AZ Visitation-

Hello, I was wondering if I could get some advice. My baby was just born on Dec. 13, 2007. He 'came about' from a one night stand. I was engaged at the time, but we had broken up very breifly. I am still with my fiance.

My problem is that when we told his biological father, he demanded that he have 50/50 visitaion/custody. He lives in Washington State right now, and said he would be moving down this summer. He wants to alternate having the baby every other week. I think this is far too much. He does not have to time to have the baby 50/50 (I'm a stay-at-home mom) He goes to college full time, works part time at a resturant, and is in the Army reserves.

Being back and forth between homes does not sound like a good situation for a baby (or any child, really) He needs a routine and stability at this age. And most of all he needs to be with his mother! I told his biological father that I would agree to him having him every other weekend, and maybe for one day during the week (but he has school every single day)

So, I have a few questions...Does he have a shot at getting 50/50 if he really goes to court with this? In your opinions, what do judges generally do regarding infants? I did not have any kind or relationship with this guy, and also my fiance is this baby's father-figure. He held him before I did, and he will grow up knowing my fiance as his father, so will that play a part?

So please...I'd like any and all input anyone may have...regarding the court process for infants, child support, visistation...anything. I really need to know as much as possible.

thank you

Originally Posted by Unregistered

Hello, I was wondering if I could get some advice. My baby was just born on Dec. 13, 2007. He 'came about' from a one night stand. I was engaged at the time, but we had broken up very breifly. I am still with my fiance.

My problem is that when we told his biological father, he demanded that he have 50/50 visitaion/custody. He lives in Washington State right now, and said he would be moving down this summer. He wants to alternate having the baby every other week. I think this is far too much. He does not have to time to have the baby 50/50 (I'm a stay-at-home mom) He goes to college full time, works part time at a resturant, and is in the Army reserves.

Being back and forth between homes does not sound like a good situation for a baby (or any child, really) He needs a routine and stability at this age. And most of all he needs to be with his mother! I told his biological father that I would agree to him having him every other weekend, and maybe for one day during the week (but he has school every single day)

So, I have a few questions...Does he have a shot at getting 50/50 if he really goes to court with this? In your opinions, what do judges generally do regarding infants? I did not have any kind or relationship with this guy, and also my fiance is this baby's father-figure. He held him before I did, and he will grow up knowing my fiance as his father, so will that play a part?

So please...I'd like any and all input anyone may have...regarding the court process for infants, child support, visistation...anything. I really need to know as much as possible.

thank you

If the "father" does file in court, it's very possible that the court will require a DNA test to make sure that he is actually the bio-father. Once that true paternity is established, the father WILL be able to have some form of custody and visitation. With living so far apart, 50/50 is most likely not going to be ordered though. The court will decide custody and visitation based on the child's best interests. It is ALWAYS in a child's best interests to have BOTH parents in thier life on a regular basis. It will also be in a child's best interests that the child have only one father- the legal father. So, you should begin now to prepare yourself for NOT referring to your fiance as "daddy" or any other thing that can even remotely be construed as alienating the child from his real father. Alot of mothers have lost custody to the legal fathers when they have done that.

All in all, you really should get a consult with a local attorney who can provide a full explaination of your rights, and the father's rights.

The biological father will be moving down to AZ at some point. I imagine that if he takes it to court, he will be living here already.
What amount of visitaion do you think he will get?
Regardless of what I do or say, the baby will consider my fiance to be his "daddy" He has been around him his whole life...which is not long but it doesn't take babies long to be attached to thier parents. It's not like he knows that my fiance is not his biological father....