maintenance of the family & monthly payment of the matrimonial home. I have been living under mental stress and undergoing medical treatment living under this female dominant environment home for the last 12 years of marriage & I cannot disagree with my wife pertaining to family or kids matter, otherwise i will be taken to court on the matter, which has already happen on 27 Mar 2008. Her family members also a strong influence over my kids & they has a say in my family matters and my wife fully support their decisions. I consider myself as mere family banker & a puppet in this marriage. All i want to know is what basic right does a husband/father has to protect himself against this unjust legal attacks from the wife. I have told my lawyer that she can have what she has asked for in her earlier legal letters, ie custody of kids, the matrimonial home & child maintenance. She responded with more terms, including more money for the kids. Appreciate guidance on the issue to stop this legal harassment. I have lost the purpose of life as both my daughters has also being alienated away from me & their paternal grandparents thru their constant brain washing. I NEEEED HELPP!!!!

[tbyte]

You NEEEED to know the laws of your State.
You NEEEED to stop letting her walk all over you.
You NEEEED to understand that you have, legally, the same rights as she does.
You NEEEED to realize that none of these rights are worth crap if you fail to assert them.

good advice, and i agree

Originally Posted by tbyte 1) You NEEEED to know the laws of your State. 2) You NEEEED to stop letting her walk all over you. 3) You NEEEED to understand that you have, legally, the same rights as she does. 4) You NEEEED to realize that none of these rights are worth crap if you fail to assert them.

Item 2 & 4 above, any suggestion how?

TQ

[angel1964]

Unregistered. I feel for you. You have to go to court but guess what. They dont give a rats ass about the guy and what he wants. and believe me the witches can say everything they do they are doing for the kids. Its a lie. Its to piss you off and make you mad so you just give in and give everything. What you needed to know and what is possible are 2 totally different things. Its easy for people to say you needed to do things but sometimes it is easier said than done. And until someone goes through it they have no idea what they are talking about. Keep a notebook. Write everything down. May help, may not. I was doing this for my boyfriend but I gave up. He has his own agenda and I have to let him deal with it the way he choses wether it is right or wrong. But write everything down. I would get your own checking acct too. If you can start saving some money or put the acct in someone close to you name. Like your mom or sister or someone. That way the evil swine cant touch it. As far as the kids go. They are your children and you have every right to be there father. Brainwashing is a terrible thing. My boyfriends ex is an experst at it. His son lies to him and keeps secrets from him and his mother is so far up his but it isnt funny. So know that your not alone and keep your chin up. Document everything. Dump that witch and move on

Originally Posted by angel1964 Unregistered. I feel for you. You have to go to court but guess what. They dont give a rats ass about the guy and what he wants. and believe me the witches can say everything they do they are doing for the kids. Its a lie. Its to piss you off and make you mad so you just give in and give everything. What you needed to know and what is possible are 2 totally different things. Its easy for people to say you needed to do things but sometimes it is easier said than done. And until someone goes through it they have no idea what they are talking about. Keep a notebook. Write everything down. May help, may not. I was doing this for my boyfriend but I gave up. He has his own agenda and I have to let him deal with it the way he choses wether it is right or wrong. But write everything down. I would get your own checking acct too. If you can start saving some money or put the acct in someone close to you name. Like your mom or sister or someone. That way the evil swine cant touch it. As far as the kids go. They are your children and you have every right to be there father. Brainwashing is a terrible thing. My boyfriends ex is an experst at it. His son lies to him and keeps secrets from him and his mother is so far up his but it isnt funny. So know that your not alone and keep your chin up. Document everything. Dump that witch and move on

TQ for the guidance, may god bless u & yr boyfriend.