my sons dad is threatening to take him

Missouri
I had a son w. A guy from a different country (bahamas) The guy wanted me to get an abortion and I wouldn't do it. The whole time I was carrying, he would cuss me out and harrass me. After the baby was born we didn't talk and he kept asking 4 a dna test.he isn't on the birth certificate. He then didn't wanta dna test and we talked on the phone, I sent him pictures and were getting along. I set up a date 4 him to come see his son. He didn't show up, and has since told me that I should have gotten an abortion and now wantsa dna test again. He also has sent me text messages calling me names and other abusive things.He has since decided he wants to take me to court and get full custody of my son. Does he have a case and should I be worried.I know if he takes my son to bahamas I will never see him again.

He can do absolutely nothing, as, right now, he has no established parental rights. It is not even determined whether the child is his.

If he was abusive before, he'll be abusive again, as he's made evident.

Do nothing. Let him get an attorney and seek a paternity test. If he actually follows through on his threat, that is. Other than that, never, ever let him near your child until and unless he's been legally proven to be the father and custody and child support have been established.

Should you be worried? Only if you agree to any of his demands. Right now, he has no rights whatsoever to even see the child, let alone be able to gain full custody, which he won't do even if he is proven to be the father. This is his battle to fight alone. Don't help him.

Originally Posted by Unregistered He can do absolutely nothing, as, right now, he has no established parental rights. It is not even determined whether the child is his. If he was abusive before, he'll be abusive again, as he's made evident. Do nothing. Let him get an attorney and seek a paternity test. If he actually follows through on his threat, that is. Other than that, never, ever let him near your child until and unless he's been legally proven to be the father and custody and child support have been established. Should you be worried? Only if you agree to any of his demands. Right now, he has no rights whatsoever to even see the child, let alone be able to gain full custody, which he won't do even if he is proven to be the father. This is his battle to fight alone. Don't help him.

Follow the advice above, do nothing. You hold all the cards...keep all the messages he has sent you

Please anyone, everyone w. Any advice- I can use as much as possible. Will it matter that dad makes more money than I do, or anything like that. I have a professional job I have held for a full year. He is now making up lies about me like I have a criminal record for drug distribution which is crazy! Please just assure me that he cannot come and take my son-he is not on the birth certificate. Please help!

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He cannot just come and take him. Especially due to his name not even on birth cert...don't answer you phone when he calls. He would have to hire an attorney in the US to even get long distance parenting rights (a couple of months in the summer). He can't take your child out of the country without a passport - passport requires both signatures.

Ignore him, ignore his threats. He's just trying to get a rise out of you. Don't talk to him. Don't play his game. If an attorney contacts you...then you contact an attorney. Do NOT deal or talk to this man (or any attorney he hires) directly. You have nothing to fear if you ignore him. Don't let others pass messages to you either.

Income doesn't matter.

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Can you as a mother legally keep the child away from the paternal father.

Yes, You can, for MANY reasons:
1) the father is abusive, physically or mentally to mother &/or child
2) the father is rarely, if ever around
3) the father never signed the child's' birth certificate, even if the child was given his last name
4) the father has never or rarely has provided any kind of financial support to care for the child

The birth certificate being signed or not is a big deal because in a lot of ways, it still puts the father in control of things. Since your sons father never bothered to sign the birth certificate he can not legally leave the country with him, if he wanted to because he hasn't claimed your son as his on paper. It's all about documentation when it comes to the court system.
Ignore him, ignore his threats. Try to record every conversation.