Request for support reduction

Originally Posted by Xena That's true, every little bit helps. How much have you been paying? Have you been paying any amount on a regular basis? If you have been paying something on a regular basis and have documentation of exactly why you can't pay more than you have been (ie; medical records, etc) the magistrate can take those things into consideration when deciding what amount to order. The main thing is that you shouldn't let what a court does prevent you from paying some support, no matter how small the payments are, because as you say, your daughter could use the money no matter how little it is.

The part everyone seems to miss here is that I can't pay anything without being in the US. I have no job here and its illegal for anyone to hire me without citizenship or residency. So I don't pay anything right now but I fled the US because they wouldn't compromise and let me pay only what I could. They insisted that I could pay more and if I didn't pay I would be incarcerated . Now I can't get it straightened out and my daughter is the one who gets the raw end of the deal.

I have been reading your messages and I can't believe how irresponsible you truly are! How is your world so beautiful without your child? Beauty is not weather, nor city! It seems to me that you are very comfortable living in Costa Rica without laying eyes on your child. A person like that doesn't deserve to be a father. You have let this back build for so long that your basically trapped. Unfortunaltely, your parents haveto pick up the tab. Do you lay down all day in the soft silky sand, without hearing your child laugh? Or do you congratulate her when she gets an amazing report card? Most people think it's all about the money, when 100% of the time, its about how much you love your child? When was the last time you bought her a pair of shoes? Or cough medicine. Children don't care about bills, all they want is to be loved. You should be thanking your parents that they even offered to pay your debts. And lastly I'm sure the courts will accept any kind of payments coming from you.

Originally Posted by Unregistered The part everyone seems to miss here is that I can't pay anything without being in the US. I have no job here and its illegal for anyone to hire me without citizenship or residency. So I don't pay anything right now but I fled the US because they wouldn't compromise and let me pay only what I could. They insisted that I could pay more and if I didn't pay I would be incarcerated . Now I can't get it straightened out and my daughter is the one who gets the raw end of the deal.

I don't understand, how are you living now if you are unable to get a job there?

Someone must be paying for your shelter, food, medical, clothing, etc. If you can get those things paid for, then maybe whoever is paying for you would also send something to the US as at least a small CS payment. Your daughter is also entitled to have shelter, food, medical, clothing, etc, and from what I gather of your posts, you haven't paid ANYTHING at all in a long, long time- Shame on you!

Do you want to come back to the US?
If so, are you saying that the only way you're willing to come back is if the court does what you want them to do, rather than what the law says should be done?
If that's what you're saying, you might as well get used to Costa Rica, because no where in the US will a non CS paying father be able to dictate how things are done- it just doesn't work that way.

You mentioned that your parents are willing to pay $300 a month for you, have they been doing that?
I'm sorry, but i just don't understand your reasoning- on one hand you admit that your child needs, or could use some support, no matter how small. But on the other hand, you aren't willing to pay, or have someone else pay even a penny unless you get your way. Doesn't make sense, and as you sdaid, your daughter loses out.

Those dollars amount is alot...that's alot of years missed out on paying and usually if you owe they would recapture your taxes as they did with mine when i missed 1 year of payment which exceeded to 9,000 dollars of 94 (5,000 beginning hospital bill on me!) a difference of interest accrued in one year!!!!! My situation was that I owed child support also during my yearsssssssss of paying until she was 18 of 2004 and owed back child support of 2,000 dollars balance...I sent in 500 dollars every month just to get over for four months and I'm 40 now (started young/in college as well) she's 21 now and in college w/c i'm thankful and blessed she had scholarship for that and graduated! anyways, difference from your balance with that amount accrued because you let ignored and avoid making payments and interest kept building up, I approached and law abide front of the judge if possible if the interest could be stayed...I laid and oath on the book that I have to pay my monthly obligation or interest will arise again..I kept my promise to myself instead~! keeping all the monthly stub payments/bill statements all in a three ring binder still and it would be easier to have when the judge sees that binder that you are consistent and responsible for paying...they might re-consider it, they did with me!. ......I can't believe your parents have to pay for this child, how old are you....it's going to reflect and affect your life and it is already happening that your hiding in a shell, too much of a headache, as might as well get used to live in a sand...parents not going to last any longer ...good luck!