Felon trying to gain rights to be involved parent

Situation is this: convicted felon (including drugs and an array of other charges) who had done complete time is now going through a divorce. The mother of the two children (9 & 11) is effectively keeping the children away from the father and is keeping them in a drug dealer's house while providing only minimal parenting support. The children have been left by her for a few weeks over the summer. She came back, took them and now they are often unsupervised and are not allowed to see their father. The mother is reactive to any suggestions about him seeing the kids and is using them to proceed through the divorce with her own well-being in mind. He, on the other hand, has adapted to a life where he could accept them in his life full-time and is paying child-support while the divorce is proceeding through the courts.

Her past actions indicate that she will stop at nothing (including daily harassment and calling the cops) if he continues to make attempts to have parental visits or rights. He is living a clean life, but doesn't want to have any police harassment added to his already challenging situation. He feels there is no solution where he gets to be an influence on their lives. Yet, he cannot find it within himself to just let them be in another unsupportive and unhealthy environment after another.

Please help if you can. These children need the support and love of both parents. They have been through enough already and don't need to be the pawns in her war to prove her control over the situation.

He needs to hire an attorney pronto. This is a typical scenario. He has rights to his own children. Advise him to contact a good attorney.

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Originally Posted by Unregistered This is a typical scenario.

nonsense.

But yes, he'll need an attorney.

If it weren't typical, the Family Court would not be clogged with cases just like this one.

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Which is a VERY small percentage of all parenting situations. I think one statistic I read said only 15% of custody cases are ultimately decided by a judge. I don't remember if that was 15% of all custody cases - or just contested. Ultimately most custody cases are agreed upon between the parties even if initially contested and most of them don't contain one parent as a felon and one living with a drug dealer. I'd like to see your stats that this type of case is what the courts are clogged with.

Saying that is "typical" is some more "typical" bull that gets posted on this site.

That is why this very forum on this very topic are rife with these types of scenarios. Because they occur so infrequently. If just one forum is replete with these types of situations, imagine what is going on in this big, wide world.

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instead of "rife", you should have put "rare".

No, I meant rife. Please consult a dictionary for what that word means.

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Rife: prevalent especially to an increasing degree

So...since again the boards are not "rife" with a father being a convicted felon and the mother living with a drug dealer, I again believe you should have used the word "rare".

These are very ignorant claims you are making.

Actually, what was meant was, it's typical for parents to be at war with each other over whether or not one parent has more "rights' than the other.

If a poster wants to be here simply for attention grabbing tactics, so be it. It doesn't change facts.