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[iwilloveu4ever]

hello to everyone

this is my situation
my daughters mom, and her nanny and other daughter came over to my place the other night without my premission and intered in my place and took our daughter without my premission.
As i stood up the mother went over the child guard , followed by the daughter and the nanny and begin to run down the street with our daughter. we have no court custody just yet but we do have a date with the jugde on the 15 of dec.2009
is this kidnapping and if not what can i do r file to show the jugde of her endangering our daughter when clearly she knows i was bring her back the next evening

please help a single father of 2 other kids in which i take care daily
ps we have no MONEY for a lawer just want to be to see my daughter without her taking her from my house. now my kids are afraid of her.
help us please

[Gbyte]

If you weren't married - there is no custody papers - and she didn't break into your home, no you can do nothing much at this time. You may not be able to "afford" an attorney, but I'd recommend you'd find one that takes payments or see if there are legal aid options in your area.

I don't know what your circumstance is...but if my daughters father had her prior to our court order and refused to give her back at the mutually agreed upon time I'd do the same thing. Actually...I did. He filed for emergency visitation (and was denied due to it being 4 times greater than our prior agreed upon schedule). Now it may have been your agreed upon time....either way, you need an emergency custody/visitation order.

I would file for emergency custody and have a restraining order placed on her, the daughter, and the nanny.

You did not have to allow her into your home, or allow her to take your child out from under you. You had every right to call the police and have her removed.

I would ask for full custody and supervised visitation for the mom wherein she is not allowed to take the child from your home.

The baby does not need to be put through such dramatic circumstances where in she's taken from her sleep/bed and her mother running down the street with her like that. That's a clear show of instability and lack of concern for her daughter on the mother's part.

For the court date consideration, I would file for emergency custody and I would have also contacted the police for no other reason than to have a record of what she did just prior to her court date.

[Gbyte]

BULL crap. I don't know the specifics...but if a parent without legal custody is keeping a child from a parent WITH legal custody - she does have a right to grab the child and run if need be as the police won't help a mother with sole custody. Far from showing a lack of concern...I think it shows great concern to take a risk like that to retrieve a child. It shows to that in order for this mother to excercise her rights she had to in essense "kidnap" the child back (when he/she should be in her legal custody anyway). I think it shows that the father is not willing to allow a relationship between the child and mother for her to go to such lenghts to see her child.

Again...not enough detail in the original post. So...I apologize in advance if this is not your situation original poster - but with lack of detail...it's what could be "assumed" (we know that's not always reliable!!).

But get to the courts and good luck to you! Whether my assumptions are right or wrong - I hope you and your babies mother are able to come to a peaceful resolution someday!

There isn't even any assumption that the father was doing anything wrong nor was there anything that was mentioned that alluded to any provocation whatsoever for the mother's actions. It can also be assumed that she was simply being vindictive and childish, but of course some women posters here believe that can't possibly be it, because all mothers are saints according to them.

Anyone who reads into it and assumes the original poster was doing something to the child that justified the mother's actions is only serving to reveal their own damaged psyche.

Originally Posted by Gbyte BULL crap. I don't know the specifics...but if a parent without legal custody is keeping a child from a parent WITH legal custody - she does have a right to grab the child and run if need be as the police won't help a mother with sole custody. Far from showing a lack of concern...I think it shows great concern to take a risk like that to retrieve a child. It shows to that in order for this mother to excercise her rights she had to in essense "kidnap" the child back (when he/she should be in her legal custody anyway). I think it shows that the father is not willing to allow a relationship between the child and mother for her to go to such lenghts to see her child. Again...not enough detail in the original post. So...I apologize in advance if this is not your situation original poster - but with lack of detail...it's what could be "assumed" (we know that's not always reliable!!). But get to the courts and good luck to you! Whether my assumptions are right or wrong - I hope you and your babies mother are able to come to a peaceful resolution someday!

You say BULLCRAP, then go into your anti men rant, THEN apologize if you have the story wrong? How are you even allowed to post on here? Get back on your meds!!

"Bull crap"... Is that your professional opinion?

I agree with the last poster. And also, where did OP say he was keeping the child away from her mom? Lots of assumptions and irresponsible "advice" for not knowing all the facts.

The mother was not within her rights to do what she did. Had they been living together, that would have been a different story, but she came to HIS house with backup in tow, and forcefully removed the child.

The OP CAN do something about it. He can file for ex parte emergency custody of the child and he can also ask for supervised visitation for the mother.