fathers visitation rights

[missingmyhubby]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

These types of comments have no place on this forum. People come here concerned looking for assistance, and you do not need to condemn their past decisions that have led them here.


If you feel the child is in danger, retrieve the father's criminal record, present it to the judge in court, and you have a 99% chance of him getting supervised visitation only. Good luck.

she knew all this and still chose to lay down and concieve a child with him. she doesnt get to decide now after the fact that hes not good parent material

[missingmyhubby]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

because according to the law when a child turns 12 he can decide that he doesnt want to go with his father for visitation and there is nothing that my husband could do about it.

wrong. children can make that decison at age 18, not 12. at 12, they can tell a judge where they want to live, but they dont get to decide, nor do they decide not to see the op

Originally Posted by Unregistered

9fathers shouldnt be penalized the rest of their lives for making bad choices and picking the wrong parnter to have offspring with! There are no rights in this country for the man! Why is it fair that a man should have to pay child support each month but still he has to go back to court, get a lawyer and pay thousand of dollars that he doesnt have in order to see his child? This is ridiculous! I guess you think this is some angry man that resents to pay child support!

I agree my partner has only been allowed 1 visit to his child in the past 6 months and that ended in tears when he gave her a gift as she was leaving and she showed it to her mom. He pays everything and more for his daughter and all he gets in return is abuse. He adores his daughter and I'm sure there are many more like him out there. You need to remember its not always the man but the extremely bitter exes who cant get on with their own lives

My ex husband cheated on me knocked up this women then decided not to deal with our kids for 6 years. then decided that since they were happy and calling my husband daddy that it was time for him to have his visitation rights. He can never say anything nice about me to my kids and they get in trouble for calling my husband daddy. I do not have any pity for any parent who mom/dad that does that. All the pour pity me you took my kids from me BLAH BLAH BLAH!!! You have your rights be a real daddy and step to the plate in the beginning not later when someone else has showed them the love and attention they need. By the way he is over 20 grand behind in support only pays when he feels like it and has never been told by anyone that he couldn't have his visitation.

[momonamission]

As a grandmother of a child that we have not been allowed to see because the mother is being selfish, I think if your child has another parent that can be in it's life, you should let them develope a bond with both parents.
My family has to wait for my son to get off parole before we can even think about getting his parental rights established because the mother has threatened to make faulse allegations against him so he ends up back in prison.
Every child has a right to know both parents and it is selfish for one parent to stand in the way of the other.

Right on!!!! We are in the same boat after the girl hid the kids for 9 years. The law amazes me, giving loose women with 5 kids by 5 different men a big check from each. What an easy living, lay on your back, get a paycheck plus wellfare, and oh yeah free legal assitance!! Women like that make the rest of us look bad.

Originally Posted by Unregistered

Right on!!!! We are in the same boat after the girl hid the kids for 9 years. The law amazes me, giving loose women with 5 kids by 5 different men a big check from each. What an easy living, lay on your back, get a paycheck plus wellfare, and oh yeah free legal assitance!! Women like that make the rest of us look bad.

You know women like that give mothers who are actually trying a bad name. You shouldn't criticize all women with children with different fathers cause they are not all the same!!! Not all of us do get welfare and free legal assistance nor do we get any child support!!! It is not all that black and white. You probably have no idea how things REALLY are. After all he is YOUR son your baby that does no wrong. Some men are deadbeats who only pretend to care that they have not seen their children when they are threatened with jail time and support being taken from their checks. At the same time I do agree that there are women out there who do use and abuse.

In what state or is this a federal law on a child turning 12 he can decide whether or not to have visitation?

Originally Posted by Unregistered

9fathers shouldnt be penalized the rest of their lives for making bad choices and picking the wrong parnter to have offspring with! There are no rights in this country for the man! Why is it fair that a man should have to pay child support each month but still he has to go back to court, get a lawyer and pay thousand of dollars that he doesnt have in order to see his child? This is ridiculous! I guess you think this is some angry man that resents to pay child support! Guess again! I am the wife of a man who has not been able to see his child for 5 years! His ex is so jealous of our relationship that she stopped letting him see his son when we started dating, for no good reason. She only decided to file for child support after finding out that we had a child together. My husbands son is now 10 years old and has been advised by one lawyer that going through all of the troulble of visitation now (paternity of the child was just established, they were not married and he had doubts that the child was his) would be a big waste because according to the law when a child turns 12 he can decide that he doesnt want to go with his father for visitation and there is nothing that my husband could do about it. So for all of you mothers that are laying back and ALLOWING yourself to get pregnant year after year and collecting child support just to ruin the mans life, I hope you all get what you deserve and that is to never find a good man!

Originally Posted by momonamission

As a grandmother of a child that we have not been allowed to see because the mother is being selfish, I think if your child has another parent that can be in it's life, you should let them develope a bond with both parents.
My family has to wait for my son to get off parole before we can even think about getting his parental rights established because the mother has threatened to make faulse allegations against him so he ends up back in prison.
Every child has a right to know both parents and it is selfish for one parent to stand in the way of the other.

Well good luck on your son even getting any rights after parole.Even if it is false allegations, to get sent to prison with EVIDENCE holding up in court, your son obviously did something wrong.

I am in a position where my son's father has now been served, so decides to give a flying fcuk and wants visitation. He is not going to get any kind of custody whatsoever. Ignored and evaded for the past 8 years. To bring the biological loser of a person he is into a young boy's life at 7-8 years old, you want to talk about lifetime long psychological damages? I am considered his dad/father/daddy. So ruin all that? Good one on the parent that trys to get back in your childs life that you left years ago just because YOU are ready to take it on NOW. You think the parent left behind with the child was ready? You thought life was tough back then you abandoned them. Go burn in hell.

Originally Posted by Unregistered

In what state or is this a federal law on a child turning 12 he can decide whether or not to have visitation?

in no state is a child allowed to decide they are not going to visit the op. if there is a court order for visitation, the child has to go, or the cp can face legal sanctions, up to and including being stripped of custody.anyone under the age of 18 is legally considered a child, and not capable by law of making the decision of visitation or where they want to live. thats up to the judge to decide, not the child.