Long Distance Relationship Turned Nightmare

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Old Aug 9th, 2012, 12:03 AM   #1
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After searching this site for information, I have decided to create my own thread with hope that I might receive any kind of helpful advice. I'm a college student from the US and I had met a Japanese woman online. We decided we liked each other enough to have a long distance relationship. She eventually started to encouraged me to come visit her but I explained I'm just a poor college student with no money for such a desirable trip. On my summer break I'm usually busting my butt at any part-time jobs I can get, so I asked her to wait for me to come the following year. However, I extended her an invitation to come visit me in the states which she considered. After awhile she tells me that the cost of the tickets for her and her daughter are much more expensive if she could just pay my way to come stay with her over the summer, she would save money. I accepted, thus she sent me $2000 to cover a round trip flight to Japan. We talk about things we would do such as sight-seeing various places and she asked me to help with her and her daughter's English (which I said I'm not an English teacher but I would surely do my best). Good luck to us was our general attitude.

When I arrived things became a nightmare and 5 days later I found myself homeless. We did nothing as we planned. Every morning she dropped me off at a local church where she arranged (unbeknowningly to me before-hand) to do English conversation from 8:00 am to 2:00 pm. After that I would walk home to her house and wait for her daughter to get home for school then I was to "tutor" until my "girlfriend" came home at 6:30 pm. Meanwhile, my girlfriend's mother lived at the house and I could just feel that she hated me. After 5 days I was given a train ticket to Tokyo and a request to go home. I packed my suitcase and sent my parents a message to transfer me $300 to change my return ticket. However, at this time in Japan the holiday season set my return flight for 2 months from then! Literally, I found myself destitute requiring an emergency loan from the US Embassy in the amount of $2450. The State department Bought me a ticket home. Upon arrival home, she has mailed me that she is going to sue me for $10,000 officially unless I pay her back the $2,000. Yet we had never talked about any payback. At this point I'm ignoring her threatening emails and I'm considering getting a lawyer should she sues. She's already harassed me by contacting my University, and I'm just in a daze that this is happening to me. If she sues, can I counter-sue? Does she have any claim to sue me for the $2,000?

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Old Aug 9th, 2012, 12:17 AM   #2
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I wish to inform you that the amount of $2,000 was paid to you as a gift. The transaction was never intended to be a loan transaction and thus there is no requirement of returning money. You can inform other party that you had not taken loan and the amount was a gift which was spent as per the recommendation and wishes of
other person so you are not personally liable. You can file a counter claim in lawsuit.
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No, you have no obligation to pay her back the $2,000 she advanced you for the trip.

Consider yourself well out of the situation and have learned a lesson about online relationships and precipitous trips. Especially when your finances are too lean to pay for hotel if things do not work out and pay your way home, yourself.
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Thank you for the reply AFF and Friend In Court. Much appreciated. I shall wait and see what happens.
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