Scared: My mother is extremely abusive when she loses her temper

I live in Utah, and i'm in a bad situation. My mother is extremely abusive, when she loses her temper she reacts by screaming about how worthless, cruel, and selfish i am. As well as doing anything from holding me over my kitchen sink by my throat and ending up black from chin to collarbone three inches across, to throwing a box so hard at me that i had a three inch gash across my throat where the corner snagged on my skin. I've been smacked, slapped, punched, kicked, and stepped on; its reached a point where its becoming a really big problem for me. I'm 16 with a birthday in july and i'm getting desprite for a way out. I also have extremely high functioning aspergers syndrome, it doesn't affect my judgement but it affects me socially. she uses that to hurt me by intentionally picking things relating to my lack of social interaction or how i'm different than everyone else. I've tried talking to the administration at my school, the school police officer, a cps worker, and today i talked to a social worker to see what i can do to get out of the situation.
I need advice about how to handle the situation in such a way that I can get out of the harmful situation, without her deeming me mentally incompetant and making me stay.
please help?

Where is your father in all this?

It's hard to believe all the people you have reported this to have done nothing. That is just appalling. They have the duty to investigate child abuse and neglect. Clearly, if you have injury marks and bruises, this would raise a red flag for some adult in authority.

Call social services!

I know this person, and have plenty I could add to the situation as I have been trying to help her get out for well over a month. Her mother has been extremely manipulative and tends to try and twist things to the point where any calls made to any authority ends up pointing at her daughter. As for the last reply, the DCFS has been involved and the social worker that looked at the case ignored what was reported and directly said to her and apparently insisted on there being a "lack of communication." That only aggravates me to no end. As for the father mentioned in by the second post, he abandoned her family when she was young, and discontinued any contact. On my own notes to add to the situation, her aspergers is next to nonexistent as far as it affecting her goes. Only her mother apparently can see it as well as her "councilor," of whom I'm sure her mother has manipulated to a point of seeing only what the mother says. No one else sees it. On another bit toward her supposed lack of a social life, she's well known as an outgoing person and many people consider her their friend. That's just a point that her mother has caused her to think badly of herself on. Currently her mother is being careful about leaving marks from physical abuse, and as such there is very little visible to mark that. If she should be able to be removed from the situation, which is looking doubtful given the sheer amount of human incompetence I have watched, her mother has caused the vast majority of her family to think of the daughter as a horrible child that shouldn't be taken in. I know of three houses that want to help and are safe places out of harms way. Hopefully what I have added will make it easier to reach a more attainable solution to the problem at hand.

[Lexus]

If the facts are true it is really shocking! How can a mother treat her child like this? Any way you are entitled to protection from the abuse /neglect. Did the authorities to whom you have complained take any legal action for your protection? It seems that they have not considered your complaint in a proper manner. It is a crime for adults to abuse children in their care and the term adult includes parents, foster parents, legal guardians, family members& baby –sitters. Many states use hot line numbers for complaining child abuse. You can also complain to the state or county department that handles human services or children’s issue. If in emergent situation you can seek the help of police. Law compels a wide range of people who have contact with children to report suspected child abuse. They include doctors, nurses teachers, social workers, child care providers. Even neighbors or family members can report suspected child abuse. Laws of most states give protection to those who report abuse from defamation suits by accused parents if the report is made in good faith. You have to seek the help of concerned authorities ASAP.

Originally Posted by Unregistered I know this person, and have plenty I could add to the situation as I have been trying to help her get out for well over a month.

If you know her, why are you wasting your time on a computer when you could be out there finding someone that will help this child? We cant come through the screen and help her. Go to the authorities, keep going,don't stop until SOMEONE listens. Police, Police Chief, TV station, governor, etc.

