Been paying for child that's not mine

Although recently divorced, when I was married two children were conceived from that marriage. We separated about a year ago and I have been paying child support for both kids. We have a court agreement that required me to pay $750 for both children. Now through a paternity test I have discovered that one of the children is not mine. My question is, can my ex-wife be made to pay me back all the money I have paid her for the child that isn't mine? Can she be made to pay me back in one lump sum or can I at least not pay anything for the kid that is mine until the amount is even? The thing is is that she knew the whole time that the kid wasn't mine yet she let me take responsibility. Can any legal action be taken against her?

Originally Posted by Unregistered Although recently divorced, when I was married two children were conceived from that marriage. We separated about a year ago and I have been paying child support for both kids. We have a court agreement that required me to pay $750 for both children. Now through a paternity test I have discovered that one of the children is not mine. My question is, can my ex-wife be made to pay me back all the money I have paid her for the child that isn't mine? Can she be made to pay me back in one lump sum or can I at least not pay anything for the kid that is mine until the amount is even? The thing is is that she knew the whole time that the kid wasn't mine yet she let me take responsibility. Can any legal action be taken against her?

I'd look into it most def. Purgery, I think is the word for what she has done...I don't know about how or if she is required to pay you back...but I'd consult with an attorney.
Good Luck!

are you sure your wife can get by? can she afford the two kids? and paying you back? if you make her pay you back you might end up screwing over your kid. and if you raised the other as your own, what did you just stop loving it? dont you want to make sure its ok? maybe stop giving her money and start giving her things the kids need and keep all receipts, i dont know if thats legal but tons of ppl do it here in canada.

Originally Posted by Unregistered are you sure your wife can get by? can she afford the two kids? and paying you back? if you make her pay you back you might end up screwing over your kid. and if you raised the other as your own, what did you just stop loving it? dont you want to make sure its ok? maybe stop giving her money and start giving her things the kids need and keep all receipts, i dont know if thats legal but tons of ppl do it here in canada.

Unfortunatley, in the US (I think he's from there) you can't pay child support by buying things for the child(ren) and keeping the receipts.

WShe can get by, trust me. She inheireted a ton of money. Put it this way, she hasn't worked a day in her life. Her house is paid for and everything else. She doen't need the money. She just wants to make my life miserable because I am finally happy. I didn't stop loving the kid. The thing is I don't even know her or my son. We were in such an on again off again relationship and they were only 1 year old and two months old when we split for good . She has kept me from them for over a year now . She won't let me see them at all. I want to take care of my son but financially I can't afford to take care of a child that isn't mine. I am remarried now and have never been happier and we have a a new baby together. They are my family now and I want to be able to provide for them. I can't do that if I have to give my ex every penny I make (she is also taking me to court for alimony, post separation support, you name it she wants it). She won't stop until she makes my life miserable. That is why I am thinking maybe I should get nasty about all of this. I really just want to move on, but she won't let it go.

Originally Posted by Unregistered WShe can get by, trust me. She inheireted a ton of money. Put it this way, she hasn't worked a day in her life. Her house is paid for and everything else. She doen't need the money. She just wants to make my life miserable because I am finally happy. I didn't stop loving the kid. The thing is I don't even know her or my son. We were in such an on again off again relationship and they were only 1 year old and two months old when we split for good . She has kept me from them for over a year now . She won't let me see them at all. I want to take care of my son but financially I can't afford to take care of a child that isn't mine. I am remarried now and have never been happier and we have a a new baby together. They are my family now and I want to be able to provide for them. I can't do that if I have to give my ex every penny I make (she is also taking me to court for alimony, post separation support, you name it she wants it). She won't stop until she makes my life miserable. That is why I am thinking maybe I should get nasty about all of this. I really just want to move on, but she won't let it go.

I feel your pain. I am in a similar situation and I am not sure the child is mine but I have been caring for it for over 6 years now. I am remarried now and very happy and she cannot stand it. She still lives with her parents and quit her job over 7 months ago and has not worked a day, although she continues to send the child to day care just to get more money for support. I just wish women like this would be made to take responsibility for their children like men are supposed to. What is wrong with her getting a job and supporting the child. If not, then why not give the child to me so I can provide a better home. Regardless of whether this child is mine or not I still love them and only want what is best. I really don't have any advice other than get good legal representation because it sounds like you have a good case. Women surely can be evil and vindictive.