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Old Dec 29th, 2011, 01:04 AM   #1
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Default Court Tips... I will represent myself in court, I cannot afford a lawyer

I am going to represent my self in court simply cause I cannot afford a lawyer. I now know I need to present my case well, Have my facts in order, No extra info and straight and too the point, Try and get my Daughter evaluated as well.

But is there anything I need to know a head of time, Anything I should or should not do, etc..?

Also can I serve her as long as there is a witness or does a third party need to do it?
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Service must be accomplished by an uninterested 3rd party. Hire a process server.

It's hard, but you will come off better showing why you are better, not they are worse.
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I think your making a huge mistake by not getting an attorney but I wish you the best of luck with it.
I will be interested in hearing how things work out for you.
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you can have the sheriffs @ the court serve her with papers. i agree with the other post...let the court know why you should be with your child....let them know what kind of a parent you are and do not focus or bring up what kind of parent the mother is. good luck!
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This is lengthy but assure you worth your read. I just had my final hearing on a 2nd litigation (2 different counties within 5 years) as a pro se litigant. I understand COMPLETELY not having the financial means to retain an attorney. Here's my insight... the first case he brought on in Atlanta. He hired a big shot attorney...i was just a single mom supporting my girl. I spent two years studying, researching, learning the laws of the court, etc. Prepping for a custody hearing is one of the most emotional things you will endure. Few things: make sure you get your forms right. Cert of service, verification, subpoena duces tecum, discovery, etc. Anything you send her, attach cert of service and me personally, I sent a copy to myself (which did not open). My first case lasted 2 horrific years of hearings and 30 day, 60 day, etc. Took a toll. If you were never married, before you do ANYTHING...you MUST legitimate your girl. Otherwise the court will tell you to go pound sand. (you need to do this regardless)

My final hearing lasted 2 days...I won. And won big. I have had primary custody of my 10yro daughter since the day she was born. HOWEVER, here is where the system sucks... 2nd case brought on in lil ol hillbilly elbow bumpin snub chub judges and their butt sniffin followers town.

Her father has zero interest in her life. Since our intial order 3 years ago, he has received THREE felonies and is on THIRTY CONSECUTIVE YEARS of probation. One of his probation terms are that he "Must maintain no less that 40 hours of work per week". March of this year he filed a complaint against me to modify child support due to UNEMPLOYMENT. Clearly it must take a rocket scientist to put two and two together that at that point he has just certified through the courts that he is in violation of probation. As a PRO SE litigant, again, I take well care of my girl but I do NOT have the money for an attorney...pro se, I filed my response which has been impressive to most readers. I clearly stated the facts, provided certified copies of his probation terms and a few other tidbits like my girl BEGGING me through tears for 2 years to not "make her go". "Daddy looks at porn while in bed, dad doesn't give me my inhaler when i'm having an asthma attach, dad pushes me away when I tell him I love him, I heard dad and his girlfriend having sex mommy and it was disgusting, dad lies to me all the time, dad hates you mom, dad takes my battery out of my cell phone (that MOM provides) and tells me my phone doesn't work so i can't call you, dad will not let me tell you any where we go or who we hang out with, i'm not allowed to tell you anyones name..."

THE LIST GOES ON....he NEVER calls her, does NOT speak to me at all, will not attend any of her functions or events because I am there or because "he has to work" (remember, he filed for modification due to unemployment)...he has NO interest in her. He lives with his parents, she does not have a room, still sleeps in bed with him (she's almost 11...inappropriate)...he's a 3x convicted felon...

I am her room mother for her 5th grade class...I am EXTREMELY involved with her every day life. I do not do drugs, don't drink, don't have men in and out of her life, have ONE disorderly conduct charge but that is it. She is my everything and I am hers.
I present all of this to the judge and guardian ad litem as a PRO SE LITIGANT (round 2)....I find out on CHRISTMAS DAY (yea, last week) that he is now her primary custodian, i get her now 6 days a month and have to pay HIM child support. I have not slept or stopped crying since. Hands down the worst christmas and day of my life.

I can not tell you what to do...but all I will say is that the system is SHADY!! In my case, I was unable to PAY for justice and as a result, everything both my daughter and I have known for over a decade is destroyed. There are so many blatent lies in the final order that i PROVED THRU EVIDENCE in court and nothing is reflected. Not one concern of mine or my daughter's was reflected. The GAL knowingly committed perjury as well. That's AFTER she got high and drunk with a buddy of mine's attorney and started sharing info from both of our cases. It's so unbelievably disheartening to know someone can come into your life for a mere THIRTY DAYS and determine the outcome of your future. The GAL spoke to me ONCE. I sent her 60+ videos of my daughter BEGGING, bawling her eyes out...she spoke to my daughter TWICE. That is it. She spun and twisted every single thing we both said to make me look unstable....not unfit...unstable. Yet her report states what a lovely home I have and yada yada blah****. It baffles me because there's this precious little life crying out for help to the ONLY people who can truly control it...and they fail her and I BOTH MISERABLY. So, I am literally selling the furniture beneath me to get enough money for an attorney to appeal my case. Kicker, there's a time crunch. So, if i don't pull the $ out of my bum, my girl is screwed. Really makes your nose curl at the "justice system".

My point is this...if you absolutely HAVE to go pro se...know your SH*T. Make 3 copies of all of your evidence. (copy for you, opposing party and court) Have it labeled "exhibit 1, etc" Familiarize yourself with what grounds you can object to because if she has an attorney...you'll get screwed. ANYTHING that remotely sounds like "he said, she said, i was told by, they said that..." HERESAY. Practice. Create your timeline in advance and lead the witness by your prepared questions, in the direction YOU want her to go. Yes, you want a copy of the transcript. Tell em to put it on your bill. In some cases, a judge will be more lenient with a pro se litigant and without helping..guide them but just the same, they can get pissed off at you in a new york minute coming in "THEIR COURTROOM" (beats chest) unprepared.

I would love to vomit over all the forms and crud I have so you can spend your research time learning the laws of your court.

I wish you the best. I say with tears in my eyes...they truly got the BEST of me.

Find me anyone out there who can watch/listen to this and tell me justice was served. This is my daughter getting in the truck after being with her dad for the weekend. Stay tuned for the 9 minutes because it will break your heart. But I work a norm job and have norm bills so I can't afford an attorney so guess who really suffers....

HAD A LINK TO VIDEO BUT NOT SURE THEY WOULD POST MY RESPONSE WITH IT.



Braylan having an emotional breakdown discussing life at her dad's house.
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