Request for support reduction

[mplsfitter539]

5 years ago when my ex wife filed for divorce she was awarded full custody and $1300 per month for support. I haven't worked in almost 5 years and live in Costa Rica because of arthritis and lymes disease. My parents have agreed to pay $300 per month for support to my daughter. What are the odds that my amount will be reduced upon a hearing with a magistrate? Right now the offer stands that $300 gets paid every month and that I don't have to go to jail. That's it $300 or nothing and I stay in Costa Rica or wherever else I choose to live outside the good old USA.

Originally Posted by mplsfitter539 5 years ago when my ex wife filed for divorce she was awarded full custody and $1300 per month for support. I haven't worked in almost 5 years and live in Costa Rica because of arthritis and lymes disease. My parents have agreed to pay $300 per month for support to my daughter. What are the odds that my amount will be reduced upon a hearing with a magistrate? Right now the offer stands that $300 gets paid every month and that I don't have to go to jail. That's it $300 or nothing and I stay in Costa Rica or wherever else I choose to live outside the good old USA.

Without your ex's agreement to forgive arrears and accept the "offer", your odds are, well, let me put it this way: The odds that my late husband will show up on my door today are a million times greater than the odds of a magistrate reducing CS or arrears for a non paying, deadbeat father.

Originally Posted by Unregistered Without your ex's agreement to forgive arrears and accept the "offer", your odds are, well, let me put it this way: The odds that my late husband will show up on my door today are a million times greater than the odds of a magistrate reducing CS or arrears for a non paying, deadbeat father.

She doesn't have to forgive the arrears they will get paid at the rate of 300 per month until fully paid. Possibly in the future I could make another offer to pay off all the debt at a discount. I think my offer is good. It would be irresponsible for a magistrate to say no. The offer is 300 or nothing so 300 is way better for my daughter than nothing is don't you agree? Saying no means no money and I stay here in beautiful Costa Rica.

Originally Posted by Unregistered She doesn't have to forgive the arrears they will get paid at the rate of 300 per month until fully paid. Possibly in the future I could make another offer to pay off all the debt at a discount. I think my offer is good. It would be irresponsible for a magistrate to say no. The offer is 300 or nothing so 300 is way better for my daughter than nothing is don't you agree? Saying no means no money and I stay here in beautiful Costa Rica.

Let's see-
you already owe approx $78,000.00 in unpaid CS.
Add to that the approx. $62,400.00 in current CS for the next 4 yrs (until daughter turns 18).

That is a grand total of $140,400.00 BEFORE ANY INTEREST IS ADDED.

You want YOUR PARENTS (of course, not you) to pay $300.00 per month- FOR THE NEXT 39 YEARS???????????

You are an idiot who is by far the most despicable, disgusting dead beat dad I have ever run across in all my years of dealing with family law.

I think that the best thing that could happen to you is if whoever it is that is supporting you were to suddenly stop, and you would find yourself totally alone, homeless, hungry, helpless and no matter how hard you begged, no one would give you any help whatsoever, not even a sip of water. Well, come to think of it, unless you decide to change and become a human again by actually paying some real CS YOURSELF, I can easily imagine that hell is alot like that description for deadbeats sub-humans like you.

I will agin, repeat my previous advice:

Contact the CS agency in the US, tell them that you want to come back, be a man and pay CS. They will arrange it so that you will be allowed back into the US, then YOU (not anyone else) can either make decent CS payments or prove to the court that you are truly disabled so that you can live on SSI of only $657.00 per month. You might be poorer, but at least you will have rejoined the human race.

Originally Posted by Unregistered Let's see- you already owe approx $78,000.00 in unpaid CS. Add to that the approx. $62,400.00 in current CS for the next 4 yrs (until daughter turns 18). That is a grand total of $140,400.00 BEFORE ANY INTEREST IS ADDED. You want YOUR PARENTS (of course, not you) to pay $300.00 per month- FOR THE NEXT 39 YEARS??????????? You are an idiot who is by far the most despicable, disgusting dead beat dad I have ever run across in all my years of dealing with family law. I think that the best thing that could happen to you is if whoever it is that is supporting you were to suddenly stop, and you would find yourself totally alone, homeless, hungry, helpless and no matter how hard you begged, no one would give you any help whatsoever, not even a sip of water. Well, come to think of it, unless you decide to change and become a human again by actually paying some real CS YOURSELF, I can easily imagine that hell is alot like that description for deadbeats sub-humans like you. I will agin, repeat my previous advice: Contact the CS agency in the US, tell them that you want to come back, be a man and pay CS. They will arrange it so that you will be allowed back into the US, then YOU (not anyone else) can either make decent CS payments or prove to the court that you are truly disabled so that you can live on SSI of only $657.00 per month. You might be poorer, but at least you will have rejoined the human race.

