Visitation issues for an older child.

I am desperate for some advice, my daughter is 13 and is involved in activities at school and church now that, of course, she wasn't when younger. Her Dad refuses to compromise when it comes to anything that would cause the need to reschedule, and even if it is an emergency, I have to get into a screaming match with him and his wife (this happened recently when I needed to pick her up 1 hour early). However, he expects me to give in, and I usually do because there is no reason to make it any harder than it already is, when HE wants to pick her up early or keep her longer. This has taken a toll on my daugther emotionally and she hates to even go to visit him. I know she has to, but is there any way to have the visitation changed so that she doesn't have to miss out on so many things that are important to her?

Originally Posted by Unregistered

I am desperate for some advice, my daughter is 13 and is involved in activities at school and church now that, of course, she wasn't when younger. Her Dad refuses to compromise when it comes to anything that would cause the need to reschedule, and even if it is an emergency, I have to get into a screaming match with him and his wife (this happened recently when I needed to pick her up 1 hour early). However, he expects me to give in, and I usually do because there is no reason to make it any harder than it already is, when HE wants to pick her up early or keep her longer. This has taken a toll on my daugther emotionally and she hates to even go to visit him. I know she has to, but is there any way to have the visitation changed so that she doesn't have to miss out on so many things that are important to her?

You can try to go to court and ask that the order be modified. You also do not have to agree to anything that is not in the court order. You can refuse to allow an early pick-up and you can explain to ex that when he is more cooperative, you will be too.