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me and my girlfiend of 3 and a half have just broken up she has a five year old and the guy i sasically just a donner they have never met , i have been there since he was 22 months old and i am the only father he know and her and both agree and love this i pay her a 100 a week to do mt part and call myself dad, but know only a couple of week in she is makihg all of the deisions ,she is oneway and selfisf.. i am all readt getting a hard time about a family camping trip,, because i want him to miss a few days of summer school. does that money that i pay every week.. what are my rights we have a verbal agreement and she gets pist when talk about getting it in writting i dont want to lose my son to her mood swing, what cuold i do or what is the write thin to do

why don't you post in the morning when you are sober.

You dont have a son, she does...you have no legal rights to the child, and your verbal agreement is worthless in court.

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You could adopt the son if she and the father allow it and file for visitation. Other than that, you may have to accept that you could have to fade out of the childs life or take a smaller role in the future.

Originally Posted by Unregistered me and my girlfiend of 3 and a half have just broken up she has a five year old and the guy i sasically just a donner they have never met , i have been there since he was 22 months old and i am the only father he know and her and both agree and love this i pay her a 100 a week to do mt part and call myself dad, but know only a couple of week in she is makihg all of the deisions ,she is oneway and selfisf.. i am all readt getting a hard time about a family camping trip,, because i want him to miss a few days of summer school. does that money that i pay every week.. what are my rights we have a verbal agreement and she gets pist when talk about getting it in writting i dont want to lose my son to her mood swing, what cuold i do or what is the write thin to do

you and your ex need to stop allowing the child to call you dad- you are NOT his father in any way, and it will cause your ex problems should the FATHER take it to court. she could end up losing custody for allowing her son to call a legal stranger( and thats exactly what you are) dad.

Originally Posted by Gbyte You could adopt the son if she and the father allow it and file for visitation. Other than that, you may have to accept that you could have to fade out of the childs life or take a smaller role in the future.

he and mom would have to get married first, be married at least a year, and dad would have to consent to the adoption. dont see that happening, though

You have no legal right to the child, regardless of the established relationship you have. This is one of the heartbreaking aspects of getting involved with a person who has children. You get attached, form a bond, and then you break up with the child's mother/father, and you cannot see the child anymore.

Unfortunately, there is really nothing you can do. Verbal agreement will not hold up in a court of law. You are not the child's biological, or even legal, father. Its a sad situation, my heart goes out to you.