Pregnant women in need of help! asap plz

[cuddlegirl05]

I am almost 7 months pregnant. Me and the ex-boyfriend have been on and off for 2 years. When I found out I was pregnant we was not together and he was all for it and we lived together. We have been off in on since. Now we are not together and he wants to take my son from me when he is born. I told him if he wanted to come over and visit every single day that would be no problem. He didnt like that. He wants to take my son out to his house. He smokes weed and drink almost everyday. I dont want my kid around that. I am breast feeding and really dont want him to have any thing to do with my son. He did or doesnt care that im pregnant he is worried about when he is born hes going to take him pretty much. We fight all the time and I cant hold a conversation with him on the phone. Im 21 years old and this is my first kid. I have no idea what my rights are and what his is! He has another kid that is turning 2 in February! He has only seen his other son 3 times if that. He doesnt pay child support and this is pretty much what he did with his other baby momma when she was pregnant. He wants nothing to do with this kid and now getting on my case about wanting something to do with my son. He could have two more kids out and about that he doesnt know about because two other girls went up to him and said he might be the father but he told them to go away (in different words).

I have alot of questions! If he signs the birth certificate how much custy does he get? If he doesnt show up and sign the birth certificate, what happens? What do I do if he wants to take the newborn baby?

I figured a newborn baby should be with his mother when they are born. Plus I am breast feeding in all. I dont know the law and I need help!! If anyone can help me that would be great!

Originally Posted by cuddlegirl05 I am almost 7 months pregnant. Me and the ex-boyfriend have been on and off for 2 years. When I found out I was pregnant we was not together and he was all for it and we lived together. We have been off in on since. Now we are not together and he wants to take my son from me when he is born. I told him if he wanted to come over and visit every single day that would be no problem. He didnt like that. He wants to take my son out to his house. He smokes weed and drink almost everyday. I dont want my kid around that. I am breast feeding and really dont want him to have any thing to do with my son. He did or doesnt care that im pregnant he is worried about when he is born hes going to take him pretty much. We fight all the time and I cant hold a conversation with him on the phone. Im 21 years old and this is my first kid. I have no idea what my rights are and what his is! He has another kid that is turning 2 in February! He has only seen his other son 3 times if that. He doesnt pay child support and this is pretty much what he did with his other baby momma when she was pregnant. He wants nothing to do with this kid and now getting on my case about wanting something to do with my son. He could have two more kids out and about that he doesnt know about because two other girls went up to him and said he might be the father but he told them to go away (in different words). I have alot of questions! If he signs the birth certificate how much custy does he get? If he doesnt show up and sign the birth certificate, what happens? What do I do if he wants to take the newborn baby? I figured a newborn baby should be with his mother when they are born. Plus I am breast feeding in all. I dont know the law and I need help!! If anyone can help me that would be great!

It will be up to you whether or not the father "signs the BC" (which is signing an acknowledgment of paternity).

However, once the baby is born, the father has the legal right to file with the court for some form of custody and visitation, whikle you have the right to file for CS. From that point on, you will not be able to dictate custody or visitation, the laws/court will.

The father will be able to get a court order for some custody (but usually not full residential custody). He will also be able to get a court order for visitation, and breat feeding is not a legal reason to prevent the father from having visitation.

You are young, and admit that you don't know the laws, the best advice anyone can give you is for you to get a consult with an attorney in your area to find out what steps you should take.

[Thomas Paine]

I read your user name: Cuddlegirl05, then I started read your question and I knew the whole story before I finished it. I knew you are young because of your name, cuddlegirl, then I figured that 05 was when you graduated high school. Then I knew you had sex with a boyfriend and not a husband. I knew that you were desperate for help because you were asking this question online.

Anyway, when you give birth, file an order for support and put the fathers name as the father and no one else. Then file an order for child support with the Department of child support services. They will handle everything for you for free. Just give them as much information about the father as possible.

The father will not get full custody of the child. You will, and you will get a court order for him to pay you. If he has other kids, he probably has other court orders the same. If he is not paying, it will just keep adding up and they will find him, trust me, they will find him. It may not be as soon as you wish but they will. Plus, they are added interest fees to the bill.

Legally that is the best thing you can do. As far as all the other issues of visitation. That will be addresses at the court hearing, when one is scheduled.

File for emergency benefits with the department of social services to get support and help with medical bills and pre-birth care. This is of course, if you have no medical insurance.

Feel free to ask me question.