signing rights over: what would be the next step?

[rowebabi26]

my boyfriend wants to sigh his rights over. his ex girl friend just had his son but he didnt sign the birth certificate because he's not sure if its his. he wasn't involved with her during her pregnancy either. now she keeps harassing him and trying to force the child on him and he doesn't want anything to do with her because she starts too much drama......(its a long story) he wants to sign his rights over but we don't know how to. what would be his next step?

Originally Posted by rowebabi26 my boyfriend wants to sigh his rights over. his ex girl friend just had his son but he didnt sign the birth certificate because he's not sure if its his. he wasn't involved with her during her pregnancy either. now she keeps harassing him and trying to force the child on him and he doesn't want anything to do with her because she starts too much drama......(its a long story) he wants to sign his rights over but we don't know how to. what would be his next step?

he needs to establish paternity first( untill he does he doesnt have a child) and mom needs a hsuband willing to adopt( if she doesnt he cant terminate his rights). if she was that bad he shouldnt have laid down and had unprotected sex with her. and btw, there will never be a WE when it comes to this child theres only your bf and the child's mother.this or any matter concerning the child is legally none of your business. you are a legal stranger here with no rights say or standing.

[rowebabi26]

we are getting married so im sure it does concern me expecially when she putting me in it

There is no "we" even if you're married. I've read enough on legal forums to know even stepparents are considered legal strangers to a child. You'd have no rights. Your boyfriend has to pay child support for at least 18 years if she takes him to court for it (which she should), and he can't sign over rights until mom marries a man willing to adopt this child.

Again, that's just what I read on legal forums because I'm dealing with child custody myself.

Originally Posted by rowebabi26 we are getting married so im sure it does concern me expecially when she putting me in it

legally no this doesnt concern you. this is not your child.and itll cause dad problems. you have absolutely NO say in this at all.

[rowebabi26]

whats the next step for HIM??????? im trying to help him out.

Unless the mother of the child has a husband willing to adopt the baby, your boyfriend just can't sign his rights away. That can't be done unless someone else is going to adopt the child. So you and your boyfriend are looking at visitation occasionally and child support every month.
And YES it does concern you if you are with him. Don't let the "legal stranger" crap on here bother you. It's a word that most like to throw around when they don't know what to say.

[rowebabi26]

thanks =) but he doesn't want visitation...i don't understand him but will stand by whatever he decides. his name is not on the birth certificate and i found out last night that she's going to new mexico. which is kinda a relief for everyone. but she is saying that a guy that is in jail for 25 yrs is going to be the father. which if that is what she wants then ok but does that count for someone trying to adopt him? my boyfriend just wants the drama to stop. she makes up lies and start crap. she doesn't know how to grow up....

[Prodoggie]

Actually, in Texas a TPR can be done - if both parents are willing - WITHOUT a stepparent adoption taking place. Texas is one of the few states which allows this. Of course, paternity must be established first.

I strongly suggest OP's boyfriend speaks with an attorney in Texas.

Guys, we really need to stop doing the "you can't do a TPR without a stepparent adoption" routine answer thing. Because it's not always correct.

Y'know?

[rowebabi26]

thanks. i live in texas so that helps. and everyone else i know is telling me that he can sign his rights over. but idk if she's willing. she keeps harassing both of us now. but she still hasn't mentioned child support. so he wants to sign his rights over does she have to say ok? or since she keeps doing all this and saying that someone else is going to b the dad then is that already consent. and since he didn't sign any papers or birth certificate can she do anything to him yet without proving the child is his? because if the prove it is then can he sign his rights over?