fathers visitation rights

I have a 5mth old and im going through DHR to get child support.The father has not paid me anything since hes been born.Hes constantly bothering me saying he should be able 2 see him.I dont trust him with my son at all,cuz hes threatened to hit me at least 5 times and he has a drug record so hes still on probation.Please write me back and let me know what u think....

the father will be able to see your child, at first, if you can prove the drug usage, they will probably make him do supervised visits.

[missingmyhubby]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

I have a 5mth old and im going through DHR to get child support.The father has not paid me anything since hes been born.Hes constantly bothering me saying he should be able 2 see him.I dont trust him with my son at all,cuz hes threatened to hit me at least 5 times and he has a drug record so hes still on probation.Please write me back and let me know what u think....

untill there is an order for cs, he doesnt have to pay you anything. nor do you have to allow him to see the child untill he gets an order for visitation, then you wont have a choice but to let him see the child. you chose him to have a child with, you should have thought of that before you created a child with him. he will get some kind of visitation, its his child too

I know exactly what you are going through my son is now 14 months old his "sperm donor" came to the hospital when he was thirty hours old and never seen him again. I was married to this man and he threatened me with a crow bar. We were divorced only five days before my son was born or I would have had to put his name on the birth certificate, but I was told since his name is not on the bc that even though I have filed for support that does NOT give him any rights he has to fight for any rights he wants and if he has a court record his chances will be very slim. My son's father has a record a mile long drugs, rape, etc. Don't offer anything to him in writing or otherwise.I have been dealing with the I wants whenever he feels like he can get control again, but don't worry about anything. He will have to get an attorney and fight for rights. I will pray for your situation and belive that it will go according to God's will. God Bless you and yours. Smile God will watch over and protect his children. I hope this helps calm your fears.

Originally Posted by missingmyhubby

untill there is an order for cs, he doesnt have to pay you anything. nor do you have to allow him to see the child untill he gets an order for visitation, then you wont have a choice but to let him see the child. you chose him to have a child with, you should have thought of that before you created a child with him. he will get some kind of visitation, its his child too

These types of comments have no place on this forum. People come here concerned looking for assistance, and you do not need to condemn their past decisions that have led them here.


If you feel the child is in danger, retrieve the father's criminal record, present it to the judge in court, and you have a 99% chance of him getting supervised visitation only. Good luck.

well a little harshness is not going to hurt anyone. we want to see opinions here too you know


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[missingmyhubby]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

These types of comments have no place on this forum. People come here concerned looking for assistance, and you do not need to condemn their past decisions that have led them here.


If you feel the child is in danger, retrieve the father's criminal record, present it to the judge in court, and you have a 99% chance of him getting supervised visitation only. Good luck.

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Originally Posted by missingmyhubby

untill there is an order for cs, he doesnt have to pay you anything. nor do you have to allow him to see the child untill he gets an order for visitation, then you wont have a choice but to let him see the child. you chose him to have a child with, you should have thought of that before you created a child with him. he will get some kind of visitation, its his child too

Who are you? Dr. Phil? I have read many of these cases concerning parents who have made choices and now are scared and worried for both themselves and their children and all you can do is stick the knife in and twist it some more. I don't understand people like you. Let me guess, you've never made a mistake or had lack of judgement in your entire life!

I thought her input was very good frankly--you can take it or leave it but she can give her opinion. That is what the poster wanted.

9fathers shouldnt be penalized the rest of their lives for making bad choices and picking the wrong parnter to have offspring with! There are no rights in this country for the man! Why is it fair that a man should have to pay child support each month but still he has to go back to court, get a lawyer and pay thousand of dollars that he doesnt have in order to see his child? This is ridiculous! I guess you think this is some angry man that resents to pay child support! Guess again! I am the wife of a man who has not been able to see his child for 5 years! His ex is so jealous of our relationship that she stopped letting him see his son when we started dating, for no good reason. She only decided to file for child support after finding out that we had a child together. My husbands son is now 10 years old and has been advised by one lawyer that going through all of the troulble of visitation now (paternity of the child was just established, they were not married and he had doubts that the child was his) would be a big waste because according to the law when a child turns 12 he can decide that he doesnt want to go with his father for visitation and there is nothing that my husband could do about it. So for all of you mothers that are laying back and ALLOWING yourself to get pregnant year after year and collecting child support just to ruin the mans life, I hope you all get what you deserve and that is to never find a good man!