First off if you are representative of the entire human race than no thank you I don't won't to become like you.
Second the money may not seem like a lot but its all that can be afforded at the present time and its a lot better than nothing. Its really not important to pay back the arrears quickly because the money if for my daughter not my ex wife.
Third you really need to consider the anger management that I suggested to you before. You are such an angry person I would imagine it causes great stress in your life. Costa Rica is very tranquil and relaxing you should come here some time. And that brings to mind my next point.
Fourth I really don't have it too bad right now and unless someone can tell me why I should trade in peacefulness for court litigation and freedom for slavery and Costa Rica for a 5 by 8 jailcell in the USA than forget it. $300 or nothing thats the deal.
By the way don't worry your pretty little head about weather or not I am disabled, if I don't feel like having a 40 hour a week job it is my decision not the government. We still live in a free country right????????

Originally Posted by Unregistered First off if you are representative of the entire human race than no thank you I don't won't to become like you. THANK YOU, I CONSIDER THAT A GREAT COMPLIMENT TO ME AND EVERY OTHER DECENT PERSON WHO KNOWS WHAT COMPASSION AND LOVE IS. Second the money may not seem like a lot but its all that can be afforded at the present time and its a lot better than nothing. NO, I AGREE THAT IT'S NOT ALOT, SO, IF YOU ARE SO CONCERNED ABOUT PAYING SOMETHING- HOW MUCH HAVE YOUR PARENTS PAID IN CS, ON YOUR BEHALF, IN THE LAST 5 MONTHS? Third you really need to consider the anger management that I suggested to you before. You are such an angry person I would imagine it causes great stress in your life. Costa Rica is very tranquil and relaxing you should come here some time. I DO NOT HAVE ANY ANGER PROBLEMS AT ALL, WHAT YOU MISTAKE FOR ANGER IS PURE DISGUST- NOTHING MORE. I'M SURE THAT COSTA RICA, AND ALOT OF OTHER PLACES ARE VERY NICE, BUT, I CANNOT AFFORD TO TRAVEL AND ENJOY MYSELF THE WAY YOU DO, SIMPLY BECAUSE I AM SUPPORTING MY FAMILY AND MYSELF. And that brings to mind my next point. Fourth I really don't have it too bad right now and unless someone can tell me why I should trade in peacefulness for court litigation and freedom for slavery and Costa Rica for a 5 by 8 jailcell in the USA than forget it. $300 or nothing thats the deal. YOU'VE ALREADY BEEN GIVEN THE BEST REASON TO TRADE IN YOUR "PEACEFULNESS" FOR COURT, ETC.- BECAUSE IT'S THE RIGHT THING TO DO, IT IS FOR YOUR DAUGHTER, AND YOU MIGHT BE ABLE TO KEEP YOURSELF OUT OF ETERNAL HELL AFTER YOUR LIFE ON EARTH IS OVER. By the way don't worry your pretty little head about weather or not I am disabled, if I don't feel like having a 40 hour a week job it is my decision not the government. We still live in a free country right????????

NO- WE DO NOT LIVE IN A FREE COUNTRY. I DO, BUT YOU DO NOT LIVE IN THE US, YOU TRADED ALL OF THE US'S WONDERFUL FREEDOMS JUST SO THAT YOU WON'T HAVE TO SUPPORT YOUR OWN CHILD.

Originally Posted by Unregistered NO- WE DO NOT LIVE IN A FREE COUNTRY. I DO, BUT YOU DO NOT LIVE IN THE US, YOU TRADED ALL OF THE US'S WONDERFUL FREEDOMS JUST SO THAT YOU WON'T HAVE TO SUPPORT YOUR OWN CHILD.

Last time I checked Costa Rica was still a free country so you are wrong again!!!!

Just a little update on the situation. I had a phone hiring with a Magistrate yesterday and it looks like the support amount will be lowered. I don't think he is going to lower it enough for me though. How can I get him to be realistic and lower it to an amount that I can afford to pay? I am sure that my daughter could use the money however small the amount is. Like they say every little bit helps.

If you can show and document your true situation and limited funds, and it looks like that is real and not an attempt to evade your obligations, they may indeed lower it.

[Xena]

Originally Posted by Unregistered I am sure that my daughter could use the money however small the amount is. Like they say every little bit helps.

That's true, every little bit helps. How much have you been paying?
Have you been paying any amount on a regular basis?
If you have been paying something on a regular basis and have documentation of exactly why you can't pay more than you have been (ie; medical records, etc) the magistrate can take those things into consideration when deciding what amount to order.
The main thing is that you shouldn't let what a court does prevent you from paying some support, no matter how small the payments are, because as you say, your daughter could use the money no matter how little it is.