Will I get back our 2 grandchildren from foster care?

[mummy6]

they were taken from my daughter 2 weeks ago cos her ex pedo boyfriend kept on going to her house now i have to have a assessment to be there fosters? how long can this take? as were just waiting and what will i have to do and i have 4 children of mine living at home but i do have a room thanks

[sandyclaus]

Originally Posted by mummy6 they were taken from my daughter 2 weeks ago cos her ex pedo boyfriend kept on going to her house now i have to have a assessment to be there fosters? how long can this take? as were just waiting and what will i have to do and i have 4 children of mine living at home but i do have a room thanks

The courts will have to evaluate your fitness and ability to take care of these children. Simply being a blood relative is not a guarantee that you will be approved.

The courts will need to review your home situation, do a background check on you and all members of your household, and determine whether or not being placed with you would be in the best interest of the child.

[mummy6]

how long can it take?there only 2 and 3 and messing with there heads?

[sandyclaus]

Originally Posted by mummy6 how long can it take?there only 2 and 3 and messing with there heads?

You want them to do a thorough job, right? How would you feel if you were another parent whose kids were going to be placed with someone else? Be patient. It takes as long as it takes.

[mummy6]

and its like neverending

[mummy6]

they are my grandchildren tho so if im not good enough they just aswell take my children?

[sandyclaus]

Originally Posted by mummy6 and its like neverending

Originally Posted by mummy6 they are my grandchildren tho so if im not good enough they just aswell take my children?

Oh, come on now. Just because they are your grandchildren does not guarantee that you are the best option for their living arrangements. Who knows what issues you may have in your family, your household, your background?

These aren't YOUR children. No one has to have a background check to have their own children. That would be silly - because I know a heck of a lot of parents who should NEVER have had kids. No one ever questions their fitness as parents until there's a problem, and by then, it's usually too late - the damage is done.

And of course they are not going to take YOUR kids away - unless, of course, there is an issue with your own parenting that falls under neglect or abuse. That is also silly.

It will take just as long as it needs to. These things cannot be rushed. It's not unheard of to have it take weeks or months sometimes, depending on the situation.

[Friend In Court]

As a family member you would have dibs on having the children -- once the state is satisfied with their assessment. Bureaucracies can grind excessively slow, unfortunately.

You need to make it known to their caseworker that the children are more than welcome in your home and you can provide for them. Having a family member have custody of the children is a better option than making them wards of the state -- putting them in foster homes which in some cases can cost the state $1,000 a month or more per child.

What you need to do is contact a family law attorney to file a petition for guardianship of the children. This will make it clear that you wish to have them, and not the state. The state then would become party to the action and the court will make the final decision.

[mummy6]

thankyou for that sounds better than the other person on here yes i want them to do a good job but some people are fogetting there our family and we have feelings and so do thous children and there feeling very mixed up and if they were with me there would have been none of that cos if my daughters not there im the one to settle them now there going backwards forwards they want them to be like robots now

[mummy6]

yes but they are like my children i have did have really good bonds with thous children as babyies and there still babyies and im a good mum i feed them cloth them love them take them to school on time and do the best i can same goes for my daughter the big probs is the pedo why dont they just lock them up forever then it would be ok yer so right for them to be pasted to srange people all there life