Is it possible for me to guarantee father does not get Rights?

Originally Posted by Unregistered They will issue a paternity test then basically it goes Im from there. Custody and child support are 2 diff courts. So just talk to a lawyer near you and get the help you need.

Oh yes let's keep the child away from the father. He's good enough to pay child support but not good enough to be in the child's life? All you women want is money money money, if you want to raise the child by yourself, do it, withOUT his money.

Originally Posted by Unregistered Wow. You people are rude. If you don't like her question don't comment simple as that!

Take your own advice.

Originally Posted by Unregistered Oh yes let's keep the child away from the father. He's good enough to pay child support but not good enough to be in the child's life? All you women want is money money money, if you want to raise the child by yourself, do it, withOUT his money.

You seem to keep conveniently forgetting that child support does not nearly cover half of the expense of financially raising and supporting a child.

Further, you harp about women wanting money, but think about this. A typical father pays $150 per week in child support (many pay that per month!). That adds up to $7800 per year. That is WELL below poverty level for the recipient of the money.

Next time you think all women are greedy for money for the sake of money, do the math. You'll see your bitter - albeit skewed - logic is very flawed.

And further, grow up and stop making this more about the father than his responsibility to his child. You keep saying "if you want to raise the child alone, do it without his money". But the child deserves to be financially supported or do you disagree with that too?

$7800 isn't enough for an adult to live on. How far do you think it goes trying to raise a child? Put on your thinking cap for once in your life and stop being so childish.

To all of you jumping down this womans throat because she slept with the guy, grow the heck up. I'm in same situation and I wholy believed that it would all work out in the end, and now I'm stuck with the realization of after being with my childs father for two years that he was severely mentally and emotionally abusive to me. If it wasn't for my child I probably would have kept putting up with it, but when you become a mother you start thinking more about your child than yourself. And now my perspective is that if he treated me that way, even in good times, how would he treat our child? So to all of you people judging something you probably know nothing about, hope that karma doesn't come around so you can feel the pain of what you talk down about.

Originally Posted by Unregistered You seem to keep conveniently forgetting that child support does not nearly cover half of the expense of financially raising and supporting a child. Further, you harp about women wanting money, but think about this. A typical father pays $150 per week in child support (many pay that per month!). That adds up to $7800 per year. That is WELL below poverty level for the recipient of the money. Next time you think all women are greedy for money for the sake of money, do the math. You'll see your bitter - albeit skewed - logic is very flawed.

The figure of $150 per week is about average. Most men pay a whole hell of a lot less than that, but you also have to realize that a child's financial well being is the responsibility of BOTH "parents" not just the one paying support. The custodial parent (male or female) should not be living on support alone because as you said that is well below poverty level. If the custodial parent is doing this then they are just robbing their kids of a decent life.

People look at these boards and think that all mothers are out to "ruin" the father of their child. I don't know much about the legal issues surrounding support matters, but I would hope that the women that are trying to make life a living hell for the fathers of these kids are the minority not the majority.

You both laid down together, then you should shoulder the responsibility of raising that child together.

The one thing that I don't agree on is support and visitation being two separate things. I know that is how it works but if I had any kids, no matter how much I disliked my ex I would still let him and the child have a relationship and not interfere with the bond between a parent and child. Holding visits "hostage" because of support issues doesn't hurt the non-custodial parent it only hurts the child. And my hope is that all kids, when they are old enough, sees through all the bull**** and chooses for themselves their opinion of their parents.

Using kids to get back at someone for something they did or said or didn't do is wrong on so many levels!!!

Just to clarify for the poster above me, child support and child custody are two separate legal matters brought before family court.

The reason for this is the very reason you point out. So that custodial parents do not hold the children hostage from the non-custodial parent. Sadly, it happens regardless of the court's intervention.

Originally Posted by Unregistered Just to clarify for the poster above me, child support and child custody are two separate legal matters brought before family court. The reason for this is the very reason you point out. So that custodial parents do not hold the children hostage from the non-custodial parent. Sadly, it happens regardless of the court's intervention.

Thank you for clarifying that point for me!! Sometimes my words don't make any sense. I think it is interesting that those of us that don't have kids or are not in these situations know that they are two different matters all together but the men and women who it pertains to don't!

Originally Posted by Unregistered Thank you for clarifying that point for me!! Sometimes my words don't make any sense. I think it is interesting that those of us that don't have kids or are not in these situations know that they are two different matters all together but the men and women who it pertains to don't!

Good point.

I suspect they are very much well aware, but choose to play by their own rules. This, of course, makes one wonder why they waste court time obtaining court orders in the first place.

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It's very disturbing that all these women (and yes I'm female) feel it's with in our right to keep children from their fathers. My boyfriend and I are in the process of trying to find his child as the mother keeps moving without letting him know, and when she can be tracked down will with hold visits because he hasn't called. He pays his child support, and even if he couldn't should still be able to see his child. If women weren't interested in the money, the custody would be 50/50. One week with one parent one week with the other. We need to stop this barbaric custom of keeping men from their children.