Please Help - Father wrongfully accused of child molestation

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I have two children (6, 10) from a previous marriage and have custody every other weekend as well as a few hours twice a week. I am now happily married to a wonderful woman, live in AZ, and we have twin toddlers together. My ex-wife will stop at nothing to get my kids taken away from me. I was recently served papers that included a Post-Decree Temporary Order Without Notice for Modification of Parenting Time. The documentation states that my 6 year old son was overheard telling his older cousin that “his father likes it when he tickles his pee pee and likes it better when I lick it”, which is an absolute and ridiculous lie and fabrication. According to the documentation, my son was taken to the police station (twice) and questioned (twice), where he stated that nothing happened; therefore the police could not press any charges against me. According to the Court Order, I cannot speak to or see my kids until the Resolution Management Conference hearing scheduled in a month. My question is this: do I have any rights in this complete fabrication? It seems that the courts have already accused me of being guilty without even my knowledge. Also, will I need an attorney for the hearing? One other thing to add – my son apparently said this on June 7th and I was served the papers on July 1st. During the rest of June, I had my kids as normal and even went on a family vacation to the Grand Canyon. Isn’t that strange that a “concerned” mother would allow her children to spend time with this “child molester” of a father for almost an entire month before serving him? By the way, I have no criminal record and have been nothing but a loyal and loving father to all my children. Any assistance would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

I would get a lawyer to blast her and prove this all is fabricated--and then file criminal charges against her for falsifying the record.

That is truly outrageous to have her fighting this battle that way.

And yes that month long period is strange.

Your story is a good example of why ex parte motions need to be abolished. They allow women to be even more spiteful and vindictive than usual with their sick lies, and the court allows these atrocities. No person should ever be accused without the benefit of being able to defend accusations. That is what America was founded on. The right to due process.

Originally Posted by Unregistered I would get a lawyer to blast her and prove this all is fabricated--and then file criminal charges against her for falsifying the record. That is truly outrageous to have her fighting this battle that way. And yes that month long period is strange.

I agree with this advice. Hire an attorney and sue her for slander and filing a false report. She should be jailed. Her mind is warped.

I would get a lawyer ASAP and fight this. It sounds like you have all your facts, unfortunately you are at the mercy of the courts timeline. Your lawyer may be able to move things up but let him or her deal with that.

I agree that once this is proven untrue ask the courts to impose a penalty against her for making false accusations against you. I would even consider custody but talk to your lawyer.

One thing to keep in mind and it may not apply to your case, if a parent truly believes there is abuse they have an obligation to protect their child even if it is from the other parent. The courts acted quickly in a manner that would offer the quickest protection for the child until the matter could be resolved. I don't agree with any parent making false claims and those parents should not be allowed to be primary parents but there are occasions that children need to be protected. I understand this is not the case but if it was reversed and your child said your ex was sexually abusing him wouldn't you file immediate legal action?

I think the courts should move this case up and resolve it quickly to allow you to prove your innocence and have your child again. Get a lawyer and fight for your child. Protect him from any threat including a vindictive ex. Good luck!

My boyfriend is almost in the same situation, he has two children (boy 7, girl 9) his ex wife lives with and is now married to a registered sex offender (he was 28 and had multiple sexual accounts with a 14yr old girl which ended up getting her pregnant). So far the state, probation, social services and the courts do not see a problem with this as she is a stay at home mother and my boyfriend works. He's been trying to get placement for about 2yrs now (maybe 3) and it's not going well. The system has allowed the "ex" to be this sex offender's chaperone so that he would be allowed to be with the two kids. She has been caught letting the sex offender towel dry the girl, drink alcohol, and take the kids to Mc Donalds playland with out her present. She lost her chaperone privileges for a short period of time after my boyfriend found out about the violations and called the probation agent and then was given them back. Probation says that they can't search their home for alcohol or any of the other items on the sex offenders list of things he's not supposed to have because he has rights and they aren't allowed to. Recently, the son was found to have a skin condition in his privates area and now the "ex" is trying to get people to believe that the father is the one doing the inappropriate touching. The fight over this has just begun. I feel for your situation and wish you the best, being a semi-outsider to what is going on with my boyfriend's situation, I think any parent (mother or father) that would falsely accuse the other of something so haynes shouldn't be allowed to see the kids except supervised visitations. It makes me sick to my stomach to hear/read/think that a parent who is supposed to look out for what is best for their children would make up such lies about something like this, condition the children to lie to everyone about what is really going on to other people (guidance counselors, social workers, GALs and any other official that are supposed to be there to help keep children safe from sexual abuse) and still go to bed at night not thinking that they are a bad person. How can someone do that?

I am also a father wrongfully accussed of this horrible crime and have found our justice system chooses to find us guilty no matter what we say even lawyers try to get you to plea out,,,, my advise is proclaim you innocense and fight with all you are and no matter what happens hold on to the fact your innocent cuz lord knows there will be plenty to say your guilty no matter what evidence or witnesses to say your not they dont care bout that just the fact they can say they got the sex offender off the street and hide the fact your innocent,, i know im going thru and have been 3 years and face life in prison for a crime not only i didnt do but would never even consider doing
Sincerly,
A Father About To lose his freedom and family in Texas

Men lose in family court. It's strange, since men usually preside over these cases. But judges see dollar signs instead of humans.

Women are evil. Period.

From some of the research I have been doing I would say that you really need to find an attorney that specializes in these cases. I have been researching about the Falsely Accused because I have created on Facebook a page called "Support for the Falsely Accused". I started this page originally because of someone that I know of that has gone through being falsely accused by his childs mother. His case was dismissed with prejudice almost 3 years ago, and he is now trying to get visitation with his daughter. Well if it wasnt enough all the hell he went through for years to prove his innocence, now the mom has taken to Facebook and run him in the ground on the web. She has gone so far as to post pictures of his home, told of the town he lives in, and put his AND her childs full name on ther internet(as well as her own). She is gaining an incredibly large following on Facebook, & this is the reason I originally started this page. However, since I've been researching, this has become a site for ALL wrongly accused to tell their stories.
From what I have read it sounds like you have a long road ahead of you, and there will be many that will condemn you right off the bat. I am sorry to say that, but this is just what I have read.
To you and all those that are truly innocent, my heart goes out to you & your families!

I would just like to say I live in canada and because of my laws here my father, who did do some thing. walks free. show the courts that you under stand that they are trying to protect and your father can do a lie decetor test or he can see a mental health employee to confirm he is not a unstable mind.