Alienating child from the father, coaching child

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I have been experiencing for many years after my divorce several issues. The childrens mother is continually alienating me from my children. I have two days off which I have scheduled to see my children ages 12(girl) and Boy age 14. The mother is now telling my daughter that she does not have to come to my home for visits. My daughter has been coached not to follow rules in my house and talks back every time she visits with us. She then calls her mother to come pick her up when she is told by me or my wife that her tone and disrespect will not be tolerated. When I ask her mother why my daughter does not want to visit, she says she doesn't have to if she does not want to. This is very painful for me! My daughter has stated to me she is old enough now to not take my attitude. ( She has recently had problems in school, and has few friends because of her attitude) created by her Mother. Her mother also argues with me on the phone and allows my daughter to hear her reaction which is very Histrionic in nature. I have no problems with my son at this time. I could go on and on! Any ideas?

You can ask the judge to warn her and even give specific orders not to say anything negative or risk sanctions.