I need to know???

[sharon]

My husband and I got custody of his son in 2001 ( 2 days after we got married) the mother ( they were never married) has moved several times in the last year( Stillwater,OK. Medicine Lodge,KS. Sharon,KS. Windfeild,KS.and now Ponca City,OK in a shelter) and has lived in one shelter after another or with strange men. She refuses to pay her child support ( there is a court order) we have turned her into the child support help services but they have not been able to help because she moves so much. She feels that because my husband said that it wasn't about the money in court that she don't have to pay it but the judge did tell her she has to. We have continued to let her continue to come and get him for visitation because of the court oder,but she has a bad life style(she has told us she smokes MJ.) what do we have to do to protect our son from her life style?? There are times she will not show up to get in for months at a time we just don't know what our legal rights are, I feel that we are to protect him from harm but what does the law say about what we can and can not do? Please help us.....

[pooh_200619]

Okay since you and your husband has the custody there is alot you can do.. First of all if there is a order for visitation then you have to follow it, but if you can prove that she is in arrears and she's living in shelters and with men that is not a safe environment then you can file for change of parenting time and explain your concerns but make sure you have the proof you need to prove that it's a unsafe situation and that you are concerned cause she's going from shelter to shelter and that she's going from home to home and then make sure you keep a notebook of everything then you file the paperwork and you have it made.. that is the best thing that I can tell you..Good Luck...

[missingmyhubby]

Originally Posted by sharon

what do we have to do to protect our son from her life style??

first of all, you are way too involved in this situation, the child is not "our" son, he is your husband's son with his ex. you really need to stop that before it causes your husband a lot of problems should it ever go to court, a judge will not be pleased, and your husband COULD be stripped of custody because you as a stepparent are overstepping your bounds, and getting involved in a situation you have no place being in. this is strictly between YOUR HUSAND AND THE CHILD'S MOTHER.