Can wife who left , keep kids from talking to their dad on phone?

Complicated mess with wife leaving with kids, and going through chips court now with false allegations of husband being dangerous.

The dad bought a cell phone for the kids to call him, and the wife took it away from their 13 yr old son so he can't talk to his dad. Can she legally do this, and does he(the dad) have to wait until the next hearing before they can talk on phone again? Atty seems to think there is nothing he can do since he said the judge doesn't want to be bothered with it. Is this right, or can the dad request a hearing so he can at least talk to his son instead of waiting so long for the far apart hearings?

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Originally Posted by Unregistered Complicated mess with wife leaving with kids, and going through chips court now with false allegations of husband being dangerous. The dad bought a cell phone for the kids to call him, and the wife took it away from their 13 yr old son so he can't talk to his dad. Can she legally do this, and does he(the dad) have to wait until the next hearing before they can talk on phone again? Atty seems to think there is nothing he can do since he said the judge doesn't want to be bothered with it. Is this right, or can the dad request a hearing so he can at least talk to his son instead of waiting so long for the far apart hearings?

[randalljd]

She can take it away while the child is with her.

You each have the time you have--if you or she really want to be that strict about it.

I have the same problem...only the other way around. They have a "don't call mommy rule" when my daughter is with her dad (they refers to grandparents and father). He states it's HIS time and he will not let my existance interrupt it. I say I'm still her mom even when she is with him. He uses our daughters cell (that I provide) when she is not with him to call her and she calls him (depending on the girlfriend of the month). With some girlfriends, he calls her everyday to prove what a "good dad" he is and the next one...he almost forgets she exists. He let her use it for a couple of months after I told her she wasn't allowed to. But then I offered him a week of parenting time with her this summer (as our case is still chuging) and he responded by accepting it, picking her up and immediately re-instituting the "don't call mommy rule" - he txt'd me to let me know this rule was back on as he was pulling out of the driveway. It's still "on".

I'm going to try and get open phone access worked into the order (we are still in court) with the phone I provide. I never know where she is going to be....and he often leaves her with a relative or babysitter on his overnights. We will see....

sounds to me like your issue isnt with the no call mommy rule your just really angry at him. get over it and get on with your life. And he is right, that is his time with his daughter. I ams ure if there was a problem or an issue she could call you. Has she said anything to you to make you think he is harmful to her or would hurt her in anyway? Does she come home beaten. And the girlfriend crack, are you jealous? It isnt about you or him or his friends it is about your children being happy and spending quality time with their dad.

YOU are bitter. I am perfectly fine and very happy!

[tbyte]

He is exerting control over what is probably the only area he has control.
If courts treated fathers with equal respect, a lot of this bitterness could be avoided.

You have NO idea TByte. You don't live in reality.

I some questions to you selfish mom haters out there. As there are a lot!

If a mom and childs relationship must be interuppted - ie no phone calls when child is with dad - is it the same the other way around? What if the child is with mom and deny's contact not to interupt "her time". Is that OK too? Is this good for the child to have to pretend she only has one parent when with the other?

Are we all REALLY looking out for the childs best interests by doing that? Phone calls provide a link. For the child to know there are two parents that are always there (in one way or another). If this RIGHT is not abused or misused, why shouldn't it exist? Can someone argue logically why a child should not be able to call either parent when with the other? Why is mom's time different from dad's time? The child loves BOTH parents. That love should be reinforced. Not severed. You liked the mom enough at one time apparently. Don't push your hate to your child. Don't punish the child (same if the situation is the other way around - mom refusing access).

This is the kids we are talking about. Get off the "control" equal rights in court stance - don't justify this selfish behavior. This is about a childs access to the other parent by means that do not cost the other parent a penny. It should be allowed.

[tbyte]

Originally Posted by Unregistered You have NO idea TByte. You don't live in reality.

You have NO idea where I live, or what I have lived through. YOU cannot even be bothered to log in to the forum.
Pish-posh.