Because of my aspergers, no one is taking the situation seriously. The police thought i was dramatizing my story so that i could get my mother in trouble. The social worker i talked to isn't going to do much at all, she's talking to my sister sometime next week. The family situation within my house is basically my three siblings and my mother against me. The three of them ridicule me for my mental state, and even though they don't have the abuse upon themselves they'll stop at nothing to make the situation by making up lies that anger my mother further.
My father left about 7 years ago, and has absolutely nothing to do with me or my siblings. My uncles and grandparents have witnessed the abuse both verbally and physically to some degree, and because of my mothr's natural demeanor, they're scared to help me without facing her wrath. she's not one to forgive anyone for any kind of mistake.
Goind to cps was a mistake, they're not doing anything to make the situation better but rather make it worse. they're convinced, because of my mother's opinion, that i'm socially advanced as a twelve year old. if you talk to any of my friends or teachers they'll tell you that isn't true on any level
As of this moment my mother is being very careful not to leave marks and play her part as the 'genuinely concerned parent who's fearful for her daughters position, and has no idea why there are social workers involved.' she knows the consequences of her actions and will do anything to cover thm up

[sap377236]

Posting here will not get the obvious immediate help that is needed for the situation; your local law enforcement has obligation to at least investigate the claim that is made, don't stop, keep reporting until something is done.....

[hinaheartless]

Wow that's exactly how my "mom" treats me. I'm 21 unfortunatley so there's not **** I can do. I called social services when she hit me with a pot they did nothing. Said the same thing they said to you. She kept trying to call me "autistic" or retarded but yeh know what that means she's ****in jealous cuz people like me and not her. Seems like the same situation for you. I know I'm not autistic I'm just adhd she had me drugged to lethal points as a kid as soon as I got with my fiance who's been my friend since we were 6 and stopped takin meds she threw me out. You are so lucky you realize this while ur a minor cuz if she hits u and u hit back she will get in trouble. So let her smack u around enough that you have serious marks an punch her in the face. don't break bones be careful. Call authorities as soon as u can cuz if they see you hit back with control then they will be less likelyto believe you have any social problem because kids withautism do not hit back when a parent hurts them. They will believe that the parent is right. I know this because when she did have me doped up I had the mindset of an autistic kid. But yeh now will somone give me some advice what I can do at 21 dealin wit the same sort of situation except with a decent parent and a control freak skizo drunk for a mother? We will note I am adopted my whole fam is bikers metalheads musicuans and tatt artists. I'm still dealin wit my so called parents tryjng to make me into miss proper snob princess. And I am a transgender and bi to boot : P so that should be a fun prob to figure out : x

[sandyclaus]

Originally Posted by hinaheartless Wow that's exactly how my "mom" treats me. I'm 21 unfortunatley so there's not **** I can do. I called social services when she hit me with a pot they did nothing. Said the same thing they said to you. She kept trying to call me "autistic" or retarded but yeh know what that means she's ****in jealous cuz people like me and not her. Seems like the same situation for you. I know I'm not autistic I'm just adhd she had me drugged to lethal points as a kid as soon as I got with my fiance who's been my friend since we were 6 and stopped takin meds she threw me out. You are so lucky you realize this while ur a minor cuz if she hits u and u hit back she will get in trouble. So let her smack u around enough that you have serious marks an punch her in the face. don't break bones be careful. Call authorities as soon as u can cuz if they see you hit back with control then they will be less likelyto believe you have any social problem because kids withautism do not hit back when a parent hurts them. They will believe that the parent is right. I know this because when she did have me doped up I had the mindset of an autistic kid. But yeh now will somone give me some advice what I can do at 21 dealin wit the same sort of situation except with a decent parent and a control freak skizo drunk for a mother? We will note I am adopted my whole fam is bikers metalheads musicuans and tatt artists. I'm still dealin wit my so called parents tryjng to make me into miss proper snob princess. And I am a transgender and bi to boot : P so that should be a fun prob to figure out : x

Out of curiosity, what were these drugs that you've been prescribed with and why do you refuse to take them? What is the specific condition that your mom is claiming you have that warrants the need for these medications?

As far as advice is concerned, you are 21 years old. If things are that bad at home, perhaps it's time for you to move out on your own so that you can live your life as you choose. There is truth to the claim that as long as you live under your parents' roof, you have to live by their rules. If you live on your own, you get to make your OWN choices.